With the post-90s generation joining the fertility army, in the raising of children, this generation is more refined, believes in scientific parenting, and shows significant resistance to some traditional parenting concepts.
But too much belief in science will form a new "scientific superstition", not only is it easy to be misled by some pseudoscience cloaked in science, but even miss the baby's great development opportunities.
"Listen to me, my method is the most scientific", the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law because the child urinated conflict, did not expect to think wrong
The child of the colleague Xiao Chen's family is just 14 months old, usually brought by the in-laws, and the couple brings it themselves at night. Xiao Chen usually reads parenting books, and also pays attention to a few parenting masters, and also adds a lot of mother groups to discuss the topic of children when they are fine.
Recently, during the company's lunch break, Xiao Chen asked her colleagues who had given birth to a daughter for advice on the issue of the child's toilet. The reason is that she and her mother-in-law had a disagreement about the child's urination and was a little overwhelmed.
Xiao Chen advocates "new type of urine", which means that from an early age to the child to develop a regular schedule, to time to eat, play, sleep, go to the toilet, so that adults are convenient, children also know what time to do.
This also means that Xiao Chen should establish a correct life schedule for his children from an early age. Other items are good, that is, on the toilet, the mother-in-law did not do it according to her own will, not only did not let the child take the initiative to go to the toilet, but gave the child urine, which made Xiao Chen feel difficult to accept.
Xiao Chen feels that urinating for children is a bad habit of the times, and the harm is not shallow. But in the mother-in-law's view, the child's going to the toilet itself is uncontrollable.
Speaking of urinating, since ancient times, I thought that I had brought up with children, my own son also grew up peeing, maybe the daughter-in-law was also peed, how did it get to the grandson, it didn't work, it became harmful to the child?
Colleagues are also divided into two groups, older female colleagues agree with the mother-in-law, and younger female colleagues approve of Xiao Chen.
When Xiao Chen recently took the child for physical examination, he asked the doctor for advice on this question, and after the doctor listened, he criticized Xiao Chen and his mother-in-law, pointing out that both of these practices are harmful to the child.
Traditional urine vs new type of urine, these risks to the child's physical health, parents should be aware
With the concept of scientific parenting becoming more and more popular, parents now often fall into a misunderstanding, that is, the traditional must be bad, as everyone knows, the new type of urine is sometimes more risky.
[Risk 1]: The new type of urinating will make the child lose the reflex of holding urine
On the surface, the baby is trained to control the child's bowel movements, thinking that the baby can go to the toilet on his own.
In fact, this is just a conditioned reflex, hearing a fixed sound or seeing a fixed action for excretion, rather than excretion according to their own actual needs, so that training immature sphincters in advance can easily lead to insufficient or missing urine reflexes in the baby, relying on external reminders to urinate and defecate.
[Risk 2]: Frequent bedwetting when you grow up
Babies who urinate early are easily fixed when they are young, but they will wet the bed frequently when they grow up. This is because the child will subconsciously hold back in order to go to the toilet at a fixed time.
During the day, the sphincter is always in a tense state, and at night, when it relaxes, it is easy to wet the bed.
Originally the child can go to the toilet on his own, once there is frequent bedwetting, parents will blame the child, increase the child's psychological burden, and aggravate the bedwetting problem.
[Risk 3]: Other possible problems
● Too small a baby, being trained to hold back urine, will increase the risk of urinary tract infection.
● Urinating on the stool for too long can easily cause the risk of prolapse.
● The baby's hip joint is still very fragile, and in the process of handling, it is easy to cause damage to the hip joint without paying attention.
To know if the child can do toilet training, parents should see if the child is ready for these
Time to prepare
When the baby is 2-3 years old, the urethra and sphincters will develop well, laying the foundation for the baby to urinate and urinate independently. Generally speaking, at the age of 2, children can start training children to go to the toilet, premature babies, children with low motor ability, etc., can be appropriately postponed backwards.
Get used to being prepared
The baby's bowel movements have formed their own rules and habits, and when they are about to defecate, they will have their own body language, such as concentration, exertion, and immobility.
Physical preparation
Diapers do not need to be changed frequently, and can remain dry for up to several hours, which indicates that the baby's ability to hold urine has been significantly improved, and he can control his urination.
Intellectually prepared
Your child will be able to follow simple instructions, such as going to your little toilet, bringing the car, etc.
Write at the end
In the process of raising children, some parents are always full of anxiety, my children are not clear, low athletic ability, poor social performance, parent-child reading uncooperative and other problems, always expect children to do better, ahead of other children.