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In the past two days, I have been paying attention to Sun Haiyang and Sun Zhuo's affairs.
The simple summary is that on the night of October 9, 2007, Sun Haiyang's son Sun Zhuo was abducted, until he was finally found on December 6 this year.
In 14 years, people without children can't imagine how Sun Haiyang's family survived, let alone describe it with words like "simple summary".
Although the child found it, the result was not as gratifying as expected. In an interview with CCTV, Sun Zhuo said that his biological parents did work hard to find him, but his adoptive parents were also very good to him.
"Both sides are my parents, and I probably won't go back to my biological parents, they may be disappointed."
This is also the biggest controversy that has been raised by the fermentation of the matter so far: Will the abducted family forgive the buyer? Some people say that it is not easy to be a parent, and the ending is a reunion, but in real life, how many families with abducted children can truly complete the beauty of reunion.
When mothers can definitely empathize, after having children, we can more deeply feel what it means for parents to have children. As soon as the child has a headache and brain fever, we are all anxious, and we can't imagine how desperate and remorseful a family who has lost its child will be in the years to come.
What's even more cruel is that trying to find a child who has been trafficked is as difficult as finding a needle in a haystack. Statistics show that according to statistics, the number of missing children in China is as high as 200,000 every year, and the recovery rate is only 0.1%.
0.1% probability, also worthy of everyone's joy? Therefore, Meng Mama's view of child trafficking has always been: supporting the same crime of buying and selling.
Without buying and selling, there is no abduction, and there is no harm.
Traffickers sin, and adoptive parents act even more selfishly. Their actions have led to the separation of a family that should have been happy, changing the trajectory of their lives for decades, preventing them from following the route they should have taken, resulting in one lie after another.
Some media voices are expressing the will to support children, that children live wherever they want, and that sudden changes can have an impact on children, but this is all weak and short-sighted benevolence, and it is also the after-effect of human trafficking — in addition to absolute right and wrong, there are more complex and hidden human ethical entanglements.
There are five major links in the trafficking chain: stealing, trafficking, intermediary, buyer, and legalization. As long as any link is missing, the phenomenon of trafficking will not be so rampant.
From this perspective, any participant in the above link, whether for monetary gain or for the sake of passing on the generations. As long as harm is done to others, it is a criminal "conspiracy" and should be punished.
Take a look at this chat group below, and there are countless buyers who want a child and don't care if they will cause pain to someone else's family.
What they paid for, was an endless, other group of parents, miserable for the rest of their lives. Parents who lose their children, most of them are not at peace in their lives, because they can't imagine what kind of suffering their children are experiencing, and they can't live the rest of their lives well.
Therefore, I support "buying and selling the same sin" from the bottom of my heart.
Having said so much, Meng Mama will talk to everyone more, those anti-abduction knowledge that we are familiar with, please be sure to teach children to stay away from human traffickers and how to call for help when encountering human traffickers.
Parents must have instilled these common senses into their children bitterly:
"Don't talk to strangers"
"Don't go with strangers"
"Don't eat what strangers give you"
In fact, for children with limited cognitive level, they have no way to understand the true meaning of "stranger" and "danger", and it is difficult to distinguish between good and evil in life, so as to effectively protect themselves.
This requires parents to teach their children through small things in their daily lives, such as: how to teach children to refuse food from strangers? We can teach children in this way in our daily lives, in different occasions, to teach children to judge who gives things that are safe.
For example, in the park, an aunt gives a piece of candy, and you tell the children that they must first get the consent of their parents before they can pick it up. In a relative's house, there is no need to be so rigid. You can pick it up if you like it, but be polite and thank you. But when you meet a stranger on your way out of school and give snacks, you must refuse!
Over time, children will have a certain concept of not being able to pick up food given by strangers. Second, parents must tell their children to play less with children they don't know, and if they have to play together, they must make sure that their children are always in their line of sight.
In case the child loses himself, we must let the child learn to be calm and have the instinct to ask the police uncle for help. The best way to do this is to let the child memorize the parents' phone number, the home address, when someone offers to help, do not go with people casually, you can borrow a mobile phone from others to call their parents.
Remember, prevention before the fact, the child's safety education, how cumbersome, can not be overstated.
Don't think about writing it down first, don't say that you have the opportunity to do the exercise later, and don't think that this kind of small probability event will never happen to us.
At the same time, I also hope that parents can understand a truth, all parenting methods are to make children's awareness and cognition more perfect.
But don't think it's once and for all, and don't try to make your child grow up safely through education alone.
Any safety education is inseparable from the companionship and attention of parents.
In life, if we meet people with the following characteristics, we can also pay more attention, especially at stations or long-distance trains and trains:
1. The child in his arms is sleepy for a long time;
2. The woman who holds the infant and child does not care about the child's crying, and does not feed the water for a long time;
3. The man holds a child in his arms, is not accompanied by a woman, has a nervous expression, and looks suspicious;
4. Multiple women each carry a baby, and another accompanying person specially looks after the luggage;
5. The child has been crying to find his parents, while the accompanying adults are nervous and impatient.
This kind of person, the child in their arms is most likely to be abducted, we should not blindly rush forward to argue with people, remember their characteristics, and then call the police in time, maybe we provide a small clue, is the abducted child's family in a desperate situation, your kindness, may be able to save a family.
Finally, Meng Mama only wants to emphasize once again that only by severely punishing buyers and sellers can we completely eliminate the occurrence of abduction, and I hope that every separated family can be reunited!
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Meng Mama
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Monday, 12/13/2021