Parents divorced, for children, will bear the hurt of the heart.
Especially children who have already enjoyed the love of their parents, suddenly losing a warm home, will be more difficult to accept.
Zhang Yimou's daughter Zhang Mo is like this.
After Zhang Yimou filmed "Red Sorghum", he fell in love with Gong Li.
But he seems to have forgotten that he already has a family with daughters.
Because of Gong Li's appearance, Zhang Mo became a child, and she saw her mother every day to wash her face with tears.
In the following years, Zhang Mo and Gong Li had been at odds with each other, and finally won in the 8th year.
The good times did not last long, and the 16-year-old Zhang Mo learned that his father had remarried abroad.
She couldn't believe it, and she resented Gong Li even more, she couldn't understand it.
A well-known actress like Gong Li, how can she be small
"Three"! Went to break up the marriage of mother and father.
More than ten years later, she experienced her father abandoning her mother, abandoning Gong Li, and finally marrying Chen Ting, a little petite wife.
Her father's affection shrouded her life in a dark cloud.
But now, he reconciles with his father and inherits the directorial career.
Since childhood, I witnessed my father's two transferences of affection and love, and married a foreigner twice with hatred.
What has Zhang Mo experienced over the years to forgive his father and get along with his stepmother.
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Zhang Mo was born in Xi'an in 1983, and just after giving birth to a daughter, her mother handed her over to the nurse and then called Zhang Yimou.
Knowing that he had given birth to a daughter, Zhang Yimou was very happy, thought for a moment, and named his daughter Zhang Mo.
From birth to meeting my father, I experienced more than half a month.
At that time, Zhang Yimou just started his career and stayed in the crew for many years.
Seeing Jiaodi's daughter, Zhang Yimou was very happy in his heart, so he did not hesitate to give up his great future and transferred his work back to his hometown for development.
Xiao Hua, the wife, told her husband that she was able to take her daughter alone.
But Zhang Yimou was unwilling, he wanted to see his lovely baby daughter every day.
Be a good father.
In Zhang Mo's memory, the most is that his father and friends are at home, talking about the film business.
Mother was in the kitchen, busy cooking and boiling water, while she was at the door, watching the uncles coming and going.
However, although her father loved her very much, he gave her little companionship.
Most of the time it was her mother, who took her to the streets to buy groceries and take her to school.
As she grew older, her father's career became busier, and she worked outside the home for a year and a half.
Occasionally, when she comes home, she will bring back fruits and snacks that she usually can't eat, and she is very happy.
A long meeting can make Xiao Zhang Mo happy for several days.
But the good times did not last long, since her father became popular, he had less and less time to take care of her, and finally gave up on her directly.
Zhang Mo, 4 years old, already understands how hard his father's work is.
In this year, Zhang Yimou won 38 Golden Bear Awards.
Zhang Mo and his mother looked at their father on the TV, and their mother silently wept at the side.
Mother was so happy that she finally saw her father succeed on that day.
But Xiao Zhang Mo did not know that her father's favor would also completely distance herself from her with this honor.
When he got home, instead of holding her as usual, his father looked at his mother and said, "Thank you."
This sentence made Zhang Mo feel so strange, as if his father had changed into a person.
Maybe it's finding a change in her husband's feelings for himself.
One day, Zhang Yimou returned home and confided to his wife that he had developed feelings for Gong Li.
Zhang Yimou is determined to be with Gong Li, even if there are tens of millions of people scolding him, he does not care.
If Xiao Hua was unwilling, he also thought of a way out, that is, to leave his hometown and wander the world.
When the wife heard this, she burst into tears.
She hugged her daughter tightly and cried, "Your father is going to divorce me, what should I do?"
For a long time afterwards, Xiao Hua began to learn to dress.
The mother was born beautiful, no worse than the stars.
But Zhang Yimou's heart at this time had already flown away.
Zhang Mo didn't know what divorce meant, but when she saw her mother crying, she also cried loudly.
After that, no matter how much the mother kept her father, she did not get a response.
The wife wants to keep the marriage for the sake of her daughter.
But how can a man whose heart is flying away stay in marriage?
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In 1988, when Zhang Mo was 5 years old, she became a single-parent family.
Zhang Mo, who did not have his father's beloved love, suddenly understood things.
Xiao Zhang Mo knew that her mother was in pain and often cried silently late at night.
During that time, Zhang Yimou and Gong Li's love affair was very exaggerated, which also made Zhang Mo subconsciously resent Gong Li.
She felt that it was the appearance of this woman that made her mother so miserable.
In Zhang Mo's book "My Father and Mother", there is this story.
In it, Zhang Mo wrote about her personal state of mind and the reasons for divorcing her parents.
It reflects that Xiao Zhang Mo is grumpy about Gong Li's destruction of his family.
Zhang Yimou will also occasionally call his daughter during his love affair with Gong Li.
When there is more free time, I will also take my daughter directly to the house.
At this time, Gong Li did not like Zhang Mo very much, and felt that she was uneasy and kind, and it was her mother Xiao Hua who instigated her.
Every time Zhang Mo came, he would snatch Zhang Yimou.
For this reason, Gong Li directly complained to Zhang Yimou that he should not bring his ex-wife's daughter.
When Zhang Yimou heard Gong Li's words, he was very angry and told Gong Li: "If you love me, you should accept my daughter."
Because after the daughter quarreled, Zhang Yimou and Gong Li's relationship quickly declined.
Although they did not break up, the two did not marry.
In the following years, Gong Li forced marriage many times, but Zhang Yimou did not agree.
He thought that if the relationship between Gong Li and his daughter could not be eased, he would not consider remarriage.
In the end, the relationship still lost to the family.
8 years of love is a bubble after all.
When Zhang Mo saw Gong Li's departure, she was very happy and thought that her parents could repair the old good.
Zhang Mo knew in his heart that his mother Xiao Hua always had a father in his heart.
She sincerely hoped they would remarry.
Unexpectedly, Chen Ting appeared at the turn of his head and became his father's new wife.
At that time, Zhang Mo was only 16 years old, and she saw her father's two feelings, and also saw his father ruthlessly abandon his mother.
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Seeing her father marry a new wife, she knew that her father and mother would never go back.
For this reason, she hated Gong Li even more and thought she was a joke.
Chen Ting became a stepmother, and Zhang Mo was reluctant in his heart, but his father's decision was not his own.
This year, Zhang Mo decided to cheer up and regain his father's love.
With excellent grades, she was admitted to the University of Columbia.
In the years that followed, she began her journey to study abroad and met the first boy who touched her.
Zhang Mo had a relationship with an American boy, and his father was furious when he found out.
But the obstruction of her family did not make her stop falling in love, but became more and more arrogant.
After several years of love, Zhang Mo directly married her boyfriend in the United States.
Zhang Yimou looks at people very accurately, and he feels that his son-in-law is not a good person.
It turns out that the daughter did look away.
After getting married, Zhang Mo lived a torturous life.
Her husband not only abused her domestically, but also made her not allowed to leave the United States.
When he learned that Zhang Mo was going to divorce, the husband went directly to engage in extramarital love.
Under various scandals, Zhang Mo was in pain and chose divorce as the end.
After returning to China, Zhang Yimou took the initiative to call her daughter and asked her to follow her own study.
When Zhang Mo heard his father's suggestion, he thought of being able to work with his father, and his heart happily agreed.
In fact, she longed for her father to care for her.
Although she knew that her father had younger siblings, she still longed for his care.
After following Zhang Yimou' side, the mother also sighed many times, but still did not accuse her daughter.
I just hope she can live a good life, don't hate Zhang Yimou and her stepmother.
Even if she is a daughter and a disciple of her own, Zhang Yimou can be said to have given everything to Zhang Mo.
When I was with me, I almost taught my daughter to be a director almost hand in hand.
In 2009, after studying with his father for a while, Zhang Mo successfully debuted by editing "Three Guns Shooting Surprise".
In this film, she holds the position of editor and assistant director.
The efforts and growth of his daughter made Zhang Yimou very happy.
In fact, at this time, Zhang Mo no longer hated his father.
From her last marriage, she learned that when there is no love, the family is like a cage.
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After the first work came out, Zhang Mo also learned a lot of skills from it.
The following year, she became the assistant director of Hawthorn Tree Love.
Especially when it comes to editing and subtitles, she puts a lot of thought into it.
In 2011, "Jinling Thirteen Chao", she once again served as an assistant director, and also took care of communicating with the actors and how to act.
In 2013, "Homecoming" aired.
In this drama, Gong Li joined, and this time Zhang Mo did not bring the slightest personal feelings to target her.
In the crew, although Zhang Mo did not talk to Gong Li more, he did not deliberately mock.
Years later, she was no longer the little girl she had been.
In this year, Zhang Mo also did a big thing, that is, marriage.
The hurt she had been hurt by her last marriage was healed by a Swiss boyfriend.
When talking about the second love, Zhang Mo's heart was full of fear.
To this end, Zhang Yimou and Xiao Hua had to reconcile, and the daughter said that marriage was the only way.
Finally, under the careful enlightenment of her parents, she was willing to accept her current husband.
The current husband is a proper school bully, and the habits of the first husband are very different.
After Zhang Yimou met, he did not stop it, but told his daughter that if she liked it, she would get married.
After experiencing an unhappy marriage, he once again stepped into the end of the marriage and accepted it with a timid heart.
But her boyfriend was very considerate of her and cared for her, including supporting her to be a director.
After thinking twice, Zhang Mo decided to marry her boyfriend.
In January 2013, with the blessing of both parents, she entered the marriage again.
And after she got married, every time she mentioned her husband, her eyes were shining, and she could see that she was very happy.
In an interview after marriage.
Zhang Mo said: "My biggest obstacle is myself, and the only way to solve everything is to reconcile with myself." ”
In life, there are too many tribulations. The biggest obstacle is yourself, and if you want to live better, you can only reconcile with yourself.
It took Zhang Mo more than 30 years to live out his self.
The misfortune of her original family made her pay for it for the first half of her life.
In fact, after Zhang Yimou broke up with Gong Li, his concern for Zhang Mo was enough.
Unfortunately, what Zhang Mo hopes to get is the love of his parents and the love of her from the heart, rather than loving her with guilt.
After marriage, Zhang Mo was supported by her husband and family and worked harder in her career.
The 34-year-old Zhang Mo finally took a brilliant step and directed and wrote a film "28-year-old minor", which won the Best Debut Award at the Changchun Festival Film Festival.
In 2021, Zhang Mo collaborated with his father again and directed the play "Sniper" together.
Although Zhang Mo did not like Gong Li in his heart, he did not have much hatred for his stepmother Chen Ting.
In 2016, he also walked the red carpet with his father and stepmother's family.
This is the first time that Zhang Yimou has brought his wife and Chen Ting's children, as well as her eldest daughter, to appear in public.
At the time of appearance, his wife Chen Ting and Zhang Mo were relatively close, and the two were similar in age.
Chen Ting was born in 1981, while Zhang Mo was born in 1983, which is more like a sister than a mother-daughter relationship.
At this time, Zhang Mo has entered the second marriage, perhaps after experiencing it, he understands each other's difficulties!
When walking the red carpet, he did not show any hatred for his stepmother.
On the contrary, there are talk and laughter, and it can be seen that the relationship is very good.
For the relationship with her stepmother, Zhang Mo once said: "Chen Ting did not destroy her parents' feelings, nor did she hurt her, Chen Ting is very good to her father, she should be good to each other." ”
It can be seen that her feelings for Chen Ting and her original entanglement with Gong Li are different. Perhaps, in Zhang Mo's heart, he did not expect his father to have a little affection for his mother.
Now that Zhang Mo has a successful career and a happy marriage, she will use her ability to soothe the grief experienced by her mother. Zhang Mo spent half his life and finally gained his father's love and inner relief.
In marriage, she is even more pampered by the other party.
Almost every time he appears in public, he travels with her husband arm in arm.
As she looked at her husband, the sweetness in her eyes overflowed the screen.
From the pain and bitterness of her youth to the sincere love of her parents and the unconditional support of her husband, she finally got everything she wanted.
As for who her father loved and who she didn't love, she didn't care anymore.
In the days to come, being able to take care of her mother and focus on her career is the right thing for her.