What is brother-sister affection? Li Qijun, 55, gave the answer with action. Sister Li Yuling suddenly had a cerebral hemorrhage 8 years ago and became a vegetative person Li Qijun took care of her in the hospital for 8 years
Because his sister has completely lost his mobility, Li Qijun can only accompany him day and night, starting from changing diapers, feeding medicines, wiping his face, etc., and then feeding and massage, each action is very skillful, as careful as taking care of a newborn baby.
After 8 years, he even practiced a nursing skill that is more professional than that of a nurse to take care of paralyzed patients, and after taking care of his sister, he urinated on other patients to subsidize the family. His wife was very opposed to his "disregard for home" and wanted to divorce him. But he was reluctant to give up his sister.
"I'm such a sister, my parents are gone, I don't care about him, who cares about him?" Li Qijun said with red eyes. He said that his sister's condition has improved in recent years, which is his greatest satisfaction, even if others do not understand, he also thinks he has done what he should do.
The 55-year-old Li Qijun's forehead is already crawling with wavy wrinkles, and he frowns the whole time he chats with reporters.
At 7 a.m., in the ward of neurosurgery at a hospital in Shenzhen, Li Qijun rubbed his eyes and began to wash his sister Li Yuling's face. Lying on the hospital bed, Li Yuling's face was stiff, there was no expression, and only occasionally her eyes could turn.
He talked to his vegetative sister for two hours a day
Almost every once in a while, when a doctor comes to check on the room, Li Yuling will ask, "Can my sister still wake up?" But in most cases the response was "unlikely to wake up."
But Li Qijun did not want to give up this last hope. "I often see reports in the media that people who have been sleeping for decades can wake up, and I believe my sister will wake up one day."
After washing his face, Li Qijun began to feed his sister to take medicine, and every time he took medicine, there were no less than 10 large and small pills. Li Qijun smiled at his sister like a child and said, "Take the medicine, take the medicine early, you can get out of bed and walk." ”
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The doctor told him that Li Yuling is now in a vegetative state, and she has made physiological responses to external speech, sounds and other stimuli, not consciously responding to his words. Even if it is restored in the future, intelligence may be equivalent to that of a four-year-old child.
But Li Qijun does not see it that way. He felt that although his sister was a vegetative person, she could still understand what he said, because every time he spoke to his sister, her sister would respond. "Sometimes she smiles at me."
Li Qijun insisted on chatting with his sister for two hours every day, and as long as he had time, he would squeeze his sister's hand and massage her while chatting with her. Many of the chats are stories from childhood, told in The Western Shaanxi dialect.
Turning over and patting his back is a difficult task for Li Qijun. His body is relatively thin, to turn his 100-pound sister over and maintain a stable posture, Li Qijun needs to put a pillow on the side of the bed, let his sister lean on it, and then hold her with one hand and pat her on the back with one hand. More than ten minutes passed, and this awkward posture made Li Qijun sweat profusely.
"The pat on the back is to prevent choking phlegm into the trachea." Li Qijun said. Suctioning phlegm for his sister, Li Qijun also underwent an adaptation process. He was a man with a habit of cleanliness, but sucking phlegm for his sister was a daily routine, and at first he felt a little dirty and unaccustomed.
"But I thought, this is my sister, I don't take care of her who will take care of her." Li Qijun said that hiring a nurse in Shenzhen costs 300 yuan a day and 9,000 yuan a month, and since he has taken care of his sister, he has no source of income and cannot afford to hire a nurse.
Eat and sleep in the ward for 8 years
Li Qijun told reporters that his sister Li Yuling was born in 1967, and in 1993, as soon as she graduated from college, she came to go deep and worked in a Japanese-funded enterprise in Longhua for 18 years. She worked very hard, and as early as more than a decade ago, she bought a house in Xili, Shenzhen.
By the time her sister fell ill, she was a department manager at the company. But because my sister is usually busy with work, she has not had time to fall in love, and she is still unmarried in her 40s. But the huge work pressure caused his sister's body to be greatly damaged, Li Qijun received more than one call from his sister, saying that he was under great pressure to work hard in Shenzhen, working more than ten hours a day, working overtime until 10 pm.
On August 11, 2011, Li Yuling, who was eating, suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and passed out in the restaurant. Colleagues rushed her to the hospital for emergency treatment, but Li Yulin has been in a coma. That night, Li Qijun, who was in Xi'an, received a call from his sister's unit and quickly flew to Shenzhen, and when he arrived in Shenzhen, it was already 1 a.m. the next day.
When he arrived at the ward, the doctor told him that Li Yuling's craniotomy had been completed and the operation was successful. After the operation, Li Yuling's condition was mixed and bad, and on September 5, 2011, Li Yuling's brain was bleeding again, and the doctor operated on her again. This time, Li Yuling failed to wake up.
In order to take care of Li Yuling, Li Qijun's parents came to Shenzhen from Xi'an one after another. For more than a year, the second elder, who was supposed to enjoy his old age, traveled to the hospital and home every day. Because of seeing his daughter in a long-term coma, Li Qijun's father, Li Dehua, was overly sad and emaciated, and in September 2012, he was sent to Peking University Shenzhen Hospital for treatment due to sudden bleeding from the brain cadre position.
On weekdays, it is difficult for the father and daughter, who are thousands of miles apart, to see each other, but the father and daughter are both admitted to the ward because of cerebral hemorrhage, and they actually get together in the ward. Li Qijun looked at the numbers of the two patients with cerebral hemorrhage in the ward, and his heart was not a taste. He moved in a folding bed and made a home in the ward, from morning to night, taking care of two seriously ill numbers.
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The father has died, but the task of caring for his sister and children has to continue. His sister's ward became his home, he ate and slept in the ward, and his only pastime every day was to watch TV for a while after feeding his sister and taking medicine.
"After 8 years, probably the only thing that's happy is that my sister sometimes smiles stiffly at me." Under his care, my sister's physical condition has been stable for 8 years, with no recurrence of illness and no pressure sores. For his own efforts, Li Qijun has no complaints and no regrets.
Self-taught to become a professional caregiver
Li Yuling is 52 years old this year, but in Li Qijun's eyes, she will always be the sister who does not grow up. Li Qijun said that his sister is the youngest in the family, and he has had a good relationship with his sister since he was a child, and he will leave her a copy of the delicious food. The younger sister is also very filial, sending her salary to her parents in the first month after joining the work, and often buying clothes for Li Qijun's son.
As early as 1993, she had a salary of 5,000 yuan per month, and her sister had spent 700,000 yuan a year after she was admitted to the hospital, and then the father who rushed to take care of his daughter also had cerebral hemorrhage, and in less than two months, he had spent sixty or seventy thousand, using up all the family's savings, and he could only borrow money everywhere.
During that time, he was full of human warmth and coldness. All the relatives and friends who could borrow money borrowed, some friends who had a good relationship on weekdays, but then they hid, and many people refused to answer his phone as soon as they saw him. Fortunately, most of her sister's medical expenses can be reimbursed, and the only regret is that Li Yuling's illness has not been recognized as a work injury.
Nowadays, thousands of yuan of medical treatment every month is a big burden for Li Qijun, and the family is still saddled with more than 100,000 yuan of treatment costs for rescuing his sister. In addition to Li Qijun taking care of his sister in the ward, his son is still in high school in Xi'an and also needs him to help.
His three meals a day are very simple, basically steamed buns, pickles, and white porridge. He cut down on food and clothing, sometimes cooking a pot of porridge and squeezing vegetables, which he could eat all day. However, she never neglected her sister's diet, and she asked the nurses at the hospital for advice on how to balance nutrition. Li Qijun's meticulous care for his sister was very touching even the nurses in the ward.
"Originally taking care of the sick number is not a man's specialty, he can not be dirty, not too tired, insist on 8 years, it is really not easy." A nurse in the ward also praised Li Qijun.
But Li Qijun said with a bitter smile: "I don't want to be strong, but if I'm not strong, who will shield me from the wind and rain?" After saying this, tears swirled in his eyes.
At the end of 2018, Li Qijun's mother also died of emaciation. "It must be related to my sister's matter, the old man does not know how many times he has cried for this matter, and his eyes are almost blind." Li Qijun said that his mother often took out his pension to subsidize his life, and after his mother's death, the burden on his shoulders became heavier. In the past 8 years of taking care of his sister, he has learned from the nurses in the hospital and gradually grown into a professional nurse.
"How to insert oxygen tubes, how to care for cancer patients, how to help patients suck sputum, do atomization, these are not problems for me." In order to attract more service recipients, the price of his care is also lower than others, others 300 yuan a day, he sometimes 240 yuan a day he also does.
"However, when I do nursing for patients, I will explicitly tell the family that I have a vegetative sister to take care of, and I need to go back for an hour to feed her three meals a day." Li Qijun said that because of this, many patients' families are reluctant to look for him.
His wife divorced him and he was reluctant to give up his sister
However, there are also well-wishers who learned that Li Qijun took care of his vegetative sister for 8 years, and was touched by his perseverance and this kind of affection, and when there were patients in the family who needed care, they specially found him to let him take care of him.
Li Qijun said that for nurses, the most difficult to care for is cancer patients. Because some cancer patients have strange temperaments and depressed moods, they often make it difficult for nurses, and even start to work as nurses. Some cancer patients have suppuration, bleeding and vomiting wounds, and such nursing work is dirty and tired, and it is inevitable that the mood will be boring after a long time.
But Li Qijun has long been accustomed to these, as long as he can earn medical expenses for his sister, no matter how much suffering he is willing to eat. "In the hospital, I have come to care for many cancer patients that others do not want to care for." Li Qijun said.
Li Qijun is the second oldest in the family, and it is said that the responsibility of taking care of his sister should not be borne by him alone, but the older brother and younger brother in the family have their own difficulties, and Li Qijun has to carry this matter on his shoulders. He didn't feel sorry for himself, nor did he feel that he had suffered a loss, he said, this is what a brother should do.
Obsessed with the vegetative sister, Li Qijun inevitably neglected to take care of his family. His son attends junior high school and high school in Xi'an, and he spends less than half a month with his wife and son in a year.
His wife also complained about his practices, and on more than one occasion offered to divorce him. This made Li Qijun feel embarrassed: on the one hand, his wife and son, and on the other hand, his sister who was bedridden. However, even if his wife divorced him, he was not willing to give up his sister.
But soon his son will go to college, and for him, the tuition and living expenses of his son's future college are new expenses. The wife at home has been idle at home for many years because of illness.
Li Qijun pinched his sister's legs while talking to his sister, "Little sister, you are about to wake up." You see you don't pay salaries or red envelopes, your nephew is about to go to school, you have to send him red envelopes. Li Yuling on the hospital bed seemed to understand what he said, blinked her eyes, and smiled stiffly at the corner of her mouth.
"I believe my sister will wake up one day, I will wake her up, I wait for her to wake up and call me brother." 」 Li Qijun is an optimistic person, he laughed and said that he would continue to "do hard work" for his sister and wait for the miracle to happen.
Guangzhou Daily all-media text reporter: Xiao Huanhuan Intern He Siyan
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