The father is the guide for the child to the outside world. The role of father's education cannot be replaced by anyone, and fathers have a great influence on children's gender roles, character formation, wisdom cultivation, and ability formation.
- Spencer
Many times we emphasize the role of mothers in the family, often ignoring the existence of the role of fathers, but in fact, the role of fathers in family education is very large.
Give your child effective companionship
If you want to become a qualified father, you must first recognize the importance of the role of father in the child's growth process, and strive to give the child effective companionship. If you don't even have time to spend with your child, let alone teach your child to grow.
The process of parent-child companionship will play a very critical role in the child's gender cognition, intellectual cultivation, and character improvement. Especially in infancy and early childhood, children will more easily build a sense of security and belonging.
For a child, a father who often accompanies him to exercise and play is much more vivid than a father who only knows how to hold a mobile phone. Therefore, no matter how busy and tired you are at work, try to take some time to accompany your children, and your children will also give back your purest love.
Often accompanying children will make children understand that fathers are not only people who shelter the family from the wind and rain, but also men who will never be absent in their lives.
Believe what you say, do what you say
"The first place in this exam, Dad will take you to the amusement park to play"
"When the baby's birthday is born, Dad will buy this toy for you"
"Dad promised you that he would definitely go to your parent-teacher conference"
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Casually promise the child something, do not turn around and forget, this will make your image in the child's heart greatly reduced. A qualified father is sure to do whatever it takes to promise his child, no matter how small.
As a good father, he should lead by example and become an example that children can rely on and worship, because children will unconsciously imitate their fathers and get energy from their fathers.
Therefore, if you want your child to become a person who believes in what you say, then you must first do what you promise your child, otherwise you should not easily make promises.
Be sure to apologize for doing something wrong
Some parents maintain their own identity, in family education, even if they do something wrong, they will not admit it, they will think that apologizing to their children is a particularly detrimental to their own image, a special bargain.
But in fact, insisting on not apologizing is the most wrong behavior! Because this not only deeply hurts the child, but also sets a bad example for the child. Although children are small, they also have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and they actually know everything in their hearts.
Erica Lascher once said in the Quality Parenting Practice Guide: "Quality parents know that apologies do not weaken their authority as parents, it is a sign of confidence, integrity and responsibility." ”
Timely apology is a respect for the child, a reflection on self-words and deeds, and an empathy for the child's feelings. A father who knows how to apologize to his child is a truly wise and good father, and he will be more liked and respected by his child.
Give your child the respect they deserve
When some fathers talk to their children, they are often accustomed to adopting an imperative tone, leaving no room for negotiation with their children, and directly asking their children to do things according to their own ideas. This is actually very unreasonable. You know, from the moment children break free from their parents' hands and toddlers, their sense of independence has begun to sprout, and their self-esteem is also increasing.
As a result, they increasingly aspire to be able to communicate with adults on an equal footing, rather than acting like a subordinate, always obediently carrying out the orders of their superiors. Educator Ruan Gengmei once said: Crouch down and listen to your children, and what you see will be an innocent and immaculate world.
A good qualified father will squat down to communicate with his child on an equal footing, not control his child's right to speak, give him space to express his thoughts, and be a loyal listener and confidant friend of his child.
For children, a good father in life is not the same, it can be to try to support a family and become a hero that the whole family relies on; it can be a "proud uncle" who is serious on the surface, full of emotions on the inside, and is keen to express all his love with actions; he can also be a playmate who participates in every step of the child's growth.
Although they differ in their expressions, they all share a common core: a deep and warm love for their children. For children, the love of fathers is indispensable and irreplaceable.