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The light of friendship is like phosphorus fire, when the darkness around you, the most revealing, the quality of friendship may determine the direction of a person's life.
If friendship is so important to adults, then it is also true for children, and it can be said that good friendship can heal a child's life.
Released in 2009, Mary and Marx is an animated film about the friendship story of a "lonely" child and an adult who "won't love", and the whole film is both warm and healing.
Most parents have higher expectations for their children, but parents should let their children understand that no one in the world is perfect, and everyone has more or less shortcomings, so children do not need to wrap themselves up, and the courage to love is what needs to be learned.
Mary's father was busy at work and reluctant to accompany his daughter, and her mother was an alcoholic with some bad behavior. Growing up without parental love, coupled with birthmarks on her face, Mary's personality was withdrawn and inferior.
But fortunately, little Mary has a "big friend" Marx, they are pen pals, every exchange through letters to communicate, because Marx's company, so that Mary become cheerful, confident, sunny, and in the process of growing up, began to dare to pursue their dreams.
Mary grew up to become a medical expert and published her own books, from an inferior girl to a woman of her own.
Mary can make such a big difference, I have to say that friendship plays a vital role in her life, so parents should let their children realize the importance of friendship.
1) Friends who love sports
After the child reaches the age of 3, parents should consciously let the child interact with friends who love sports, and let the movement drive the child's exuberance. As long as the child can develop the habit of insisting on exercise, the purpose of the parents will be achieved, and if necessary, the child's friendship can be intervened to ensure that the child's exercise can be beneficial to physical and mental health.
2) Friends of the opposite sex
When the child is about 4 years old, parents should encourage the child to communicate with peers of the opposite sex, so that the child's vision and ideas can be opened, understand the different personalities of the group, learn to empathize and warm others.
3) Friends near home
Children should play with their peers before the age of 5, and what parents have to do is to provide a safe communication space for their children, and after a long time, they will naturally become familiar with each other.
However, due to the young age of the child, parents need to make rules for the children, such as not to fight, to learn to share, and having a playmate will also let the child know that friendship is very important.
4) Slightly older friends
Before the child goes to school, the parents can let the child make friends with the brothers and sisters of the relatives, so that they will play a role model for the child, and the child is more willing to listen to their advice.
Of course, parents must make sure that the character and habits of this older child are positive, so that they can become a role model for their children to learn.
5) Friends of the child's own choice
As children grow up, they will independently choose their favorite friends to associate, whether parents agree or not, do not overly prevent, because this is the only way for them to grow.
Children need these 5 types of friends, but the child's cognitive ability is not enough for him to correctly identify true friendships, so parents should tell their children some dating principles and give their children the right guidance.
1) Don't be afraid of frustration
Emotion is a very complex thing, which is mixed with happiness and hurt, so children will encounter some setbacks when making friends.
At this time, parents should tell their children that there is no need to worry about these, help children adjust their emotions and communication methods in time, and slowly they will learn the correct way of making friends.
2) Parents should not bring utilitarianism into it
If parents only let their children make friends with children who are good at learning or have good family conditions, then when the children grow up, they will think that making friends is for the sake of gaining benefits, not to pay real emotions. Childhood is pure and kind, and I hope that parents will not add too much "utilitarianism" to it.
3) Teach children to be objective, but to delegate authority
When parents find that there is a problem with the child's playmate's character, and the child likes to play with each other, at this time, the parents do not get angry, but objectively analyze the pros and cons with the child, and finally return the choice to the child.
At the same time, parents should also reflect on why children like to associate with such people, and whether they are neglecting to accompany their children.
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