Foreword: Mention xu Zhimo, everyone's first reaction is definitely the enviable love story between him and Lin Huiyin, but they are not together, what is Lin Huiyin's love story? Why did she have to take away a diary created by Xu Zhimo himself after Xu Zhimo's death?
Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin
In the eyes of the world, Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin are a pair of beautiful talents created in heaven and earth, just like the collision of two suitable souls, Xu Zhimo's romance and Lin Huiyin's innocence, bumping into a full heart, but after they did not get married, after the enthusiasm, as if everything was in vain, but in my opinion, I don't think their love story can be described by the two words regret and miss.
In 1920, the 24-year-old Xu Zhimo went to the United Kingdom to study, and in the two years of studying in the United Kingdom, Xu Zhimo's ideological value and life pursuits opened a new chapter, and so did his feelings, because he was here and knew Lin Huiyin.
At that time, Lin Huiyin's father was a representative in Europe, with his daughter settled in London, once when he held afternoon tea at home, Xu Zhimo was also there, Xu Zhimo looked at Lin Huiyin was so playful and cute, he was attracted at once, Lin Huiyin was only 16 years old at the time, but he revealed an elegant and simple traditional charm, whether in terms of temperament or behavior, he was the perfect lover that Xu Zhimo pursued.
Lin Huiyin
Of course, Xu Zhimo quickly fell in love, he became a regular visitor to the Lin family, Lin Huiyin's every move, a smile made Xu Zhimo very sinking, and Xu Zhimo, such a romantic and handsome man, Lin Huiyin is also difficult not to be moved, they stroll along the Kangqiao River, during the day they talk about the streams and waters by the river, at night they talk about the stars in the sky, everything is so beautiful and comfortable, but this love is destined to have no end, and the romantic moments witnessed by this Kangqiao are also bubbles. Because Xu Zhimo already had a wife at that time and had two children.
Xu Zhimo's wife is Zhang Youyi, the daughter of The rich Shanghai businessman Zhang Runzhi, but they are not together because of love, but only arranged by their parents, shortly after Xu Zhimo went to study in Britain, he received a letter from Zhang Youyi's second brother, the general content of the letter is to ask Xu Zhimo to pick up his wife, so that they can have a companion for each other, Xu Zhimo also has no way, he took Zhang Youyi over, although they are just married, before someone asked her whether she loved Xu Zhimo, she said, I can't say what is love, Everyone says that I have done so much for him, then I should love him, in his life met these people, maybe I still love her the most, as a woman, I think she is deeply in love with Xu Zhimo, she is also attracted by Xu Zhimo's romance and charm, but the opposite of the feelings is never a party effort to have results, Lin Huiyin knows that Xu Zhimo has a wife and children, her soul suffered a heavy blow, but at the same time she is very entangled, Xu Zhimo's enthusiasm and obsession with her makes Lin Huiyin can't see love clearly, But her rationality tells her that she can't do this, she can't accept Xu Zhimo in a married situation and openly show love to herself, just like our contemporary women, you can't have both, you have to make a choice, so Xu Zhimo decided to divorce Zhang Youyi who was still pregnant in order to be with Lin Huiyin, Xu Zhimo's move is very ruthless in my opinion, what is wrong with Zhang Youyi, she is just in love with someone who does not love herself.
After knowing that Lin Huiyin had returned to China, Xu Zhimo was in pain, and I felt that as long as I could divorce, I would definitely be able to continue the frontier with Lin Huiyin, so he gave up his academic career in order to pursue his beloved woman Lin Hui, and resolutely returned to China to divorce his wife Zhang Youyi at all costs.
Zhang Youyi
What kind of state was Zhang Youyi in at that time, although the divorce hit Zhang Youyi very hard, but she did not give up her beautiful life, and then she found a job teaching German, and also became a vice president of the bank, and opened a clothing store called "Yun xie", the career was windy, Zhang Youyi's endurance was admirable, she did not be depressed because of her husband's betrayal, but turned anger into motivation and made herself more excellent. This is also worth learning.
In 1922, Xu Zhimo had divorced Zhang Youyi, but Lin Huiyin was already engaged to his mentor's son Liang Sicheng at that time, Xu Zhimo was very depressed during that time, he did not understand why Lin Huiyin would be with Liang Sicheng, in fact, even if Xu Zhimo did not marry Zhang Youyi at that time, Lin Huiyin would not be with him, why say so, before a friend asked Lin Huiyin, why did he reject Xu Zhimo, Lin Huiyin was actually quite calm and rational in his treatment of this feeling. She just said that Xu Zhimo is just a romantic poet, he has his fantasy of the perfect lover, but this is not the real me, and from my point of view, I think Lin Huiyin loves Xu Zhimo, but has not yet loved enough to accept Xu Zhimo abandoning his wife and children just to be with her, and Xu Zhimo loves Lin Huiyin, I think it is definitely love, but this love is Xu Zhimo's own fantasy of romance or love of the real Lin Huiyin, which can not be known, but Lin Huiyin as a woman in the new era, Her thinking is open and ahead, if she is really with Xu Zhimo, how will future generations view this relationship? Will they be considered a talent made in heaven, or will Lin Huiyin be regarded as a third party who has interfered in a relationship?
Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi
Maybe the fate has not yet come to an end, a chance, Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin jointly received the Nobel Prize winner Tagore, Xu Zhimo's feelings for Lin Huiyin were once again aroused, he really could not leave Lin Huiyin, he also told Tagore about his love for Lin Huiyin, hoping that Tagore would help him say good things, but Lin Huiyin already had a heart at that time, and did not change his mind.
Some people here may question why Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng are together? Their marriage was only arranged by their parents, just like Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi.
In fact, it is not, although their acquaintance is only the fate of the parents, but the love is not, Liang Sicheng, as the son of the modern celebrity Liang Qichao, first of all, their family situation is right, and secondly, Liang Sicheng also has his own ideals and ambitions, which is in line with Lin Huiyin.
After they became relatives, the two went to the United States to study together, as the saying goes, long-term love, in the long-term relationship, whether they are pursuing or thinking similarities are very much, and in the career they can also support and grow together, this is not the best look of love?
Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng
Although Liang Sicheng is different from Xu Zhimo who can write moving and fleshy love poems, nor is he as funny and romantic as Xu Zhimo, Lin Huiyin clearly knows what kind of love or marriage he wants to have, here I think that just like us now, it is difficult for us to accept being the interloper of a relationship, even if Xu Zhimo resolutely divorced Zhang Youyi at that time, but Zhang Youyi as a generation of independent women, her encounter is undoubtedly not sympathetic and pitying, Lin Huiyin may also be ashamed of her in her heart.
After Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin got married, they both loved China's ancient architecture, so they went to many cities in China together, saw different scenery and felt different customs and customs.
As mentioned above, they had a strong interest in modern Chinese architecture at that time, so they went to the United States to study together, originally the two wanted to study architecture together, but the architecture major at that time did not accept girls, Lin Huiyin could only sign up for the architecture major in fine arts, in this way, Lin Huiyin also had his own unique views in fine arts, and did not give up his love of architecture, from here it is not difficult to see Lin Huiyin's intelligence and ability to not panic.
Love may make people clumsy, but it will never make people stupid, Lin Huiyin did not give up his professional field because of love, I think this is very worth learning from contemporary women, do not be a "love brain", to be a leader of women in the new era.
In March 1928, Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng registered for marriage, and on that day Liang Sicheng asked Lin Hui because what was me? Lin Huiyin also shyly said that I will spend my life to answer your question, in my opinion, Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng at this time are in love, this is not only the answer, but also her commitment to him, this sentence is really romantic and unique, and now some people will use these words to confess.
In fact, I think for Lin Huiyin, why choose Liang Sicheng, why did not choose Xu Zhimo, these are not parties and can not know the reasons, but from Lin Huiyin's point of view, she may just want a simple feeling, Xu Zhimo was enthusiastically pursuing Lin Huiyin at that time, without stinginess to suppress any of his feelings, which may also make Lin Huiyin feel a little breathless, Lin Huiyin is very rational in his treatment of feelings, see people are also very accurate, why say so, Xu Zhimo was rejected by Lin Huiyin at that time After marrying Lu Xiaoman, he and Ling Shuhua and some other talented women spread gossip, I don't know what Lin Huiyin was thinking when he heard these things, maybe in happiness, Xu Zhimo, as a generation of literary poets at that time, his charm attracted the admiration and indulgence of countless girls, plus Xu Zhimo was a gentleman, and these things would naturally happen.
Lu Xiaoman
After Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng got married, they returned to China to develop, although Lin Hui was already a wife at that time, but the charm did not diminish that year, she would regularly hold some parties attended by high-class celebrities at home, Xu Zhimo also introduced Shen Congwen and Jin Yuelin to Lin Huiyin at that time.
But it is from here that Lin Huiyin and Jin Yuelin have a lot of gossip, so does Lin Huiyin have any love for Jin Yuelin? Many people feel that there is, many people also feel that Lin Huiyin and Jin Yuelin are just ordinary friendships, I think Lin Huiyin did have a heart for Jin Yuelin, but this bit of heartbeat is not enough to let her leave Liang Siwen, Jin Yuelin's way of expressing love is not as big as Xu Zhimo's, but it is obscure, just like the lyrics of Mayday there is a sentence that does not disturb my last tenderness, Jin Yuelin has never married in his life, so silently guarding Lin Huiyin, which can't help but make people sigh, like is wanton, but love will be restrained.
Jin Yuelin
Seeing this, I think Lin Hui is too rational in her treatment of feelings, in her eyes, whether she is a lover or a loved one, she needs to consider the pros and cons, she will not blindly love people, nor will she give others the opportunity to hurt themselves, even Xu Zhimo's death, after the memorial service, Lin Huiyin immediately began to compete for Xu Zhimo's "relics", why is this?
Xu Zhimo died on November 19, 1931, and Xu Zhimo was going to attend an architecture lecture of Lin Huiyin, unfortunately died of a plane crash, just like his own poems wrote that I came and went gently, Xu Zhimo's sudden death hit Lin Huiyin very hard, Lin Huiyin cried on the spot into tears, and afterwards Liang Sicheng also brought back the fragments of the plane, and she kept the fragments in her bedroom until her death.
On December 6, Lin Huiyin and his wife held a memorial service for Xu Zhimo, Lin Huiyin also wrote a eulogy to Xu Zhimo, Lin Huiyin was very sad, here I think she has feelings for Xu Zhimo, at the age of 16 they met, she for Xu Zhimo this person and this love, has been buried in the deepest part of Lin Huiyin, may be helpless or sad, she slowly recalled their sweet romance at that time, Lin Huiyin only wanted to bury this feeling in her heart, and did not want others to know, She also did not want to make this feeling of early dissipation public, so after the memorial service, she openly asked for xu Zhimo's "Kangqiao Diary", but because the diary was sent elsewhere at that time, Lin Huiyin could only ask his friend Shen Congwen to come forward, and finally Lin Huiyin finally got the diary.
Shen Congwen
"Kangqiao's Diary" has since disappeared, I don't know where to go, maybe it was destroyed by Lin Huiyin, maybe she hid this "love" where she hid it, these are all mysteries.
From here we can also see Lin Huiyin's decisiveness and rationality, she will never tell others about her private feelings, she protects herself very well, not only we feel so, at that time Shen Congwen also thought that Lin Huiyin was a very smart lady in the letter, and her actions really strangled the gossip in the cradle.
Conclusion: Lin Huiyin's life is colorful, she not only mastered the knowledge of fine art ancient architecture in her career, but also won a very great honor and fame, even when Lin Huiyin died, her tombstone was engraved with the label of architect, which is undoubtedly the greatest recognition of her in work.
Lin Huiyin Tomb
Emotionally, first there is the infatuation of the wind Xu Zhimo crazy love for her, Xu Zhimo as a generation of literary poets, Lin Hui because he is the image of the muse, giving him the inspiration to write, and then there is the same happiness and bitterness Liang Sicheng, Lin Huiyin's career is successful and inseparable from Liang Sicheng's help and assistance, they founded the architecture major of Tsinghua University, and also created the history book "Chinese Architect", and finally there is the obscure Jin Yuelin, Jin Yuelin's life has guarded Lin Huiyin as a close friend, and even after death, he will be buried in the same place. It shows the depth of love.
Time flies, Lin Huiyin is no longer alive, but her life can be said to be perfect, her calm and rational treatment of feelings to weigh the pros and cons is very rare, I think we modern women really need to learn more about this spirit, first self-love and then love others.