Being a good dad is never easy, and you'll need more responsibility, encouragement, communication, and help and understanding from family, friends, and colleagues.
It is more important to strengthen the relationship with the child. The following ten tips are suitable for families with teenagers at home.
1. Be sure to send SMS and WeChat to them as much as possible
The content is short and focused on them and their lives (what are the test results?). How have you been with XXX lately? How well does the teacher teach? Is there anything I can do to help with my homework? ）。 They may not react much at first, but as long as you keep doing it, they will take it seriously, although the mouth may not say it.
2. Join social networks (WeChat, Weibo, QQ, etc.) and "add their children as friends".
If they don't add you to a friend right away, don't care, because it usually takes some time. Also, try not to criticize, as social network content can sometimes be a bit unreliable (most kids don't control what other "friends" reply to).
Remember that the most important thing is to build and strengthen your parent-child relationship thousands of miles away.
3. Learn about the games they like
Most of the online games of this year can be played against people from all over the world. If your teens like to play online games, then you can play with them and even play with other fathers and sons.
4. Write a short book called "Life Lessons for Your Dear Son (or Daughter)"
Write some of the most important lessons you've learned from life every week. Don't forget to write down how you learned these lessons, it will make them seem interesting and can help them get to know you better.
After every chapter, show it to them. Be sure to personalize the content and be appropriate for your child's reading age. Your children need to learn from your wisdom, and it's a great way to share it with them.
5. Support their activities
If your adolescent child is about to face some big event (such as a graduation ceremony, a big competition, or a graduation party), give him financial support so that he can celebrate in a very special way.
Be sure to attach a letter explaining how proud you are of him and how important it is to behave appropriately in such a big event.
6. Try to prepare meals carefully for your child
A father made breakfast for his daughter from the second year of junior high school, and insisted all the way until her junior year of high school. Fritters, porridge, buns, at first, his goal was to make his daughter "full." Later, how to make his daughter "eat well" became his "subject". In the past 5 years, his daughter's personality has become more and more like him: optimistic, cheerful, humorous, tall to more than 1.7 meters, breakfast is indispensable.
7. Have a pleasant time to communicate every week
From the world situation, the era of intelligence, work confusion, learning bottlenecks, small to like girls, trivial daily life, one hour of time per week, break the identity barrier of father and son, like buddies also come to a heart-to-heart conversation, I believe that two people can benefit a lot.
8. Plan your next family trip together
Think about what to do when you're together, and also involve your adolescent children in the program. It feels better to do these things together.
9. Establish a sense of ceremony
The form is not important, what is important is to establish a sense of ceremony that conveys the message you want to express.
10. Be sure to make birthdays a little special
This applies to kids of all ages, although sometimes teens can act like a birthday isn't a big deal. But in fact, everyone, even teenagers, likes to have someone help him celebrate his birthday. It's only once a year, and that day never comes back, so celebrate.