The name Cao Dewang is not unfamiliar to everyone, as a well-known business legend, he once experienced a dilemma in his feelings, and even because of Xin huan, he wrote to ask his wife what to do.
And the wife wrote back: "I just want the house and three children." ”
What is going on here, and why would a successful man say such a thing to his married wife?
When Cao Dewang was young, he obeyed his family's arrangement early and married a girl who lived with him. When he got married, he was only a 22-year-old young man, and the young Cao Dewang did not have much resistance to the arrangement of the family.
This woman named Chen Fengying is just a rural girl, the word Dou Da does not know, honest duty these four words can perfectly summarize all her personality characteristics, but it is precisely because of her honest duty, Cao Dewang can rest assured that the heavy responsibility of taking care of the family to her, go out to work hard.
Chen Fengying not only followed him wholeheartedly when he was the poorest, but what was even more valuable was that even the funds that Cao Dewang needed to start a business in the first place were the money she made up by selling her dowry. It can be said that if Chen Fengying had not paid so wholeheartedly, there would have been no glory of Cao Dewang's later glass kingdom.
Later, Cao Dewang told reporters that it was precisely because of the various tribulations experienced by the two people at that time and the romantic life that he could not talk about at all, that he understood the true meaning of life. He also said that only two people working together is the most correct way to happiness, and he and Chen Fengying proved this sentence, they are a real couple in distress.
The original Cao Dewang followed his father to many places to do small business, such as selling fruits, white fungus, saplings and so on.
In this process, he found a business opportunity to grow white fungus, he can grow white fungus, wait until mature to take it to Jiangxi Province to sell, so that once, you can earn 700 to more than 800 yuan of profits.
In fact, he did make some money in the beginning, and the poor family finally saw the hope of life.
But the good times were not long, for some reasons, during the fourth trip of transportation, Cao Dewang's hard-working white fungus was deducted by the other party, not only the initial capital was all smashed into it, but also owed nearly a thousand yuan of foreign debt to the villagers.
When such an unfortunate thing happened, Chen Fengying did not cry and make trouble like other women. On the contrary, she comforted her husband, relieved that he should be careful in doing business in the future, and not to fight unprepared battles, at this time, the Cao family, which was in debt, faced with the debts of the people in the village, cao Dewang, who was helpless, could only sell all the valuable things in the family, and even the house they lived in was not spared.
Chen Fengying still did not complain a word, she knew that she could not help Cao Dewang in terms of money, and could only take care of her mother-in-law and husband more intimately in life, so as to silently comfort Cao Dewang. There is Chen Fengying behind Cao Dewang, and the family's affairs do not have to worry too much about himself, so he completely devotes himself to going out to run business.
After Cao Dewang ran outside for a period of business, he was found by the leaders of the village, and it turned out that because Cao Dewang ran out to do business all year round, the task assigned to them by the village to repair the reservoir was not completed.
At that time, volunteer workers in the reservoir had an income of more than three yuan per day, and twenty days of construction could get nearly 100 yuan, which can be said to be a very considerable income for the family situation at that time.
Because the construction site is relatively far from home, Cao Dewang sent his wife to his mother's house before leaving, when Chen Fengying was still with the child, and her husband was about to be away, and there was already nothing of value in the family.
When Cao Dewang was leaving, in the face of the embarrassing situation, he said to Chen Fengying: "I have nothing now, only myself, if it is really not possible, you can remarry." ”
But at that time, Chen Fengying's mother said firmly: "You nonsense, you are so smart, difficulties will definitely be overcome, you can rest assured to go to work, your wife and children I will manage you." After receiving the support of his family, Cao Dewang went to work at the construction site without hesitation.
As a family member, Chen Fengying will always stand behind him and give him silent support. As long as it was something he was determined to do, whether the outcome was good or bad, she would believe him unconditionally. In order to reduce his pressure, Chen Fengying would never bother him with family affairs. They rarely quarrel, because Chen Fengying is gentle in nature and does not care about gains and losses, and although the life of the two is plain, they live a very happy life.
After more than ten years of hard work, Cao Dewang's career finally entered the right track, at this time Cao Dewang's fame and fortune, he finally entered the public's field of vision, leapt into the famous "glass king", until the early 80s, Cao Dewang met the woman who made him feel moved.
If Chen Fengying is a wife with hair silently dedicated to accompany him, this woman is the confidant of Cao Dewang's heart, which satisfies his yearning for an unforgettable love life.
He couldn't help but fall in love with this woman, and this red-faced confidant gave him a lot of help in his career and did a lot of things for him.
Although she was very young, only twenty-four or five years old, and was married and had two children, none of this prevented them from falling in love.
Emotionally they are very engaged, and they feel that they have found the only confidant in their lives.
However, in the eyes of people, it is immoral for two people with their own families to walk together, and their feelings can be said to be opposed by everyone.
As you can imagine, the pressure they faced at that time was very large. However, the woman was very brave, and when faced with the exhortations of others to "break when she was broken", she only confessed that she could talk to Cao Dewang and believed that Cao Dewang would definitely achieve extraordinary achievements in the future.
The red confidant's help and companionship to Cao Dewang made him very moved, so he had the idea of divorcing and remarrying.
Cao Dewang wrote a letter to his wife Chen Fengying, saying that he liked someone else and hoped to divorce them to end their marriage relationship, Chen Fengying did not know words at that time, and this letter was read to her by people around her.
Surprisingly, after Chen Fengying listened to it at that time, he only said one sentence:
"I know I don't deserve you, and I know you're going to leave after all, and if you want to get a divorce, you can just leave me with the house and three children." 」
After receiving his wife's reply, Cao Dewang felt ashamed, and even the woman next to Cao Dewang felt that it was too cruel for Chen Fengying.
Cao Dewang is faced with a choice, on the one hand, his wife Chen Fengying, has been working hard behind his back, even if he has suffered so much with himself, he still maintains his nature and supports himself unconditionally; on the other hand, he is a confidant with a red face who has developed love and always has a common topic, making him deeply appreciate love and giving him a lot of help in his career.
Just when Cao Dewang did not know how to choose, he went to do a survey.
In the survey, he selected 100 representative couples from different industries, including workers, doctors, cadres, teachers, bosses, and even ordinary rural families.
According to the results of the survey, Cao Dewang found that he was not the only one who was dissatisfied with his family, and none of the 100 couples was completely satisfied with their family.
The person who felt him the most was a friend from Fuzhou Water Meter Factory.
He and his wife two people, one is the section chief, the other is the regiment cadre, in the eyes of many people they are right, lang talent and female appearance, and love for three years before marriage, there is enough common language. Cao Dewang once envied the happiness of their married life.
However, what he did not expect was that after in-depth contact with them, Cao Dewang found that there were many unsatisfactory behind their happy marriage.
Both are not very happy with the family relationship, they will often blame each other, long quarrels consume the feelings of the two people, and they suffer no less pain in marriage than he does.
In the end, Cao Dewang analyzed and compared according to the survey results, and finally came to a conclusion: no family is an absolutely happy family.
So Cao Dewang began to think, why is this the result?
Later, he realized that when two people from different living environments and different family education get married, they will definitely form different ideas in life. When you are in love, you may show your best side to each other, but once you live together, over time, different ideas will emerge, and under the collision, there will be a lot of problems.
Therefore, Cao Dewang feels that happiness seems to be the same for every family, that is, family harmony, harmonious life, and nothing more.
But if you think deeply: Is there an absolutely happy family in this world? No! There will be no absolutely happy families, and there will be no absolutely perfect marriages.
Since there is no absolutely perfect marriage, there is no possibility of starting a family with another person.
After thinking about all this, Cao Dewang repented, said goodbye to his confidant, and began to focus all his energy on the cause he loved.
He also transferred most of his property, such as real estate and the company, to Chen Fengying's name, and even gave the position of chairman of the company to his wife, just so that the woman who silently paid for herself behind her back had enough security in her life.
For Cao Dewang, the family is a haven from the wind, two people have never known each other, combined is a family, living under the same roof, this is fate, should be cherished, live in harmony.
Fortunately, he is a rational and grateful person, even if he has made mistakes in marriage, he can get lost in time and return to his family.
As the saying goes: Behind every successful man is a great woman.
Chen Fengying has achieved Cao Dewang with his youth and dedication for more than ten years, and Cao Dewang has also repaid Chen Fengying with his own practical actions, the two have achieved each other and cherished each other, and their relationship also makes us very admirable.
There is no very happy marriage in this world, in fact, who meets everyone is almost the same, the key lies in how two people run this marriage and maintain this family.
In the process of marriage, you will definitely encounter temptations and challenges, at this time you may wish to calm down and look at Cao Dewang's experience, which may make you have a different understanding of marriage.
Happiness is not vigorous, but plain and comfortable, which is the truest portrayal of marriage.