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These two days were fortunate to witness several mothers get together to complain about their two-year-old baby: the legendary Terrible two, really a dog hates the age!
This summary is really too incisive, and I still vividly remember that the iconic event of mencius's arrival of Terrible two is still lingering in my heart.
Before the age of one and a half, Little Mencius was always a cute baby, laughing and giggling every day. Until one weekend, when I suddenly heard Mencius in the living room start crying, I rushed over, and the scene in front of me shocked and heartbroken.
Only to see Little Mencius sitting on the bed, his face full of tears, slamming his little head desperately into the pillow, and again and again, his expression was so angry, without the slightest intention of stopping, and his small body seemed to have unlimited strength, still struggling to crash down. I couldn't even hear my call.
I immediately rushed over, picked him up, let her lie on my shoulder, patted him on the shoulder to comfort him, fortunately, it was a baby after all, and the emotions passed in the blink of an eye.
That's the horrible "Terrible two" I've experienced.
"Terrible two", or "terrible two", is a child's first rebellious period. Children in this period mainly have these three characteristics:
1. "Self-centered" and living in your own world
Have their own little ideas, act in their own way in life, think of one out is one, have an inexplicable sense of rules and stubbornness.
2. Enhanced autonomy, strong curiosity, willingness to explore
For 2-year-olds, exploration is risky because they can't tell the difference between safety and danger. But curiosity drives them to explore everything in front of them, and parents who stop it for safety reasons will "anger" their children, and the more they do it.
3. Deal with the budding of emotional awareness
During this period, children begin to experience more emotions, such as shyness, jealousy, fear, etc., and they will also try to control the people or things that make them distressed.
But their language expression and processing skills have not kept up with the budding speed of consciousness. This leads them to often be trapped in their own world, with intense frustration and fear that make them more clingy and annoying.
In fact, the rebellious behaviors displayed by children are all proof of their growth, and they express "I am different" through actions and words.
Before the age of two, children cannot separate themselves from the role of mother, and they will feel that "mother is me and I am mother". Occasionally he feels that everyone is like him, for example, if he wants to eat sugar, he will feel that everyone wants to eat sugar.
At this stage, they will use various means to understand and test the differences between others and themselves, and even challenge the differences between people.
Through repeated games and even compromises with parents, children can understand the gap between reality and wishes, know that "not everyone will revolve around me", and gradually learn how to balance with the world and others.
As a person who has experienced and is experiencing "a terrible 2-year-old child at home", my experience is that if you want to maintain your "mind", you need to be "out of the soul", the moment of the incident, let the consciousness jump out of the body, and the mind is on the sidelines. This needs to be practiced (honed by the child).
But is there really no way around it? No No No, experience well, or you can refer to the reference ~
How to get along with the "Terrible two" baby
The house has house rules
It is best for every family to have a clear "principle" that the whole family agrees on. In my home, love and freedom are within one boundary.
It sounds silly to talk to little farts about these things, and maybe you will wonder where they know what principles are. Although I don't understand it, the "principle" can be reflected through a little bit of life detail every day, for example, in my house, you can't watch TV or mobile phones at dinner, which is the principle.
Emotional identity
For the troublesome little fart, let them know that you still love him and that you are trying to understand what is really going on and how he thinks.
Pause when the child asks questions and respond to emotions. Even for 1 or 2-year-old children, when the mood is recognized, the explosive point is instantly reduced. Don't believe me, do you try?
When a child has emotions, you can also encourage your child to speak out. For example, "I'm angry" and "I'm not happy", etc., guide the pairing of emotional words with the current situation. This allows the child to adjust his emotions in a positive and positive way.
Give your child enough respect to feel "in charge"
In the early days of children's self-awareness, they will have a lot of their own "persistence". For example, when I helped Mencius wash his hands, he would be more resistant, saying "don't don't", and then put the sleeves back down and put them back on himself.
Many parents will feel that these strange behaviors of their children are contradicting themselves and deliberately challenging authority, so they will order their children to "not allow this" and "not allow that", and the child will feel that he is not respected and recognized, and his heart is sullen.
This is also why many of the more pampered children in the family, the worse the temper, the more difficult to discipline, in fact, the real reason is that the love you give is not what he wants, when the child wants to seek independence and power, you do everything. Therefore, it is important to gradually teach children some life skills from the age of 1 to help children become independent.
That's the horrible two-year-old Terrible two! When you get past it, you'll find that there's three-year-old Horriable three, four-year-old Fucking four... It is very tiring to accompany the child to explore the process of growing up, but slowly you will also find that it is quite interesting, this child who has worked hard to grow up, a little naïve and temperamental, is actually not as scary as imagined.
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Meng Mama
The post-90s "little fresh mother", love life, love to share, love Mencius and love Mencius and his father. Over the years, pen cultivation has accumulated nearly 850,000 fans, sharing the latest and most fashionable baby poses with mothers, the coolest and most interesting mother and baby content of science.
Sunday, 2022/01/23