Why are some people reluctant to go home for the Chinese New Year?
There is a classic saying: children without a safe haven do not look forward to coming home. In psychology, this psychological mechanism of not being close to parents and feeling estranged is called "disappointment emotional isolation". The manifestation is the feeling of not having relatives with parents, not having the desire to share, and not wanting to have too many emotional ties, and feeling anxious when in frequent contact with parents.
Disappointment emotional isolation is not a disease, but a manifestation of psychological injury, a self-defense mechanism. When the individual's disappointment accumulates again and again, he will gradually lose his emotional connection and be unwilling to contact the other person again, so as not to hurt himself.
Most of the reasons for the formation of disappointed emotional isolation are the lack of support and care from parents when childhood, resulting in unanswered emotional appeals. As you grow up, you are likely to be sensitive, have low self-esteem, lack of security, and care about what others think of you, and gradually become a people-pleasing personality.
The essence of this psychological isolation mechanism is to be too disappointed in parents, which is not called ignorance, and the underlying psychology is that sharing anything with parents will not get positive feedback, and will either be left out, or denied, and counted, which may also strengthen the parents' desire to control.
This may be why many young people think that their rental house is a safe haven. So why do we have to go home? For a small number of people, they can't even think of the joy of going home......
