In the movie "10,000 Sentences Top Sentence", there is such a classic line: "When they are in love, they have endless words, and after they get married, they have endless quarrels." This sentence may have touched the deep resonance of many people's hearts. The sweetness of the early days of the relationship is gradually diluted by trivial matters over time, and the quarrels and cold wars between each other replace the gentle and thoughtful ones of the past.
Looking back, we may find that the original love time was full of infinite sweet words and affectionate hugs, but as time passed, we gradually put our minds on the minutiae of life. The busyness of work and the trivial things of life make us feel exhausted, and once our emotions are out of control, we often say hurtful words and consume each other's feelings.
However, not all romances fall apart because of this. Some couples, despite all the hardships and setbacks, are able to maintain a deep relationship. There is no big quarrel between them, and there is no cold war negativity, because they know how to maintain each other's love with their hearts.
For example, a friend of mine, he and his girlfriend have been together for seven years, but their relationship is still as sweet as when they first got together. They didn't really have a big argument with each other, and even when they encountered various challenges and difficulties in life, they were able to treat each other with their hearts instead of blaming and complaining about each other.
In their relationship, complaining and counting are transformed into concern and worry. They will use their minds to express their expectations and hopes for each other, rather than simply venting their emotions. Because they know that blindly complaining and blaming will only make each other more estranged, and expressing it with their hearts can make love last longer.
In addition, a friend confided in me that his relationship with his girlfriend has recently entered a white-hot stage. He doesn't understand why his girlfriend is always inexplicably angry, even though he has done his best to meet her demands. What he doesn't realize, however, is that his girlfriend's displeasure may be due to his silence and non-expression. While he was busy with work, he ignored his girlfriend's inner expectations and hopes, leading to misunderstandings and estrangements between them.
Therefore, in order to make love last, we need to learn to express our thoughts and feelings with our hearts, instead of silence and suspicion. Only communication and understanding between each other can make love deeper and make our feelings more durable.
"Love is the joy at first sight, and love must be a long-term experience. Therefore, we must take the initiative to communicate, to understand, to run-in, to get along, to express love in a special way, learn to speak well, and harvest happy love.