According to media reports, recently, in Xinyang, Henan, an old man forgot his child in the same place when he rode his child to school. According to the child's mother, Ms. He, when grandpa waited for the child to get on the car, the child rode away before grandpa could get on the car. Ms. He then noticed the child walking forward and learned that Grandpa had forgotten to take the child. When he caught up, Grandpa was still unaware of it, and only found out after being reminded.
In recent years, because of the negligence of parents, the news of children's physical and mental harm has emerged endlessly, and these "Ma Daha" parents, some of them forgot to take their children when shopping and driving, and some locked their children in the car alone on high temperature days. So, what harm will the parent's "Ma Daha" behavior cause to the child? And how to avoid becoming a "Ma Daha" parent?
A child in Xinyang, Henan Province, grandfather sent the baby to school and forgot to take the child. Screenshots of the network
The behavior of "Ma Daha" has aroused heated discussion among netizens, and they have left messages to tell their own experiences
After grandpa sent the baby to school and forgot to take the child, it was reported by the media, which caused controversy among netizens. Many netizens left messages in the comment area, some said that because of the negligence of the elderly, it is likely to cause physical and mental harm to the child; some think that the behavior of the elderly is unintentional, it is just carelessness; more netizens leave messages saying that they have also experienced the parents' "Ma Daha" behavior.
Netizen "Li Mengrui" left a message: "I was lost by my mother like this, I got off the car after the red light, my mother rode away at the green light, I chased all the way behind, my mother went all the way forward like the wind, until my mother arrived at the destination only to find that I was not in the back seat." ”
Netizen "Xinxin" said: "When my father drove away, he threw me and my brother away, and thought that we had not been in the car. ”
Netizen "Zhen" complained bitterly: "I also tried, the hand just hitched, asked me if I was okay, I said no, the car left." It took half a day to find it back, and it is estimated that it was found when I returned home. ”
Netizen "Sister Lin" also met the grandfather of "Ma Daha" when she was a child, she said, when she was a child, her grandfather sent her son to school, it rained, and after her grandfather came down to cover a raincoat, he drove away directly, leaving her alone in the rain.
Netizens "slowly reshaped" remembered an encounter with my brother: "My father once sent my brother to school. As a result, my brother drove away before he got in the car, and halfway met my aunt to greet him and ask him what he was doing, he said to send the child, only to find that my brother did not get on the car, and went back to pick him up. ”
Some parents said in the message area that they had just experienced the "Ma Daha" parental behavior: "I only made a similar mistake a few days ago. Hurriedly drove out 200 meters, only to remember that the baby had not yet gotten into the car. ”
In the message area, there are also some parents who leave messages to support the parents of "Ma Daha". Netizen "cat who loves to eat vegetables" said, "When I picked up the child, let him grab my clothes, and felt that someone was dragging me away." ”
Parents: When looking at their children, they should pay attention to their children and reduce distractions
Ms. Ma, who works in Beijing, has a son and a daughter, and when her daughter was three years old, she and her husband took their daughter to the mall, and there was a "Ma Daha" behavior.
"In the mall, all of a sudden the child disappeared, I thought I was gone with my father, my father thought he was with me." Ms. Ma said that when the couple found their daughter, she was crying in the mall.
Ms. Ma said that in the mall, there are many people, and it is easy to see children with "big Maha" behavior, "they all think that the other party is looking at the child."
She was very remorseful about this and paid more attention to going out to take care of her children, but because of her careless nature, she caused her daughter to fall and fall many times.
"I think a lot of parents have seen their children act carelessly." Ms. Ma said that because of the personality and habits of many parents, it is very normal for "Ma Daha" behavior to appear, "doing other things is not careful, and watching children will not be careful."
"Behavior determines habits, habits develop character, and for a long time, I think it is not because of one thing that can be corrected, this aspect is careless, that aspect is committed again." 」
How to avoid "Ma Daha" behavior with children? Ms. Ma believes that first of all, parents who are not attentive should look less at their children, take their children out less, and not go to places with many people. Secondly, when looking at the child, you should focus on the child, reduce distractions, and don't think about other things.
Yan Hong, member of the Expert Steering Committee of the China Family Education Society and deputy director of the kindergarten of Tsinghua University. Courtesy of respondents
Experts: Carelessness cannot be a reason for parents to neglect to protect their children's safety
"Due to the limited self-protection awareness and self-protection ability of minors, the primary responsibility of parents is to protect the safety of their children, but there are hidden dangers that the parents of 'Ma Daha' have been sloppy and not in place for the safety protection of their children." Yan Hong, a member of the Expert Steering Committee of the China Family Education Society and deputy director of the kindergarten at Tsinghua University, has more contact with the parents of children, and after her observation, she found that the parents of "Ma Daha" can be roughly divided into two categories.
One is that parents have a weak awareness of their children's safety protection, and such parents often lose everything in their daily lives, as well as with their children; the other is that although parents attach importance to their children's safety protection, they lack experience and safety hazards have not been effectively eliminated. But in any case, the "Ma Daha" of parents' own affairs and the "Ma Daha" of their children's safety protection are different in nature, and the negative impact caused by them is not comparable.
Yan Hong believes that parents' "Ma Daha" for their own affairs belongs to the problem of living habits and may cause the problem of inefficiency; while the "Ma Daha" of the safety protection of children belongs to the problem of parents' performance of their duties, which may pose a risk to the healthy growth and security of their children.
On January 1, 2022, the Law of the People's Republic of China on the Promotion of Family Education will be formally implemented, the law stipulates that "protecting the legitimate rights and interests of minors" is the educational responsibility of parents, and the right to protection is the basic right of minors, so the law further explicitly requires parents to "pay attention to the mental health of minors, teach them to cherish life, and educate them on safety knowledge in traffic travel, healthy Internet access and anti-bullying, drowning prevention, fraud prevention, trafficking prevention, sexual assault prevention, etc., to help them master safety knowledge and skills. Enhance their awareness and ability to protect themselves".
Yan Hong said: It can be seen from this that "Ma Daha" parents should strengthen their awareness of their children's safety protection and safety education responsibilities, not to be dismissive of safety precautions, and not to have a fluke mentality about some cases of "panic or danger."
"Some parents may say that people are always careless, so some problems cannot be prevented; even so it is not a reason to ignore security protection, let alone the principle of security protection." Yan Hong explained that in the principle of security protection, there is a famous Murphy's law, which says that if there are two or more ways to do something, and one of the choices has a security risk or even leads to a disaster, then someone must make this choice, and danger and disaster will occur.
"Murphy's Law warns people that if things are likely to go bad, no matter how small the probability, it will always happen." She believes that there are rules and procedures for security protection, and if you understand the method and operate according to the procedure, the safety factor will be greatly enhanced.
Yan Hong believes that the elderly in the news ride their bicycles to send their children to school, if the safety operation method and safety inspection procedures for letting children get on the car first, parents and then get on the car, and parents check again before riding, safety can be greatly improved. "It can be seen that strengthening the safety protection of children is not only the responsibility of parents, but also to follow the law of safety protection, and not to be troublesome and ignore the necessary safety protection preparations and necessary safety protection procedures."
Source: Qing Xiaoxiao (ID: zqwqxx) reporter Li Huaxi
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