Mary and Marx – my friendship with you has nothing to do with the world

The final scene shows Mary pushing open the door, And Marx sitting in a chair dying calmly, with a serene expression, the little book on his chest to identify people's expressions, must be ready to meet the only friend he wanted to see in his life, and the person he was waiting for finally came. When Mary looked up and saw that the roof was plastered with letters she had written to Marx, my nose in front of the screen was sour and tears were swirling in my eyes.

Mary, an 8-year-old girl from Australia, has earthy eyes and a feces yellow birthmark on her forehead. Her appearance makes her inferior, and life makes her feel gray and dull. The father was a taciturn worker, the mother was an alcoholic woman, and about the reason for her existence, the mother said that she was an accident, and the grandfather said that it was the result of a long-planned plan, and finally appeared at the bottom of the father's beer cup.

When I was a child, some parents would say to their children: You picked it up from the trash can, toilet, train station, or even jumped out of a rock, and so on. The influence of the original family makes them have a great shadow in the process of growing up, afraid of being deceived, but unable to distinguish lies. Feeling unworthy of love, but it's easy to become dependent in an intimate relationship. Constantly seeking security, but never really finding it.

Mary seemed to understand these answers from her family, and there were too many things she didn't understand at her age. So the 44-year-old man from New York, who lives alone, receives Mary's first letter about where the American child came from.

To a normal person in his forties, this letter may seem childish and ridiculous, but Marx is not a normal person. The Jewish Marx was an Asperger's patient, and the main symptoms were: inability to understand the literal meaning of words; insensitivity to facial expressions, the need to rely on a "small book of expressions" to identify the emotions of others; and the inability to express emotions well, easy to be anxious, and so on. Although the IQ is not low, but lack of social skills, no friends, engaged in the bottom of the work. He felt nervous and uneasy in the face of a stranger's letter, but he did everything in his power to answer Mary's question.

Their ages, personalities, habits, and lives varied, but they did not affect their friendship, and their shared love of chocolate and the cartoon "The Norbrez Family" made them "soul pen pals" who talked about everything, and they corresponded for twenty years.

When Mary was ridiculed for the birthmark on her forehead, Marx would ask her to tell Bernie Crawford, who was laughing at her, to say: Your birthmark is made of chocolate.

Marx's doctor said he was too fat, and Mary would recommend using a "weight loss recipe" with the initials of the week.

In these letters and chocolates they shared their joys with each other, saw and heard, and answered each other's problems, but their friendship also encountered crises.

In order to understand and heal her friends, Mary wrote a sample journal about Asperger's disease with Marx as a case and sent it to Marx, and wrote: I hope that one day we can cure your disease. Marx was so angry that he felt betrayed, so he pulled the initial "M" of "Mary" from the typewriter and sent it to Mary. This understanding over the years made her understand that her actions had deeply hurt Marx, and since then she has been depressed in her regrets, hiding in the house every day, and even her husband has left her. Completely desperate for herself, she was about to hang herself when she received a package from Marx containing all the NOBOLETs as a signal that Marx would forgive her.

Birthmarks have always been Mary's heart disease, but even if she eliminated this "ugliness" through surgery, she still did not get better. Marx gave her a piece of candy engraved with "love yourself first", a person who had never "loved" and had never been "loved" told her to love herself before loving others, and Marx taught her the most important skill of her life.

Although Marx was considered a "mentally handicapped" person who could not socialize with normal people, he was not ashamed and even willing to be called "Yaspi". For a Yasper patient, there are many troubles, but Marx has a super logic to convince himself that his worldview will not collapse.

In fact, each of us is sick, but even if we are terminally ill, there are still people in some corner who appreciate your difference, and you like the same chocolate, share your joy, share your pain, and let the smile replace the sadness that wipes your cheeks.

The final scene at the end of the film is when Mary visits Marx for the first time, and he dies the morning he arrives, and perhaps this time there is no real meeting at all, because Marx no longer has to feel anxious and nervous.

No one is perfect, but there are always people in the world who have the same loneliness as you. And as Leonard Cohen said: There are rifts in everything, and that's where light comes in.