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Editor / Tommy
There is a saying that says it well:
In daily life and study, we often observe a phenomenon:
Some people seem to be very diligent on the surface and put a lot of time into both work and study, but their actual results are not ideal.
Such people are often inefficient at work and study, and it is difficult to make greater progress.
In fact, these people are not really hard-working people, they just want to be diligent, driven by a psychological suggestion, this phenomenon is called "fake diligence".
Psychologists have found that these three bad habits are common among people who are "fake diligent".
1. Lack of self-awareness and like to be moved by themselves
First of all, they often lack accurate self-perception and are often self-motivated.
In layman's terms, this type of person often sympathizes with himself and feels sorry for himself, but as a result, he loses the motivation to move forward.
The Japanese postmodernist writer Haruki Murakami famously said in his work "Norwegian Wood":
"Never feel sorry for yourself, for it is a despicable coward's work. ”
This is very similar to a popular phrase on the web:
For "fake hardworking" people, they are also eager to put in the effort, but they often use their own feelings as the criterion for judgment, rather than the objective reality.
As a result, even if they have a work or study plan, it is often difficult to implement it effectively.
From a psychological point of view, self-emotion reflects a lack of self-cognition.
Self-awareness is an objective and comprehensive evaluation of ourselves, which can significantly improve our ability to execute and objectively understand things.
People who lack self-awareness are unable to plan effectively and often set up plans that are beyond their capabilities, leading to shelving and frustration.
At the same time, because they usually have a positive subjective will, "fake hardworking" people are often stuck in a cycle of constantly making plans and giving up, making it difficult to achieve great things.
An effective solution is to conduct objective self-awareness, and when making a plan, according to one's own ability, from shallow to deep, step by step, to avoid the occurrence of "eyes are high, hands are high, and the situation is low".
Second, the concentration of doing things is low and the efficiency is low
Then there's the question of efficiency.
Because of a variety of factors such as mindset, concentration, etc., people are not as productive as they are.
Concentration is the most critical limiting factor.
Some people are able to concentrate and devote themselves to work or study, and are able to accomplish a large number of tasks even if they don't spend much time.
However, some people are easily disturbed by the surrounding environment when performing tasks, often do some trivial things that are not related to the task, and think about things that are not related to the task, resulting in a lot of time being spent, but very little time that is really effective.
In addition, the large amount of time invested often creates the illusion of a "sense of fulfillment" and a lack of awareness of true efficiency.
For example
You may be planning to study in the library and have all your study materials and stationery ready in advance. When you get to the library, you order a cup of coffee, take out your study materials, and then take out your phone to take a picture and send it to Moments. Although people in the circle of friends may think that you are diligent, in fact, you may start expecting likes and browsing short videos after posting on your moments, and the day goes by like this, and you don't really learn anything.
This is a typical manifestation of "fake diligence".
Second, there are significant differences in the efficiency of dealing with transactions between different learning methods and thinking modes, which is especially prominent when learning new knowledge.
Taking learning English as an example, some people are able to quickly remember a large number of words through the understanding of word meanings and associative memory skills, and the memory is long-lasting;
Others, on the other hand, adopt a mechanical approach of repetitive memorization and reading and writing, which is of limited help to language mastery, despite the significant investment of time and effort.
Therefore, when dealing with affairs, we must pay attention to choosing the appropriate method, and we should solve the problem carefully and avoid blind action and waste of time.
3. Excessive pursuit of progress in one aspect
Focusing too much on one aspect of improvement is also a problem.
In contemporary society, people tend to evaluate individual abilities more based on comprehensive quality, not just a certain skill.
Although we often say that the cultivation of this kind of expertise is based on the all-round development of comprehensive quality.
We should understand that the lower limit of a person's ability, rather than the upper limit, is often the key to determining his social evaluation.
Being good at one area can add to your strengths, but if you have obvious shortcomings, those shortcomings tend to affect how others perceive you as a whole.
The Cask effect in psychology tells us that it is often our shortcomings that determine the height of a person's achievement.
Because of the fear of their own shortcomings and a strong enterprising spirit, many superficially diligent people often only work hard in the field they are good at, so as to gain a sense of achievement, and are blinded by these superficial advantages, ignoring the cultivation of all-round ability, resulting in frequent setbacks in practical work.
In the eyes of outsiders, these "fake hardworking" people seem to have been working hard and constantly learning.
But in reality, they are often unable to accurately assess their abilities and the goals they are striving for, and lack effective methods, often ending in failure.
And the negative effects of "fake diligence" are far more than that, because after a huge investment of time and energy, their expectations of themselves also increase, and once they encounter failure, they will feel great frustration and loss, which will seriously damage a person's self-confidence and lead to difficulty in extricating themselves.
In life, "fake diligence" is undoubtedly a waste of time and life. It is not laziness, but it is more terrible than laziness;
It's not really hard work, but it takes a lot more effort.
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