In life, we inevitably meet all kinds of people.
Some people have become partners who can walk hand in hand in our lives, and some people have become the troublemakers in our lives.
Everyone's words and actions have their own intrinsic motivations, and understanding others is also a way for us to improve our emotional intelligence.
But if you are in an environment of bad words for a long time, it will often have a negative impact on a person.
We often overestimate our abilities and underestimate the impact of the environment on us.
Sometimes, we also need to stay away from some people and create a good growth environment for our own minds.
The one who always hits you: you can't
We often say that the faithful are against the ear.
Although there are some words that we don't like to hear, they are really helpful for our own growth.
But that doesn't mean that all the words that make us feel bad are well-intentioned.
In many TV series, the protagonist has a very strict teacher, under continuous suppression, and finally practiced the martial arts of the world.
However, life is not a TV series, and continuous denial and suppression often make us form a state of learned helplessness, begin to doubt our own abilities and personality, and become less and less confident.
In fact, the teacher in the TV series, in addition to bashing, often points out a way to help the apprentice improve himself.
However, for some people who like to hit people, they often only use the form of verbal attacks to release their negative emotions on you to obtain a sense of self-superiority.
This kind of person is most likely your boss, parent, boss, or even friend.
If you feel that you can't get the nutrients for corresponding growth under this kind of pressure, then staying away is the best coping strategy.
The person who speaks yin and yang: I envy that you can live so ordinary
People who speak yin and yang weirdness usually use this way of speaking, which is nothing more than two reasons.
Low emotional intelligence;
Deliberately trying to anger the other person.
"You're so loving, why don't you open an animal rescue station?"
In a short sentence, it contains a wealth of ups and downs, which perfectly explains what is called desire to suppress the first yang.
We can't change a person's emotional intelligence, nor do we have the obligation to help them improve their own qualities.
Strengths and weaknesses are relative, and some people just like to turn your strengths into your shortcomings.
For this kind of person, when it is time to go back, you should go back hard, so that you do not need to stay away from TA, and HE will no longer dare to take the initiative to provoke you.
People without boundary awareness: I do this all for your own good
This last one is often the one that bothers us the most in our lives.
Because they are likely to be our relatives, lovers, or very good friends.
They always like to use "for your own good" to depict your own future for you.
In fact, these issues, for you, are a space of your own that needs to be reserved.
But they will unscrupulously invade your private sphere to determine your thoughts and feelings.
"Why do you think that?"
Deciding the emotions and thoughts of a person from the perspective of a bystander is also a form of verbal violence.
Because gaining respect is a need in each of our hearts.
Of course, relatives and friends are important people that we can hardly let go of, but if this happens, we must also keep our private space.
All of man's troubles come from interpersonal relationships.
This is a famous quote from the individual psychologist Adler.
In life, some people will become our companions on the way forward, and some people will become a passerby.
We need to choose companions who can encourage each other and give each other strength.
And those who create obstacles for us along the way, remember to part ways with them as soon as possible.