Wen 丨 Liu Xugang
Parents all over the world love their children more than they love their own lives, but some children do not know how to be grateful, their conscience is lost, and they do not honor their parents. This contrast is unethical and disgraceful, as Mencius said, children cannot get along well with their parents and cannot be human; children cannot obey the wishes of their parents in everything, so they cannot be children. All of us who are children should repay the parenting grace of our parents and vigorously carry forward the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation with the practical action of filial piety and respect for the elderly.
"Filial piety comes first". The spirit of filial piety has a long history, and a word of "filial piety" can be said to run through the entire history of the Chinese nation.
The Book of Filial Piety says, "Filial piety begins with relatives." "Filial piety begins with relatives, and the most basic thing about relatives is to support their parents." The Analects of LiRen says: "Parents are here, not far away, and there will be a good way to travel." "When parents are alive, their children need to always be by their side to fulfill their filial piety. Even if you go out, you must report to your parents for safety. Mencius said: "If there are few people, they will admire their parents... Great filial piety admires parents all his life. "When people are young, they naturally attach themselves to their parents. Filial piety, on the other hand, is a lifelong attachment to parents.
Nowadays, some people understand it as: supporting parents, so that aging parents have food to warm their stomachs, clothes to warm their bodies, and tiles to cover their heads. Accompany parents, when lonely parents have someone to chat, someone to relieve boredom, someone to worry about. Attach yourself to your parents, so that your parents, as always, feel close and caring from the heart.
At present, people's work is busy and tense, the pace of life is fast, the economic pressure is large, in terms of filial piety to parents, often hear some people sigh: every day early in the morning to get up and rush to the unit to work, urgent work one after another, often overtime, very late to return home to rest, physical and mental exhaustion to the extreme, filial piety to parents is not enough. There are also people who sigh: there are old and young, daily life, buying a house, raising children and other expenses are very large, the family income is not too high, and there is nothing that can be done to take out more money to honor parents. There are also people who complain to themselves: their parents are getting older, their temper is getting worse and worse, they can't listen to persuasion, people are helpless, and they want to do filial piety and their parents don't agree.
From their words, we can hear that it is more difficult to honor their parents, and they feel that filial piety is difficult and filial piety is difficult. It is undeniable that in real life, filial piety to parents does face some new problems, there are objective conditions limited, there are subjective unspeakable points, and people need to use new filial piety concepts to resolve new filial piety problems.
When living a poor life, children buy their parents some good food, buy some new clothes, so that the elderly can have no worries about food and clothing, and it is filial piety to be able to enjoy their old age in peace. Now that the days are rich, parents do not lack food, clothing, housing, more or less some savings, the state also has to pay pensions or relief funds every month, the concept of filial piety that used to be heavy on material care is no longer appropriate, it should be changed, and the filial piety should be transformed into mainly in the spirit to give comfort, and work the word respect.
Confucius once said:
"The filial piety of the present is said to be able to be nurtured." As for dogs and horses, they can all be raised. If it is disrespectful, why should it be different? ”
Even if you raise a mule and raise a horse, you need to feed it some hay on time, if you are not respectful to your parents, even if you support your parents, what is the difference between raising mules and horses? We should be sincere in honoring our parents, we cannot simply satisfy our parents materially, this is not enough for filial piety, more importantly, parents should be "respectful" when they are reasonable, when parents discipline is too strict or resentful, they can also respect their parents, listen to the correct teachings of their parents, do not let their parents be angry and afraid, let their parents be happy, and be proud of their children who have a good reputation, this is the real filial piety.
"Dear me, filial piety is not difficult. Dear hate me, filial piety. "From the Qing Dynasty educator Li Yuxiu's three-word rhyme "Disciple Rules", it means that when parents are kind to us, it is not difficult to honor our parents and obey our parents; when our parents do not like us or discipline us too harshly, filial piety to parents is rare and precious. This sentence enlightens us that it is not difficult to honor your parents, whether you have money, more money or less money, as long as you have filial piety, filial piety, and true feelings, it is difficult to honor your parents.
Don't leave your parents alone. Meticulous "spiritual care" can allow parents to find an emotional home, feel the warmth of the extended family, and the so-called "companionship is the best gift." "It is best to accompany your parents often, if you can't often live with your parents because of forming your own small family, or working in the field, etc., you must also "often go home to see", call your parents across the mountain, greet and greet, talk about home, and report on your work and life.
If possible, accompany your parents to watch movies, listen to plays, take your parents to travel together, see the world, open your eyes, and appreciate the beautiful scenery of nature. It is necessary to actively respond to the government's call to give birth to the next generation, so that parents can enjoy the joy of "teasing grandchildren".
Don't let parents worry about it. As stated in the Disciple Rules:
"Wounded, worried." Virtue is wounded, and shame is shame. Out must be told, the opposite must be faced. ”
This means that if your body is hurt, it will inevitably cause parents to worry. Therefore, you should try to take care of your body and don't let yourself be hurt unnecessarily. The damage to one's own reputation and virtue is bound to bring shame and humiliation to one's parents. Therefore, we should be careful in our words and deeds, and we should not let our reputation and virtue be damaged for no reason, let alone do things that are bad for customs, self-defilement, and self-deprecation.
Before going out, you should tell your parents where you are going, so that your parents can't find themselves and worry about it; when you return home, you should first meet your parents in person and report peace; although your children have a job, your parents will be happy, but the biggest expectation of parents for their children is to be safe and stable, and there will be no disasters in their lives. The ancients taught children in their enlightenment textbooks not to let their parents worry about it, and modern people should do the same.
There is a saying that tells the mother of the child to worry. Parents can not rest assured of the safety of their children, we as children go out for a long trip, we must promptly report to the parents a safe, and everywhere pay attention to safety, do a good job of self-protection, to avoid personal assault. Even if you can't get home on time after work, if you arrive home late, you must also talk to your parents, and be careful not to have accidents on the road, so as not to let your parents worry about sleeping well. The health of children is also the most important thing for parents. To live a regular life, eat and drink moderately, adhere to physical exercise, maintain the body well, be able to be healthy and healthy, and do not let parents worry about it, this is the best "filial piety" for parents.
Don't let your parents down and get frustrated. Every pair of parents is expected to have the expectation of Jackie Chan, and we as children cannot live up to the parents' sincere teachings and ardent hopes for us. We must study hard, work hard, abide by the law and discipline, abide by public morality, do things that are beneficial to society, become people who serve the country, and make parents feel proud and proud, rather than losing confidence and being disappointed.
In the face of parents who have bad tempers and do not listen to persuasion, children must be patient and not get bored. As long as it is not a matter of principle, it should be filial piety to those who obey, and must not confront, reprimand, or even scold parents. In a sense, the test of filial piety or filial piety, the key is not only to achieve filial piety to parents in form, but also from the depths of the heart, truly respect and care for parents, anytime and anywhere between the eyebrows, in words and deeds can show a pleasant look and respect, is the spirit of filial piety, which is also the most difficult to do.
There is a passage in the Book of Rites and Sacrifices:
"Whoever has a deep love for filial piety will have harmony, those who have harmony will have a pleasant color, and those who have a pleasant color will have a graceful appearance."
Those who truly honor their parents must always maintain peace and happiness in front of their parents. No matter how much you say you love your parents in your heart, how many things you have done for your parents, and how much you have your parents, if you often bump into your parents and don't give your parents a good look, how can you be considered a filial piety?
Brother Daoyou, Brother Daogong. Brotherhood, filial piety in the middle. Brothers should love their brothers and sisters, and younger sisters should respect their brothers; brothers and sisters can get along harmoniously, and filial piety is among them. Such a reason is not difficult to understand, if brothers and sisters do not remember brotherhood, support parents you push me to hide, property distribution you fight for me, do not give in to each other, quarrel endlessly, and even make a court ruling, can the parents feel good? It will certainly be very sad. It can be seen that brothers and sisters respect each other, support each other, humble each other, get along harmoniously, talk about family affection, and fulfill filial piety, which is also the best filial piety for parents.
Since ancient times, the Chinese nation has attached importance to the family and family affection. Family and all things xing, the joy of heaven, respect for the elderly and love for children, good wives and good mothers, husbands and godsons, thrifty family management, etc., all embody this concept of Chinese. "The mother's hand is threaded, and the wanderer's shirt is clothed." The seams are tightly sewn, and I am afraid that I will be late. Whoever says anything will be rewarded with three Chunhui. "Tang Dynasty poet Meng Jiao's "Wandering Zi Yin" vividly expresses Chinese deep family complex. A "filial piety" character writes the sincere feelings of the children of the world for their parents' filial piety and respect, and writes out the care and help for all the elderly in the society. A word of "love" expresses the sincere feelings of millions of parents for their children, and also fulfills the sincere return of thousands of children to their parents' nurturing grace.
Mencius believed that the world's so-called filial piety is five, lazy and four branches, regardless of the parents' support, one is not filial piety; the game is good at drinking, regardless of the parents' support, the second is not filial piety; good goods, private wives, regardless of the parents' support, three filial piety; from the desire of the eyes and ears, think that the parents are killed, the four are not filial piety; good courage and fierceness, to endanger the parents, the five filial piety. The son of filial piety, who has lost all his conscience, is spurned by others, and is intolerable to heaven, and he who is filial to filial piety is admirable, and his fame is far and wide, and he will be blessed. Dear me, filial piety is not difficult. We must all be children who preach filial piety, inherit the virtues of the Chinese nation from generation to generation, make the family harmonious, and add harmony to the society.
Editor 丨 Xu Dejin