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The real winner in life is not a "win-win", but a "win-win"; not a win for a while, but a lifetime.
At the end of the Han Dynasty, the four-year-old Kong Rong ate pears with his brothers and sisters, and he took the initiative to choose the youngest one and left the eldest to his brothers and sisters, thus leaving behind the ancient reputation of "melting four years old, making pears".
During the Three Kingdoms period, Kong Rong was on an errand under Cao Cao. After Yuan Shao was destroyed by Cao Cao, the woman of the Yuan family, Zhen Shi, became Cao Pi's lover, causing Cao Cao to be somewhat unhappy.
Kong Rong wrote to Cao Cao, saying, "The King of Wu cut down the sword and gave himself a reward to the Duke of Zhou. Later, Kong Rong expressed dissatisfaction with Cao Cao's prohibition of alcohol and the promotion of filial piety, so he was harmed. Doing things "should not be tolerated" makes a person's ending very bad.
Seriously think about it, how many things in this life of a person need to let go? If you can't let it, you will fall into the quagmire and drill into the tip of the bull's horn.
The ancients said: "Only the water can become a sea under the good, and the mountain does not compete for the height of the heavens." ”
Lower your posture and take the initiative to let go to the side, looking like you are instigated, but the pattern is big, and you can always win to the end.
02
Give way, the heart is wide and the road is wide.
Zeng Guofan, the minister of the late Qing Dynasty, said: "Let people be humane all your life, and never lose inch." ”
When a person is rich and powerful, and mixed like a fish, you must think about it, there are many people who cannot eat well; when they are on their toes, they must immediately reflect, be proud and complacent, and overflow when they are too full; when they are weak, they should be "wronged for a while", as long as they live well, they will have the opportunity to change their destiny in the next day.
If you don't leave a path for others, then once you fall into a trough, there is no way out.
Once, Zeng Guofan was sitting in a small car, and in the alley of the capital, he met an official of lower status. The alley is too small to accommodate two palanquins passing side by side. The other party scolded when he opened his mouth, and Zeng Guofan did not say a word.
After the other party scolded a few times, Zeng Guofan opened the curtain and asked the sedan to give way. The other party saw Zeng Guofan's face and quickly apologized.
Therefore, when the officials in the capital traveled, they always remembered to explain to the car driver: "Be careful of the palanquin of Lord Zeng." ”
Let others walk, their own regression, but thus won the reputation and respect, their own life, with a "heart road".
In life, we often encounter such a situation: on a very narrow highway, when you encounter a savage driver, if you don't let it go, the other party will be angry. If you let go, the other party will go away, but you can also pass smoothly.
In the workplace, everyone is going up, and everyone wants to become a boss. However, the number of supervisors is limited. You should let go and work hard to improve your ability, not try to fight. Your ability is the golden signboard.
Heaven and earth are very wide, but we often "don't give in", resulting in a dead end step by step. Go back and you'll be able to embrace the whole world, so why not?
03
Let the sages retreat into progress.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, Sun Shu'ao and Shen Yinzhi were good friends, and they both liked to read and traveled to study in The Chu Kingdom.
After several years of hard work, neither of them was reused. Shen Yinzhi said: "I am good at catering to the world, it is better that I study in Yingdu, you go home and go to farm." ”
After five years of lobbying, Shen Yin finally attracted the attention of King Zhuang of Chu and wanted to appoint him as Ling Yin. He refused, saying: "Sun Shu'ao is the most suitable candidate, and his ability is much stronger than mine." ”
Later, Sun Shu'ao became Ling Yin. Witnessed what Mencius said - Sun Shu'ao lifted up to the sea.
There is a way that the person who knows the times is Junjie.
According to the actual situation, friends, colleagues, and family members can find their own position and complete each other's position, and they can work together. Over time, families, units, and careers will prosper.
A friend of mine, Old Zhou, works at a public institution. At the age of fifty, he became the head of the unit, but within two years he took the initiative to retreat to the second line. He said that the unit is not large, and if it does not give way, young people will not have the opportunity to improve and cannot get exercise.
Later, Lao Zhou retired. After my son graduated from college, he couldn't find a job for a while and a half, so he made a phone call to the boss of the original unit, and the job was settled. Later, Lao Zhou's son was also admitted to work in the system.
Believe that the people you have helped will remember your kindness and will one day feed back.
You take the initiative to let xian, not limited ability, but to give others the opportunity, you can also leave a hardest "emotional card".
If you recommend Maxima, you are Bó Lè. Why not do such a good thing?
04
Mutual concessions, life is calm.
There is a six-foot alley in Tongcheng, Anhui Province, leaving behind the ancient famous sentence "A book from a thousand miles is only for the wall, let him be three feet and why bother".
Between neighbors, they all give way, and everyone can walk well. If everyone builds a high wall and treats each other as "thieves", the living space is small, and they cannot get the care of their neighbors.
There is a message on the "Lu Net": a little boy accompanied by his mother crossed the zebra crossing.
The driver, Chen Jianwei, took the initiative to stop the bus and let the mother and son pass. As the boy walked across the zebra crossing, he bowed to the driver in gratitude.
After this matter was known to everyone, they gave the boy a thumbs up.
The driver said: "At that time, I waved my hand to let the mother and child pass first, and I didn't expect that the boy was so enthusiastic, which was a good education." ”
Because of courtesy, there are always too many emotions around us. There is no obstacle in the world that cannot be passed, where there is hatred that cannot be put down, but each other is unwilling to give in, resulting in a higher and higher heart.
In fact, when you take the initiative to give in, the other party will also react quickly and express their intention to give in. When we understand this truth, then we can stand firm anywhere and be a good person.
05
To be a man, you should let go, and you have to give up.
Of course, the original intention of concessions is to move forward, for the harmony of society, not to "aid and abett" abuse.
When you meet those evil villains, you need to argue and teach each other the lessons they deserve. Otherwise, there will be no tranquility in society.
According to the actual situation, making a decision to give in or not to give in is the wisdom of being a person and a step to promote the development of life. Give way to grace, give way to level.
In society, people have a high level, and most people think that rich and powerful people are high-level people. In fact, this is not the case, the real high-level people will lower themselves, in line with the principle of "low water is the sea, low people are king".
From now on, take the initiative to let go, the heavens and the earth are wide.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.