Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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The human heart can very easily change with the different circumstances of the present:
Sometimes there is change because desire inspires the true face of human nature; sometimes it changes because in the face of a particular situation, there is a "dream-like awakening" perception of previous mistakes or right choices.
In the marriage relationship between men and women, we see some people entering middle age, even if life has not been satisfactory since before, but the two people are no longer as unconcerned as before.
There are also some middle-aged people, the pace of life is stable, but men and women can no longer find the feeling of working together before!
The surprise attack of betrayal is the original invincible, and it is also the betrayer's early premeditation.
However, compared with the wealthy families, those who are relatively middle and lower class families will have less chance of betrayal! The reason is nothing more than:
Energy does not allow
Worrying about livelihood has long made people nervous, and there is no time to take care of anything other than survival.
The economy does not allow it
In the current relationship between men and women, no matter what kind of feelings are discussed, there is no way to "please" each other without material. Life is already very tense family, stretched days, I am afraid that I have no heart and no courage.
Confidence does not allow it
At any time, people who are running for life and running for silver and silver can know how many pounds they have. In addition to being grateful that the people in front of you can be with yourself regardless of poverty and wealth, how dare you look at other people of the opposite sex?
However, no matter how the middle-aged people live in the present life, among the many "factors" of betrayal, it is often the betrayer's compensation for a "unbalanced" psychology of himself.
There are many people who have some misunderstandings about betrayal, believing that only on days when there is no money, two people will have frequent conflicts.
But in fact, often the poorer the two people, the easier it is to go to the end. Even if it is a place of chicken feathers, it will warm each other.
And those middle-aged successful people, betraying their feelings, are really fulfilling the words of "keep warm thoughts".
People who eat and wear without worry will think about what kind of way to increase the stimulation of passion for themselves. Betrayal, on the other hand, is more commonly seen in middle-aged people looking for stimulation.
Middle-aged successful people, after betraying their feelings, will have two manifestations of the original match:
One: Give the original a lot of material "compensation", and then combine with the object of betrayal
People's solidified thinking has always believed that money can make up for everything, so many people have moved money into the necessary conditions to measure whether the value of marriage and love is worth choosing.
But it turns out that money not only can't measure whether the marriage choice is worth it, it can't really compensate the people who have been hurt.
Money is earned by people, and you can also buy everything you want through money! Only those who have experienced betrayal, the hurt in their hearts, can never be healed with money!
However, once a person has a small achievement or a great success in middle age, once he betrays the original match, the physical essence that he is used to finding comfort in his heart is material compensation!
Two: Don't give up at home, don't put it outside
Because the original match and himself have worked together, reading "old love", the identity and status of the original match, others will not be easily replaced.
However, it does not mean that the betrayer will not do the thing that betrays the original due because of such nostalgia and gratitude.
In the view of the betrayer, not separated from the original match, but also allowing the original partner to "live in harmony" with himself, which is the best "responsibility" for the original match.
In fact, once the betrayal is formed, regardless of whether the marital relationship continues or not, the betrayer is too perfunctory to the "responsibility" of the original match!
Whose new love is not someone else's old love? How could the person in front of you whom you betrayed not be the white moonlight in the eyes of others? Half-hearted responsibility, how to not let others for the original intention of the difficult to reconcile?
The emotional betrayal of middle-aged successful people is, in the final analysis, nothing more than: they have done their best to be "wifeless" because of "inaction"!
And after people reach middle age, the reason for betrayal really makes the original match pierce his heart and shed tears:
People's mate selection criteria when they are mediocre are probably not standards, because people's choices when they are most "grounded" are based on feelings, so the standards are set for people who don't like them!
There are also some mediocre people who choose the other half because they know how many pounds they have, so they are "impeccable".
Later, as the standard of living rose step by step, the betrayer thought that such an "excellent" person should live like the peak of his ideals. Moreover, the original "no matter how good" is, it is only his former "no choice".
In the past, it was the "best candidate" who chose the big one among the short ones. Nowadays, when I am in a large crowd, the "height" of the original match and myself have a "mismatch" gap.
In the past, there was no choice in doing anything, and people had no choice but to "get a wife", but finally after they "got ahead", they had more choices.
Leaving the original ration of money is a shame in your heart! The original match is not willing to give up, the outside is not put, this is the best account of responsibility!
Horizontal and vertical, are the betrayers because of some achievements fluttering, and find a "match" to compensate for regrets of the next act! No matter how much you are not ashamed, it is just a moral mismatch!
There are many original partners who can't let go after experiencing betrayal, and always ask themselves in their hearts:
Why? Why would he betray me?
In fact, the above is the real reason! There is no why, only a reason for people's lack of self-control of desire and "having a choice" in a good day! Although it is very heartfelt, the original match cannot take the betrayer through the past!
As a result, many original partners will cry after experiencing betrayal: I knew this, I would rather not work with him in the first place, or fail to complete him, and I would not suffer such pain...
Song Siming's wife in "Snail Residence" accompanied Song Siming from a small house of tens of square meters, a person with a baby, a bag of large and small affairs in the family, completely completely completed Song Siming became a nobleman, Mrs. Song is still Mrs. Song, but Song Siming has long become a person who swims between seaweed and his wife in shifts of one three five, two or four six shifts.
If Song Siming had been a prominent figure from the beginning, he would certainly not have chosen Mrs. Song.
For too many middle-aged people who have experienced betrayal, those who are in the same boat with the other half, and the days when they can be inseparable from the other half for a hundred years are simply a beautiful dream that they do not deserve to think.
Life is not easy, marriage is not easy. If people do not understand gratitude, they will easily do things that harm others and harm themselves in good days.
Betrayal is nothing more than to draw out the money that was originally tightly clothed and shrunken on a good day, and buy the "cute", "well-behaved", "simple", "sensible" of the object of betrayal...
Taking off the material robe, the true face of the betrayer, will surely make the betrayer nightmare.
Unfortunately, the betrayer is not willing to escape the drive of desire and recognize the true face of the object of betrayal!
Unfortunately, in the face of the original match, the betrayer always has endless "complaints" as a reason for his betrayal.
In the end, I just want to advise the original match:
You can be in the same boat with someone, but never forget to leave yourself blank!
Once you have experienced betrayal, do not cry twice and hang yourself three times. You have to put on the arrogance of a grandmother and do sober behavior of weighing pros and cons. Instead of being aggrieved and repeatedly questioning the betrayer's love and non-love, he and the betrayer snot and tears to tell their grievances and heartache.
The days you have had, the betrayers remember! Whether you say it or not, he knows it! Betrayal is nothing more than a matter of confusion for the betrayer!
Therefore, when the original partner has experienced betrayal, we must learn to calm down ourselves, carefully consider whether the current marriage relationship continues, what is the benefit of the result of the decision, and what is the damage! Once weighed, you no longer have to grieve for your betrayer!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
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