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"I have warned my daughter countless times to protect herself, but you never tell your son to respect women."
This is what the mother said after a daughter was sexually assaulted, and these words were frantically forwarded.
"Please those parents who have sons must educate their sons well, let him protect himself at the same time, but also let him learn to respect women and be a good person." Those of us who have daughters have kowtowed to you. ”
These are the heartfelt words spoken by a blogger with a daughter after seeing one sexual assault after another.
Yes, there are so many books that tell parents: You must learn to teach your daughter to protect yourself. But who will educate the parents of those boys, let them teach their sons to be good people?
Speaking of sexual assault, almost no one can forget Li Tianyi's case, singer Li Shuangjiang has a son, he is very fond of this son, as early as 15 years old, he was exposed to beating people because of a fight, and then received education in a juvenile detention center, but he did not expect that this did not make Li Tianyi change his mind.
In 2013, Li Tianyi's sexual assault of a girl was a stir on the Internet, and the court finally sentenced Li Tianyi to 10 years in prison.
Some time ago, Li Tianyi changed his name, it is said that parents think that the name of "Tianyi" is too big, the child can not hold back, so they changed their name to Li Guanfeng, but also hope that the child can take this opportunity to change the name to start again and start again.
Li Tianyi has parents behind the back, and his father is still a famous singer, and according to people familiar with the matter, the girl who was victimized at that time still can't get out of this shadow, still unwilling to see people, and still in treatment and rehabilitation.
I can't help but think of what a colleague said, every time I see a news event such as sexual assault, I am secretly happy in my heart: fortunately, my family is a boy!
In this case, Ying Cai'er also said in the program, in "Wife's Romantic Trip", talking about her daughter's early love, sexual assault and other issues, Ying Cai'er frankly said: I am a son, what am I afraid of!
This is this sentence that makes many netizens dissatisfied: Is it possible that if the family has a son, everything will be fine, regardless of others?
There are boys in the family, so raising, the future can achieve excellent children!
01. Formulate rules
"No rules, no squares", the more the boys grow up, the bolder they are, when you were a child, you did not control the child, and when you grow up, you can't control the probability of events.
When the child is young, the child should be given rules, and in the future the child will know: what to do and what not to do.
Just like Li Tianyi, at the age of 15, he was admitted to a juvenile detention center because of fighting and injuring people, and after he came out, he did not stop, or continued to cause trouble.
If there are boys in the family, we must make rules in advance, so that children can distinguish between right and wrong and good and evil, so that children can become a warm person in the future.
02. Establish the correct three views
"Others are teaching their children to be strong and can't suffer losses, so how do I educate my children?"
This is the question in the minds of many parents: other people's children dare to run red lights, other people's children dare to throw paper casually, and other people's children dare to beat people and not be bullied.
So do we still teach our children to be kind? The answer is yes, but kindness does not mean cowardice, and it does not mean being bullied.
In today's society, what parents are most afraid of is school violence, I teach our children to abide by the rules and study well, but do other people's parents educate in this way?
Under the premise of educating children to be sensible, we must also tell children: know how to protect themselves and do not be a kind farmer.
Only parents establish the correct three views for their children, children know what is right and wrong, and children can not only do not hurt others, but also do not be hurt by others.
03. Responsibility and responsibility
There are too many old people to eat now, and there are too many boys who hurt girls at will.
The reason is that parents are too doting on their children, resulting in children having no responsibility and responsibility.
As a boy, you must have responsibility and responsibility, in the future can you assume the responsibility of the family, take care of both parents, and raise children, rather than pushing responsibility and obligations to the parents.
If the child makes a mistake, do not try to hide it for the child, but guide the child to learn the lesson and teach the child to find a way to solve the problem. Only with correct guidance can we cultivate responsible and responsible children.
There are girls in the family, parents should teach their children to know how to protect themselves, and boys in the family should teach boys to know how to respect women.
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