It's not so much about growth as it is about maturity. Compared with their past selves, everyone has matured.
What does maturity feel like?
My biggest feeling is [numbness].
Emotionally, numb to the opposite sex.
Nowadays, when dealing with the opposite sex, there is no longer the original feeling of rapid heartbeat, fawn bumping, and heart current flashing through the whole body. Coupled with the occasional chat with colleagues of the opposite sex day and night, I gradually understood how realistic and cruel men's ideas are.
There was a moment when he touched his boyfriend's hand like his left hand touching his right hand, and after touching it for a long time, he found that he was just a lump of meat, a lump of moving meat, and perhaps some people thought so.
I once thought that I would live a life like an idol drama, and when I really had more contact with my partner, I found that [but so], there was not much heartbeat acceleration, and everything became monotonous, dull and dull, not as colorful as the novel.
Why do girls have to fall in love earlier?
Only by experiencing the malice of human nature early can we see the world early and prepare in advance. Hearing about love, there are nine sorrows, most people's stories are sad, so most people will grow up from feelings. After experiencing love early and dying, you will be attentive to your career and completely eliminate the "love brain".
If you are still single at the age of 30 and have expectations for love, the probability of being cheated is also high, and the price paid at this age is high.
In the past, they were always bound by backward thinking, in fact, girls can contact different opposite sexes, just like buying clothes and trying on more pieces is always appropriate.
When I was young, there was still capital to make mistakes, and only once young, what dare not try it, just like my self-made boyfriend, I did not think that I would really be with him, but also had, no matter what the outcome of the future, strive to have no regrets.
Idol dramas have been watched a lot, and I used to fantasize about finding an excellent husband, being a full-time wife by myself, having afternoon tea every day and going to a beauty salon with my sisters, living the life of a famous lady and a noblewoman, and now the more I grow up, the more sober I am, the more lonely I am.
Don't put your hopes in others. Knowing how unrealistic the previous fantasy was, and now occasionally daydreaming, but reason will wake itself up and tell itself and more sisters, don't rely on men, don't be a housewife, if you can, it's best not to have children in this life, it's simply a blessing.
It used to be a joke to fantasize about having a full house of children and grandchildren, and it was difficult to raise themselves and adopt their parents, let alone the next generation. If there are no favorable material conditions, there is no need for the next generation, anyway, I do not have any excellent genes to inherit, sometimes I don't look good at myself, and I can't change my personality defects.
What used to be called emotional "dreams" will be faced with rational "reality" in the future. It is no wonder that many people miss their youth and first love, because they are young, so they are full of curiosity about the world and want to experience everything new. Aging, on the other hand, is something that all-powerful humans cannot solve.
Food, which couldn't pick up the taste buds in my heart, was really numb.
I used to like pot wrapped meat, and even after eating it for four months, I didn't feel fragrant. I used to complain that my mother's cooking skills were unpalatable and wanted to eat takeaway every day, but now I live a life of eating takeaway every day, and I don't even feel that takeaway is fragrant.
Human nature is inherently lowly, that is, there is nothing to want, and the number of times it is not fragrant. Eating mountain treasures and seafood every day will also be greasy, just like once eating and drinking every day, I feel tired, and now I occasionally play, but I feel happy.
The scene of the first time I went to the beauty salon to do massage is vivid and painful, and then I can't remember the hundreds of times, and I don't have much feeling when I am familiar with it. Go to four or five beauty salons a day, experience two or three technicians at the same time massage, has been unable to distinguish the itch, pain, refreshing feeling, feel like lying on the sticky board of a lump of meat, let humans rub into the taste, there is no feeling of enjoyment, but a kind of pain, so everything should be stopped.
Ripening is like a time-made oil film wrapped around the tongue, and now you don't realize how delicious the food you once loved is, and now it tastes like chewing wax.
It is also a protective film on the soul, becoming numb and indifferent, and not experiencing the surprise of the first experience.
At the same time, I also figured out the laws of this world, and it turned out that nine to five was already a blessing, and there was more hard work. I was afraid of work when I was in school, and when I really experienced it in the social furnace, I found that it was "ignorance" that I had not experienced before into a terrible net, wrapping the innocent soul.
When there is no experience, it will be afraid, the first experience will be careful and impressive, the experience is more than the hob meat on the sticky board, the dead pig is not afraid of boiling water, under the catalysis of time, "Little Hundred Flowers" will eventually become "old fritters".
Keep an innocence in your heart, experience some new things, life is just an experience, I hope you have fun.
When I get older, I also prefer to be quiet and like to be alone. I used to be afraid of being lonely, but now I feel that it is not so, because having a partner will also be lonely, and life will eventually be with myself. Your partner and family are just the spiritual strength that you bring to you when you are vulnerable, the motivation to support you to live, but the problems of life must be solved by yourself, no one will follow you 24 hours to help you, know all your things, and when you understand these truths, you will gradually not put your hopes on others, and you will be disappointed if you expect too much.
What else does it feel like to be mature?
Become inclusive and understand everyone's positions and practices.
Face your imperfect self calmly.
It has become more indifferent and desperate, because at the low point, I have persevered on my own.
It feels like time is fast and can't be retained, especially the repetitive life, which passes in the blink of an eye and a month.
Become forgetful, can't remember the past experience, years of dizziness, has long been unable to distinguish between dreams and reality, even if there are pictures and video records of the past, can not remember too many details.
Becoming more self-righteous and self-righteous, these words are commonly used when we attack others, but these human shortcomings are also in our own.
Become more comfortable, less concerned about the evaluation of others, pay more attention to their own feelings, the circle has become smaller, leaving behind important people and things, breaking away, life can be very simple.
I also understand that character determines destiny, and everything is inevitable, because it is difficult to change personality, and nature is difficult to move. He also gradually accepted the arrangement of fate and began to confess his fate. The previous colorful anecdotes have now become dull and boring.
Become more rational and calm, rather than emotional, and consider things not as emotional "good or bad", but as rational "values" and chips.
The process of maturity is that the proportion of rationality is more, less sensibility, and after disappointment in love, the numb people are almost unable to write emotional articles. Mature mate selection does not consider whether the other party likes me, but whether his value meets my requirements.