When a daughter is out of love, how can you comfort her as a mother? Here's what a mom wrote to her daughter —
If you are good to a person, if there is expectation and reward, you will be disappointed, and how others treat you is decided by you. Truly loving and caring for a person is from the heart and does not ask for anything in return. Maybe your sincerity has been given to the wrong person, but if it is the wrong person who has nothing to be sad about, we must learn to make our hearts strong and powerful, learn to love self-sufficiency, otherwise you will be like a beggar all your life, praying that others will love you and you will not be happy and happy in your life. This is your life lesson, I have also experienced the people and things you have experienced, and I also feel that I am very careful with them, they also hurt me, maybe everyone treats others in a good way differently, we have to learn to express and check with the people around us, don't be angry with others who don't know why you are angry.
There is a need for communication between people, and the ditch can only be passed. Don't say the opposite, don't satirize others, don't get angry easily, and make yourself a peaceful and communicative person, which is more important than anything else. When speaking, be stable, don't have a lot of useless small emotions, but there is very little substantive communication, not to mention a small thing repeated many times, small things are small things, don't deal with them as big things, reduce negative fragments of thoughts, and don't be startled by small things, so that the feeling of giving others is that you are very impetuous, before speaking, first make a good draft, think about the purpose of your communication. The most important thing in a relationship is to communicate feelings, not to be reasonable. Feelings are fluid, facts are fixed. By caring about feelings, the two sides can establish a link; by being persistent and reasonable, there will be a gap between the two sides. All feelings are right, you can be scared, sad, angry.
Your kindness and sincerity to others is voluntary, how others treat you is uncontrollable, I am the root of all problems, through these people and things, we need to look at our own problems, what changes we need to make in the future, we don't live ourselves as a resentful woman, there are many beautiful things in life, say so much my experience tells you, if you don't make changes, you will still meet the same people and things, you will always be painfully entangled, the world is three things, other people's things, God's things, their own things, You can't change other people's things, you can't control god's things, only you can change yourself to control yourself, you become happy, happy, and comfortable, in order to attract people like you, there is energy between people and people.
In the future, there will be time to read more books, read books on philosophy, to put it bluntly, we are all laymen, all day long for those laymen who are not worthy, mundane things make themselves painful and troubled, and it takes a process to grow slowly.
Don't take yourself too seriously, don't overestimate your position in the minds of others, and look at all people and things with a normal heart.
Don't always think about their own efforts, two people together if you always calculate your own little gain and loss, you will never be happy, we want him to bring you happy things, do things a little bigger you will be happy, no one is perfect, people want to see the good side of others, we also have deficiencies, people and things are not worth it, as long as they are voluntary at that time, don't tangle in return.
Love is as he is, not as I wish, and this phrase fits into any relationship.
I love you, is to love you as you are, not you meet my expectations, I love you, nor do I ask you to be like me, give me something in return, if it is such love, it is not true love, it can only be said to be a transaction. If I expect something from you, I will be disappointed and feel that you are not worthy of my love and dedication. Our expectations are only for ourselves to give ourselves, and only we know what we want, to learn to be self-satisfied, and what others give may be taken away at any time.
Today's mood is better, I hope that in the future, if there is anything unhappy, you can tell me, although I can't help you, at least I can accompany you, I can feel your sadness and sadness, find someone who is unhappy, and it is already much better to say it. People's life will encounter a lot of people and things that make them sad, that is just an experience, we only need to face it, after experiencing it can grow, the process of breaking the cocoon into a butterfly is very painful, but the result is unexpected.
You are the best, you don't need to be sad about anything unworthy of people and things, you deserve the best, believe in yourself, and love you.
I've broken the defense after reading it, what about you?