Let the child do it.~
01. Teach your child to solve problems
From learning to tie shoes to crossing the street on their own, each step is a milestone for children to become more independent.
When a child discovers that he has the ability to solve the problems he is facing, it can bring him a sense of happiness and accomplishment.
When he encounters obstacles, such as being ridiculed by his playmate for not being able to put together a piece of the puzzle, you can take a few steps to help him:
(1) Confirm his problem.
(2) Ask him to describe his solution.
(3) Find out the steps to solve the problem.
(4) Decide to let him solve the problem himself or offer some help.
(5) Make sure he can get the assistance he needs.
02. A stage for children to perform
Every child has a unique talent, so why not give them a chance to show it?
If they like to tell stories, encourage him to tell more stories to you. If he's good at numbers, take him shopping and let him help you pick out something cheaper...
When you can appreciate your child's talents and show your enthusiasm, your child will naturally have more self-confidence.
The children around us need more than just a carefree living environment, they need adults to accompany him to "experience" his growth process.
There is a saying: "To know what the world looks like in the eyes of the child, you must first crouch down and see the world from the child's position and height." ”
03. Give your child time to play casually
Don't arrange your life too regularly
An American child education scholar pointed out that free play is healthier and more beneficial for children of lower ages than planned activities.
Parents should avoid cramming their children's time with activities. All children need some time to do nothing and play casually.
04. Teach children to care for others
A happy child needs to be able to feel some meaningful connection to others and understand what he means to others. Developing this feeling can help your child have more contact with others.
You can sort out some old toys with your child and donate them to charity with him to help homeless children. Children can also be encouraged to participate in some volunteer activities at school.
Experts point out that even at a very young age, it is possible to derive pleasure from the process of helping others and develop the habit of liking to help others.
05. Encourage your child to exercise more
Play ball with your kids, ride a bike, swim... More exercise can not only exercise the child's physical fitness, but also make him more cheerful.
Maintaining a dynamic life can moderately relieve children's stress and emotions, and let children like themselves, have a more positive body image, and find fun and achievement from sports.
06. Smile often
Telling jokes with your child often, making up funny songs together, and laughing with your child are good for you and your child.
Just laughing is good exercise.
07. Creative compliments
When your child is doing well, don't just say "good."
Praise be specific, say the details, point out what impressed people, or perform better than the last time, for example, "You took the initiative to say good morning to your uncle today, it was really polite."
However, when praising, you should also pay attention to not developing your child's wrong expectations. Some parents reward their children with gifts or money, letting them focus on what rewards they can get, rather than on good behavior.
Parents should let their children discover the satisfaction and fulfillment of accomplishing something on their own, rather than rewarding him with material rewards.
08. Make sure your child eats healthy
A healthy diet not only makes the child healthy, but also makes the child's mood more stable.
Whether it's a meal or a snack, try to follow healthy principles such as a low-fat, low-sugar, fresh, balanced diet.
09. Stimulate children's inner artistic talents
Exposing children to music, art, dance and other activities can enrich children's inner world.
Experts have found that when children dance with music or doodle with paintbrushes, they are actually expressing their inner world and expressing their emotions. Children who like to draw, dance or play music will also be more satisfied with themselves.
10. Hug often
A gentle hug conveys infinite care, a silent "I love you."
Studies have found that gentle touch and hug can make children warmer inside, become healthier, more lively, and more emotionally stable. For adults, hugging can also reduce stress and soothe uneasy emotions.
11. Listen with your heart
Nothing makes a child feel cared for more than listening attentively.
Want to be a better listener? Don't just listen with one ear, and when your child is talking to you, try to stop what you're doing and listen intently to him.
Be patient and listen to your child, don't interrupt, rush to help him express, or ask him to finish his words quickly, even if you have heard what he has said many times.
It's best time to listen when you're on your way to school or when you're putting your child to bed.
12. Abandon perfectionism
We all expect our child to show his best, but sometimes we are too eager to correct or improve their performance.
For example, if you don't wipe the table clean, just wipe it yourself, or correct them to put things in a certain position. Requiring perfection in everything will weaken a child's self-confidence and courage not to be afraid of making mistakes.
The next time you can't help but rush to help your child do things better, think about it first: "Is this related to health or safety?" "10 years later, is this still so serious?" If the answer is No, then let the child do it.
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