Marriage is like a besieged city, the people in the city want to come out, and the people outside the city want to go in. Coupled with the current survival pressure, the degree of incentive of competition and the instability of marriage and other practical factors, more and more people are forced or actively choose to be single for various reasons, and some people meet the right person to form a family, but there are also a considerable number of people who continue to move forward on the road of single sticks.
Outsiders see that the single stick is free, one person eats and the whole family is not hungry, and the single person who has been single for life knows what he has carried.
Everyone will be so beautiful and relaxed in the eyes of outsiders, but only those who are in it know their own personal feelings and know their true thoughts.
If a person sticks to a single life, then I suggest you do it.
First, choosing to get married and having your own family will make you have a sense of belonging, which may be the best choice for more people
Although the family will have chickens and dogs, it will be the warmest home when you are physically and mentally exhausted, and it will be the most reassuring place when you are old. Choosing to get married and start a family will be the best option for the vast majority of people.
With a family, you can save the loneliness and loneliness of a person moving forward, you can have less of the coldness and desolation of a person's life, you can have less of a person's loss in the face of the festival, and you can avoid the loneliness of a person facing a table of food. With a family, at least someone takes care of you when you are sick, so that you feel comforted and heals faster; with a family, at least someone can accompany you to talk about those short things of the east parents or the family, at least someone to rely on, you also have a sense of value that you need; with a family, you can have someone to accompany you when you are old, and have children around you to provide for your old age. Although there will be quarrels and conflicts when there is a family, it is the true expression of emotion, the inevitability of bonding. Although there will be a lot of hardship with a family, the quiet years and the warmth of the family will be more of a show.
Although there will be a heavy pressure to have a family, there will always be a kind of warmth when a family is together.
When you want to insist on being single, or give up this idea, look at the beauty of marriage and family from another angle, maybe enter the marriage, you will harvest a different kind of happiness and beauty, so as not to leave the elderly alone with regrets and regrets.
Second, if you want to be single, you must have enough wealth
If you really stick to the single life, then try to make enough money for your ideal life when you can still earn money.
The reality that life can never get around is money, it's your wealth. Even if you live alone, you should prepare enough wealth for your ideal single-stick life. Traveling, partying to ask for money, developing their own hobbies and interests to ask for money, eating, wearing, living and traveling without spending money, when you are old, you need someone to take care of you when you have to have money to pay for your wages, if you want to go to a nursing home also have a certain wealth you can have an independent single room, even if you finally die, cremation, burial is all money.
Even if you want to find an old house in the countryside to live the life you so-called yearn for, you need real money to support it.
Being single does not mean a decrease in the quality of life, life is a life, living a quality of life is a kind of responsibility for their own life. So, even if you want to be single, you have to earn enough wealth for yourself.
Third, if you want to enjoy being single, you must be able to live your own life
If you decide to stick to your single life, you have to have the ability to live on your own.
If you want to be able to take care of yourself in life, the first is that you must have a healthy body and can grow old naturally. The second is that you have to have the ability to take care of yourself in life. Some people say that the current meal can be takeaway, procurement can be online shopping, travel has online car, yes, a lot of things on the surface can be solved with money, but have you really reached such a level of wealth? Self-care is a basic life ability, you must know how to clean up the housework, you can make your own favorite food, you can deal with the problems in life, you can calmly cope with the accidents, difficulties and accidents that life may face.
In the current era of increasingly developed science and technology, you must also learn and master the latest life technology in time, which is the real self-care.
Living alone, taking care of yourself is a necessary ability, and having money and using external forces will eventually make you less enjoyable in life.
Fourth, if you want to insist on being single, you must know how to arrange your own life
If you want to stick to your single life, you must have a reasonable arrangement for your own life alone.
When you are alone, you can indulge yourself, day and night, no one will restrain you, but you have to restrain yourself. When you want to travel, it is not to say that you can walk and walk on your feet, but a planned purposeful tour; when you want to make a meal, you must not always stew a bowl of chaos, to learn to scientific collocation; when you have interests and hobbies, do not act arbitrarily, indiscriminately invest in the cost of funds that you cannot afford; when you have physical problems, do not care, learn to have regular physical examinations, master your health, learn to follow the doctor's advice; when you exercise, learn to choose projects according to your actual situation, rather than competing for a competitive challenge When you live alone,
Be sure to give yourself a regular routine, a regular exercise, and a good lifestyle. Arrange your life well and don't let yourself fall into the emptiness after the hilarity.
When you do not take the initiative to arrange, when there is too much free time, you will think wildly, thus breeding more negative things, only if a person lives to arrange their own life reasonably, to achieve self-discipline, to achieve regularity, to do good habits.
Fifth, if you insist on being single, your inner endurance must be strong
If you insist on living a single life, your inner endurance must be strong.
In any society, people must be criticized and blamed by their neighbors because of various incompatible behaviors, and choose not to marry and insist on being single, whether it is a member of their family or themselves, they will be ridiculed, blamed, criticized and other pressures from their neighbors. If your heart is strong enough to ignore these pressures, your heart is strong enough to bear these pressures for your family that they should not bear, your heart is strong enough to withstand the obstruction, persuasion, and persecution from your family, and your heart is strong enough to withstand ridicule, snubs, white eyes, and even death from your family, you can really stick to a lifetime of bare sticks. But it's really hard.
We can not care about the people around you, but the pressure that your family gives you is unbearable for ordinary people.
When you decide to remain single, or if you remain single at a certain age, you will have to endure pressure and criticism from all sides with your family, and if you do not have a strong mental capacity, you can only submit or sink, or even destroy.
If you want to insist on being single, you must learn to accept the difficulties of old age and helplessness
If you really want to stay single, you have to learn to accept the difficulties of old age and helplessness in advance.
Playing single sticks, when you are young, you can be dashing and free, how you want to be, how comfortable to come, how to be happy, but you are going to be old after all. When you are old, you must be childless and childless, you must have no one to accompany and take care of, old, you may not even have the enthusiasm to cook, you may not even have the enthusiasm to cook, you may not have the people to talk to, you may be used to playing the computer alone, watching TV days, you may sit alone on the sofa can sit for a day and a night, you may do housework once a month, this is still a good daily routine. If you are sick and you go to the hospital yourself, you can only comfort yourself in the ridicule of your fellow intercourse patients; if you encounter difficulties that you are unable to solve, you can only ignore and live a life; if you cannot move, you do not even want to drink a sip of water; if one day you suddenly die, it may take many days for others to find out.
Too many old people who have nothing to rely on will tell you that the single stick has a lifetime, and when you are old, you know what is the heartache of the single stick.
Old age is an age group that we can't avoid, and at this time, we have played a lifetime of bare sticks, most of them are old and have no one to rely on, if you choose to stick to single, then you must bear this kind of helpless and difficult time.
I can't absolutely say whether single sticks are good or bad, and I dare not say that marriage and a family are necessarily happy, but if you have the idea of preparing for a single stick's life, it is still recommended that you consider marriage first. If you really embark on the path of a single stick's life, then please leave yourself a health, a wealth, a full life, a strong heart, a mentality that can endure difficult days.
Even if one day we leave, whether we are single for a lifetime or married and have a family, it is a life path of our own, and there will be a unique story of our own in the process. I just hope that before leaving, we will not regret, do not regret, do not shed tears.
Live, just enjoy the moment of being alive. Friends, if you see this, send you a small poem by Frost, I hope you have gained something, some understanding:
In the yellow forest there are two roads,
It's a pity I can't get involved at the same time.
I stood at that intersection for a long time,
Looking towards a road,
Until it disappears into the depths of the jungle.
But I chose a different path.
I know that the path stretches endlessly,
I'm hard to come back.
How many years later, somewhere,
I will sigh softly to look back on the past!
Friend, do you have a single person around you for a lifetime? What is their current life like, and how do you see the choices of people who choose to be singles for a lifetime? Let's share the conversation.
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