At an award ceremony, Guo Degang joked about Sha Yi's child Anji, saying: "How do I look so much like my child?" ”
Sha Yi's expression was embarrassed and he started the round field: "Teacher Guo is so unkind, they all say that xiaoyu'er is like Yue Yunpeng, and Anji is like you again, I can't live anymore?" ”
Who wants Guo Degang to say again, "It's okay, this shows that your family is hospitable", not only Hu Ke, who is sitting in the audience, can't suppress his anger, but even the 5-year-old Anji also feels the other party's ill will.
Originally, when he went on stage to receive the award, Anji was overjoyed and turned over his heel, but after being "teased" by Guo Degang, his mood was obviously low, and he did not say more about the award speech.
After the incident, it quickly attracted netizens' criticism of this "funny baby behavior", and everyone said that Lao Guo's "funny baby" was a bit too much.
Many parents have encountered similar situations in life, whenever relatives gather during the New Year's Festival, there will always be some adults who think that they are humorously teasing children, when children are embarrassed because of the so-called "jokes", and even when they are scared to cry, in exchange for their laughter, they do not know that this is a real spiritual harm to the children.
Therefore, as parents, when we find that someone uses these low-level behaviors to "tease the baby", we must stop it in time. Especially in the next New Year's Day, Spring Festival and other large waves of festivals are coming, parents must say "no" to those malicious behaviors, do not worry about face to cause children to be hurt.
First, provoke the relationship between children and parents
"You were picked up in the garbage, and Mom and Dad don't like you at all!"
"Look at Mom and Dad, I don't like you when I have a brother."
Some relatives and friends naturally like to joke, will say some deceptive words in front of the child, and deliberately provoke the relationship between the child and the parents, although they feel very interesting, but it attracts the child's bad association.
The so-called speaker has no heart, the listener is intentional, adults may be able to hear each other's ridicule, and will not pay attention to the heart, but the child can not clearly distinguish, deeply remembered in the heart.
A few years ago, there was a news that a 4-year-old girl took advantage of her parents' lack of attention and threw her brother down the stairs for several months, because a neighbor joked that "Mom and Dad don't want you if they have a brother", and the little girl took the words seriously to the extreme.
Second, use exaggerated statements to intimidate children
I remember that I have brushed such a video on the Internet before, a mother with a 3-year-old child standing in front of the window of the delicatessen, the mother may want to joke with the child to "scare him", so she pointed to the cooked food in the window and said:
"Baby, you see, this is Peppa Pig's nose, next to his mother's, behind his father's, this is his brother's, a family of four have been made into pork head meat." Also, you see this is the pig's trotter of Peppa Pig's mother, which has also been chopped off. ”
In the face of such a "joke" as the mother, the child did not smile at all, but stared at the window with a frightened face.
For the mother, this may be just a casual "joke", but for the child, it may become a childhood shadow that will linger for a lifetime.
Children's world is simple, they are difficult to distinguish between true and false statements in the adult population, and a sentence casually spoken by adults will make children believe in it.
And when children are intimidated by such exaggerations, it is easy to believe that they are frightened, and they are in a negative mood for a long time, and even depression.
Third, tease children to "smoke and drink"
At the dinner table of friends and family, sometimes adults get excited, and they will dip chopsticks in wine to let their children lick it, or let the child try smoking.
However, the child's immunity is low, the body organs are immature, and the forced child to drink alcohol can easily cause alcohol poisoning, which in turn leads to life danger.
For example, in 2015, Panzhihua, a father brought his 2-year-old son to a banquet, during which the father's 3 friends teased the child to drink, and the result was that the child fell asleep after drinking 1 or 2 liquors, and finally died of acute alcohol poisoning, resulting in tragedy.
When cigarettes are burned, they will release many harmful chemicals, including tar, nicotine, carbon monoxide, etc., which will damage the child's throat, trachea, lungs, and will also threaten the child's health.
Fourth, touch the child's private parts
Sometimes some adults will choose to touch the child's private parts to express their love, especially when they meet a little boy, and parents do not think so, choose to acquiesce.
In fact, the child's body is more fragile than we think, the environment that adults come into contact with is complex, and the hands are often contaminated with some bacteria and viruses, and once the child is infected because of such intimate contact, the consequences are often very serious.
And if the child has developed gender awareness, adults also consciously touch the child's private parts, it is likely to cause "hidden harm" to the child, so that the child mistakenly thinks that such behavior is harmless, destroying the child's gender awareness, and it is difficult to protect themselves when they grow up.
Old Miao Conclusion:
From verbal intimidation and deception to behavioral disrespect and teasing, many adults tease children in a very excessive way, which is easy to cause harm to children.
Children are an independent individual, we as parents, should pay attention to observe their feelings, realize that the so-called "teasing" is a kind of harm to them, when found that there is a similar low-level comic behavior must be stopped in time.
Today's topic: Have you ever encountered this kind of "low-level comic baby" situation?
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