When two people are together, they are attracted to each other, feel that the other party is pleasing to the eye, can't help but be moved, take action to pursue him, do something to please him, show their best side to each other, and look forward to attracting each other's attention and getting each other's good feelings, which is the common sentiment of people.
No matter what your courtship strategy is, no matter what your attitude towards love is, you really love each other, pursue each other with your heart, and finally be rejected by the other party, your heart must be uncomfortable.
At this time, you still love him deeply, do not want to give up, or will be ashamed and angry, think that he does not know how to appreciate himself, or fall into self-doubt, feel that you are not good enough, not worthy of him, this is not looked at by the other party. It's normal that you feel that way.
The main thing is that not being looked at by the other party, being rejected by the other party, next, what to do? Is it to let go? Or do you insist on not letting go? When you are emotional, you are looked down upon, remember these 4 sentences, I hope to give you some guidance.
1. "The other person has the right not to love you, when respected." ”
You like a guy, want to pursue him, do something to please him, it's your right. You have the right to love, there is also the right not to let go, you can insist on exercising this right, of course, you can also give up this right, after the courtship is rejected, resolutely choose to let go, no longer like him, no longer pursue him.
At the same time, the other party also loves you or does not love your right, the other party has the right to reject you, this is also his freedom, this, you should respect.
"Twisted melon is not sweet", since the other party has chosen to reject you, at this time, you should choose to respect, at least, do not pestering him, do not frequently disturb him, so as not to bring trouble to his life and cause annoyance to the other party.
2. "The other party does not cherish you, it is his loss." ”
You love each other, practice your affection with actions, you are sincerely good to him, but he does not understand your heart, is not willing to accept your love, and refuses your giving.
Or the other party agrees to associate with you, but looks down on you in his heart, often belittles you, says some sarcastic words about you, compares your shortcomings with the strengths of others, embarrasses you, and often does something that hurts your feelings.
At this time, you should understand that the other party "does not cherish you" is his loss. Maybe he feels that you are not important, unwilling to accept your feelings, or promise to be with you, but do not cherish the feelings between you, and finally make you discouraged, have to give up, what you lose, is just a person who does not cherish you, there is nothing to lose, and what he loses is a person who loves himself deeply, he naturally loses more.
3. "If you can't stop, let go." ”
The true feelings for a member of the opposite sex, the value of each other from the heart, and the desire to hold hands with each other to live a life, at this time, you pluck up the courage to pursue him, he will directly reject you.
Or the other party promised to be with you, but in the heart can not look at you, feel that you are not worthy of you, in your emotional life, he always put on a high posture, domineering, treat you as a dispensable existence, do not cherish you at all, often talk to you to break up, do not cherish you, you have also humbly retained him, and he is not willing to return to your side.
At this time, what should you do? Let's save some dignity for ourselves. Since the other party looks down on themselves in this way, there is no need to be together. When it is time to let go, you may be able to meet the opposite sex that is more suitable for you, and get closer and closer to true happiness.
4. "There's a reason the other person can't look at you." ”
The opposite sex gets along, has a good feeling for each other, wants to be with each other, no matter whether the other party directly rejects your courtship, or promises you a courtship, after getting along for a period of time, directly breaks up with you, obviously, he looks down on you and does not want to live with you.
The other party can't look at you, often for a reason.
Or he does not know how to cherish you, has a higher standard of mate selection, etc., she rejects you, the reason is in her, you are often powerless, not to mention that the other party has clearly rejected you, whether it is pestering each other, or annoyed and angry, complaining about each other, it is unwise.
Or you have many deficiencies, lack of responsibility, contaminated with some vices, talk does not count, and other members of the opposite sex are too close, she feels that you are not reliable, can not give her happiness, she is disappointed in you, this is the choice to reject you, choose to leave you. In this regard, you should make a difference, because he can't look at you, the reason is that in yourself, you should change your past, make up for the shortcomings, do something that impresses the other party, and maybe the other party will change his mind. Even if the other party does not give you a chance, you will improve yourself, and you will not repeat the same mistakes in your new relationship.