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Some people say that complaining is the biggest public enemy of a woman's happiness.
The more a woman complains, the more negative emotions will appear, and the more it will sneak into your consciousness for every more complaint, the harder it will be for you to get rid of the enemy that destroys happiness.
Therefore, if a woman wants to be happy, she must defeat the biggest public enemy of complaining.
Deeply believed!
The power of not complaining is the brewing of a happy life.
So, how do you let yourself let go of complaining and get closer to happiness?
It is not difficult to find that, in fact, women who do not complain often have these three qualities:
Women who don't complain have a heart that perceives happiness
Complaints and happiness are inversely proportional. The more you complain, the lower your happiness index. If you have a heart that perceives happiness, then the complaint index will decrease, and the happiness index will increase.
So instead of complaining, cultivate yourself to have a heart that perceives happiness.
There is a category of people who always complain that they are not happy now and worry that they will not be happy in the future. As everyone knows, his happiness has been dominated by his own subconscious, and his perception of happiness has become numb, and such a person will naturally have no cause for happiness.
I have seen a passage like this: "When you cry and complain that there are no beautiful shoes to wear, do you think that some people have no feet; when you complain that life is too boring, do you think that some people have never seen the world; when you complain about your parents nagging, have you thought about the many fatherless and motherless orphans?" ”
You are so rich and lucky compared to them.
There is also a category of people who think that they are happy now and will be happy in the future, and this kind of person is a person who has the ability to be happy, because he can perceive the happiness of the present and know how to cherish it.
Even if it's a simple meal, doing chores with your family or just sitting quietly and chatting,...... As long as you calm down and feel, no matter what kind of situation, such people can perceive different happiness.
Women, when you are in a life that does not complain, you will find that you are already very happy.
So, how do you have a heart that perceives happiness?
First of all, you have to be passionate about life, not complaining. When you approach life with positive emotions, you will find that happiness is actually everywhere, so that you can feel that you are in happiness.
Secondly, you must have a sense of satisfaction, cherish the blessings brought to you every day, and embrace your current life with a more calm and gentle attitude, so that you can have more hearts to discover happiness and harvest more happiness.
Women who do not complain understand that it is a blessing to suffer losses
The ancients often said: To suffer a loss is a blessing. If a woman can suffer losses and not complain, then her blessings will not be bad. Because they usually have a more open heart than the complaining people, so life will be happier.
People who love to suffer losses are not stupid, on the contrary, they are actually very far-sighted. Because a person who loves to complain will only pay attention to the small profits in front of him, ignore the greedy urination and eat big losses, and finally gain more than he loses.
Colleague Xiaoli is a person who especially loves to complain. Every time I was with her, I heard her complain incessantly. Complain about the work is too much, the task is heavy, the salary is low; complain about the poor temper of the leader, the strange personality of the colleague, the customer is difficult to serve; complain about the company's small promotion space, poor welfare and so on.
Another colleague, Xiaohui, when she first joined the company, always did the hardest, most tiring, and most tedious work, but never heard her say a word of complaint, insisted on doing her job well, and silently accumulated efforts.
Less than 3 years after joining the company, Xiaohui grew into a middle-level manager of the company, while Xiaoli, although she is an 8-year-old employee, is in danger of being dismissed.
Life is unfair, get used to it, remember, never complain.
In life, even if you can't learn anything, you have to learn to suffer losses.
Because life without complaining will get the best fulfillment.
The same is true in the marriage relationship, women who love to complain, overly care about gains and losses, can not tolerate a little loss, in the long run, will push happiness farther and farther.
And those women who never complain about life and know how to suffer losses are often open-minded and tolerant people, and they can be content and happy. No matter how life is for her, she can face it with warmth and smile. Only such a person will she always be surrounded by good blessings.
Women who do not complain, use self-pleasure to enhance happiness
A woman who does not complain, knows how to accept herself, can spend less effort to incur more happiness.
With love in your heart, you live in the atmosphere of love; with happiness in your heart, you live in laughter.
On the contrary, the heart always complains, your life will be full of pickiness and resentment, how can you be happy?
Happy women never complain. Because they know that instead of spending time complaining, they should make themselves happier and make others happy.
In the 60-year marriage between Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu, one of the secrets of marriage preservation is "not complaining".
When Yang Dai was pregnant and hospitalized, one day, Qian Zhongshu told Yang Dai with a bitter face that he had broken the ink bottle and soiled the landlord's tablecloth.
Yang Dai was not angry about this, but comforted him that it was okay, she could wash it off. Later, Qian Zhongshu broke the door and the lamp. Yang Dai did not get angry and complained, nor did she dislike her husband's clumsiness. He will always be very peaceful and give comfort and tolerance, and never complain that he has looked away and married the wrong person.
The person she presents to Qian Zhongshu will always be the wife who knows how to please herself and others. It is precisely because Mr. Yang Dai never complains that their lives are full of taste.
Happy women do not complain, do not speak bitterly, do not grieve. They understand that instead of complaining, they should face it positively and always maintain a positive attitude in order to hold happiness.
As a quote in the book "The World That Doesn't Complain": "The person who does not complain must be the happiest person, and the world that never complains must be the most desirable." ”
As a woman, don't let yourself fall into the whirlpool of complaints, but to be a happy woman, live a life of self-acceptance, no complaints and no regrets, this is a rare comfort and beauty, in order to let happiness flow from the bottom of the heart like a spring.