As the old saying goes, "Habit is like killing a son", which is not false at all. We have seen too many similar examples around us, and there are many celebrities who are on the hot search, such as Li Shuangjiang.
Li Shuangjiang is a famous tenor singer in China and a first-class actor in the country, and it is his son Li Tianyi who makes him famous again.
When Li Shuangjiang was more than sixty years old, Li Tianyi was born, and he naturally loved this son in every way when he was old. But because of this, Li Tianyi's words and deeds are very arrogant.
When Li Tianyi was 15 years old, he was sentenced to one year of detention and reeducation for driving without a license and beating others, and Li Shuangjiang also personally went to the victim's home to apologize, thinking that this incident would let Li Tianyi know repentance, but this was not the case.
Two years later, 17-year-old Li Tianyi committed evil deeds again (details are searched for themselves) and was sentenced to 10 years in prison, and now that 7 years have passed, Li Shuangjiang renamed his son "Li Guanfeng", which seems to mean that he wants his son to start again.
But the girl who had been hurt by him had left an indelible shadow in her heart. After the events of that year, she has been criticized by the people around her, and has also been subjected to a lot of intimidation and harassment, and finally she can only stop working and school.
But this did not alleviate a trace of her psychological pain, but washed her face with tears all day long, and finally was sent to the hospital for treatment due to sadness, and the doctor diagnosed the result as severe depression.
Even now 7 years later, the life of the victimized girl has been completely changed, the beautiful second half of her life has been ruined, and now she can only be treated in a mental hospital, and still has not completely come out of the shadows.
Li Tianyi's situation and his parents' doting are completely inseparable, especially from the performance of his mother's dream pigeon in all aspects after the Li Tianyi incident, his mother's doting is the main reason, which also makes Li Tianyi bear the consequences for this.
Nowadays, a similar situation is on the rise, and the data on juvenile delinquency is rising year by year, and it is in a state of young age and malignancy, which has to be paid attention to.
This also gives parents a warning to remind parents to educate their children correctly and let their children grow up healthily.
The emergence of problem teenagers is inseparable from the education of parents, because the child's mental immaturity, coupled with the doting of parents, will easily lead the child astray.
Loving children is never coddling, but should learn to truly "love children" and let children grow in the right direction.
1) Parental coddling
Parents' doting is the biggest culprit that endangers children, children do wrong things, parents will not teach children to find reasons from themselves, but blindly protect children, help children find excuses, over time will only make children lose their sense of responsibility, and there is no ability to distinguish between right and wrong.
In the long run, it will make the child become selfish, and without gratitude, the child will become a "problem teenager".
2) Parental indulgence
In addition to coddling, parents are too indulgent to their children is also the main reason why children become problem teenagers, because of various reasons, many children when they are young parents can give little education and companionship, which greatly enhances the possibility of children going astray and becoming "problem teenagers".
And when the child has an accident, it is often too late for parents to want to go to education.
1) Let the child understand what "responsibility" is
If the child makes a mistake, it is not enough for the parents to criticize, nor can they just say and tell the child that "you are wrong", which will make the child unaware of the seriousness of the problem.
Parents should guide their children to "take responsibility" for what he has done wrong, so that the child can truly distinguish between right and wrong. In addition, a sense of responsibility can also effectively guide children to think about the rationality of what they have done.
2) Help your child make "rules"
"No rules, no squares", rules for children are not only constraints, but also a kind of protection, to prevent children from making irreparable mistakes.
In daily life, parents should make rules for their children, help children enhance self-discipline, and at the same time, rules can also play a role in protecting children and helping children express their emotions through the right way.
【Koi Mommy's Message】
Educating children is not an easy task, nor can it be completed overnight, as a parent, you must spend more time in this matter, love your children to have a "degree", and the same is true for educating children.
【Today's Topic】
How do you usually educate your children?