Unexpectedly, netizens quarreled again because of the Internet spectacle of "feudal restoration".
This time it's arguing about one thing at the same time, scolding a person.
The focus of the quarrel is whether a girl who has been funded for 8 years to change her fate by studying and going out of the countryside can marry a rich man and become a housewife.
Source: Weibo
What was scolded was the boiled elbow of the online concubine who was determined to give birth to 50 sons, and he came to dry his son in the room, and he is still giving birth.
Source: Weibo
But after arguing and arguing, her sister found that these two things were actually one thing in essence.
Women who expect to achieve class leaps by education (essentially spouses), and the free reproduction of wealth are simply two sides of the contemporary patriarchal family.
The old script of whether women can be housewives may have long been tired of many people.
However, after the boiling elbow came out to brush the lower limit, the problem became fresh and concrete.
"Realistic smart people" and "idealistic fools"
Let's start with the girl who made netizens quarrel for tens of thousands.
She is an all-too-common example of a woman climbing "up" and also achieving success in the secular sense.
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I almost dropped out of school in the third year of junior high school, was sponsored for 8 years, was admitted to university from the countryside, worked not long after graduation, and married a rich man to become a housewife.
The blogger who funded her studies, also a woman, was shocked by her choice.
There are certainly many reasons for girls.
She explained that she was not born in a good family, suffered a lot of hardships, and was admitted to an ordinary university, and her biggest advantage was only her young and good-looking appearance.
She believes that marriage is a second chance to be reincarnated, and this man is the one who can change her destiny.
Source: Little Red Book
Although the man is 13 years older than her, he is in very good financial conditions and is now in a hurry to have children.
Girls want to get pregnant and have several children as soon as possible, and the circle of friends is also related to travel, luxury goods, marriage and pregnancy.
Since studying is to change her fate, then she can be regarded as a wish to marry a rich man and become a housewife -
"I'm just taking a chance to change my destiny."
There are also many netizens who support her to seize the opportunity, saying that if she does not steal or rob, how to choose is her personal freedom:
Funding does not mean that you can intervene in planning people's lives.
To marry is to raise the class, upgrade your own circle, everyone has their own way of living, there is no need for moral kidnapping.
Changing one's fate can only depend on men.
Her education is a favorable condition to help her get out of poverty and marry a rich man.
Source: Little Red Book
But the bloggers who funded her studies were naturally disappointed.
The blogger, who is also a woman from a rural area, understands how difficult it is for girls to study, and she knows that women are no longer only the only way to get married, but the result of the joint efforts of generations of educated women.
She originally hoped that girls would go to the workplace after graduation, and "it is always good to study more and have their own career income."
Ironically, the blogger was also ridiculed by his mother for being too silly, "This girl is smarter than you".
Source: Little Red Book
Yes, for girls, it is more correct than "reading books to change destiny", apparently "learning well, doing well, is not as good as marrying".
Almost everyone encourages girls to take the easier and more mainstream path and be the smart person who recognizes reality.
But the reality is that it was not a man, not a marriage, that changed the girl's fate in the first place, but a strange woman from afar, and it was her sponsorship that gave her the opportunity to get an education.
But she turned around and used this opportunity as a dowry and bargaining chip to marry a rich man.
The old script has long been written.
Rich men are already raising their scythes ahead, waiting to harvest these girls who expect to make the class leap through marriage, and their beauty, womb and genes will be used to feed the male-centered patriarchal family.
This is a closed loop in which patriarchal families have run for thousands of years.
Who knows the benefits best?
Of course, it has to be a boiled elbow that dreams of choosing a concubine to have 50 sons.
Breeding cancers and objectified women
Cooking elbows and drying a room of children is nothing new.
At the beginning, he became popular by participating in the "Show-off Wealth Challenge" and basking the children who crawled all over the ground.
Source: Weibo
As soon as the door opened, children of international ancestry flocked to call "daddy".
This is clearly one of the highlights of a man's life.
Source: Weibo
He is the "light of China" and has fulfilled the ultimate dream of men.
He is the model of the "quality man", the man who men dream of becoming.
"When all mankind perished, so can your children and grandchildren."
"If the rich have this awareness, it will lead to a recovery in fertility."
Source: Weibo
Boiled Elbow himself is also deeply proud of this.
He feels that his greatest success in life is having more children, and he also idolizes Elon Musk, who already has 9 children.
But Musk is not qualified to be called reproductive cancer in front of him.
Source: Weibo
As the founder of a game company worth 27 billion, Boiled Elbow considers himself a top elite man who picks one out of a million.
He has a small goal of having 50 high-quality sons, and he also wants to cultivate 10 top elites with Wang Sicong as a benchmark.
Source: Weibo
"Having more children solves all problems" is his highest credo, and only the best sons can inherit his family property.
Source: Weibo
In order to achieve a strong desire for reproduction, Boiling Elbow publicly chose a concubine on Weibo five years ago, saying that giving birth to a child would give 2 million.
He objectified women from the inside out, appearance, figure, age, chastity, education... One by one, they were disassembled into conditions for choosing concubines, and women were used as uteruses that transmitted high-quality genes.
In order to give birth to better children, he valued women's IQ and education.
Deduction points for IQ below 120, plus points for studying medicine and education majors, preferably with high English proficiency.
Source: Weibo
In the eyes of boiling elbows, the best way for women to read is to get married and have children, mothers rely on their children, and cross classes.
Some outrageous statements are as follows:
"No matter how talented a woman is, it is not as good as finding a good man to marry and have more children."
"Girls should take care of themselves before they are 18 years old and become great beauties; Starting at the age of 18, set a goal to find a high-quality man about 10 years older than himself, and must look at money; You must get married before the age of 30, otherwise your life will be nullified. ”
"Those who shout 'independence' are stupid slut."
Source: Weibo
This set of values centered on reproduction, where women are regarded as people with self and feelings.
They are just containers for fetal parasitism, slaves for professional childbirth, resources extracted at will, children born one after another, and products that follow the law of superiority and inferiority.
Mother and son work together to perfectly consolidate the patriarchal family structure centered on the man who boiled the elbow, and when power is transferred to the next generation of men, the next generation of women will become containers, slaves and resources.
What is even sadder is that the propertied and powerful in this closed loop are always men, but the women, who are used as tools and can only cling to others, think that they have seized the opportunity and crossed the class.
They think that living a better material life means moving up the class, but they do not know that they are also a brick that builds a patriarchal structure.
Source: "Niang Dao"
Why does this toxic set of values always accurately target women who see marriage as a second reincarnation?
Even Principal Zhang Guimei's Huaping Girls' High School has a girl who studied hard for three years, climbed out of the mountains, graduated from college and became a housewife.
Of course, there is a set of consistent success studies at work.
Is a diploma the best dowry for a woman?
Traditional success studies have always been a double standard for both genders.
Advocating that if you have money, you can do whatever you want, and then capture several women, and realize the ultimate ideal of a group of wives and concubines and children crawling all over the ground, is a typical male success study.
Boiled elbows are typical and the object of collective envy of men.
The rich second generation represented by Wang Sicong can have several girlfriends without being morally condemned, also because men are successful if they have money, and they have all the legitimacy of their actions.
Wang Sicong and members of the girl group
Women's Success Studies, on the other hand, encourages all women to change their destiny through marriage, and the insights cultivated by reading are their bargaining chips for their class jump.
The two narratives are embedded in each other's patriarchal value system.
Therefore, when the sponsored beautiful girl went out of the countryside through her studies and encountered the breeding cancer of boiling elbows, which is rich and free and seeks high-quality mothers, it is difficult for both of them not to enter the same river.
I thought of what Yishu said:
"The best dowry for a girl is a prestigious school diploma."
She wrote that after graduating from a prestigious school in Xibao, she came into contact with a rich man who was more than forty years older than her, and committed herself to him as a mistress.
Source: "Xibao"
Girls covet the wealth empire of old men, and old men covet girls' youthful beauty.
If it happens now, there must be people who say "don't steal or rob, each takes what he needs", "everyone has his own way of living", "she seized the opportunity to change her destiny".
Women have always been encouraged to take the path that seems easy but unwittingly slides into the abyss, and they say that it is freedom.
But downward freedom is not freedom.
Women study wisely, get a diploma and walk an upward path, all efforts are certainly not to use themselves as sexual resources, fertility tools, and containers for transmitting genes, to be arbitrarily used or even extracted by men.
We must wake up from the traditional dream of success.
Feminist pioneer Marilyn French describes a common woman who is encouraged to choose downward, Mila, in her book "The Awakening Woman".
Source: Douban
Mila is a smart girl who loves to read since she was a child, but her mother has always told her that it is better to learn well than to marry well, and it is only reliable to bear a son to her husband. She gave in, got hastily married, lived in a big house, had two children, and became a happy housewife in the eyes of others.
But her efforts to be a perfect wife could not stop her husband from cheating, so she had to divorce.
The divorced Mira went all the way up, was admitted to Harvard University, and met true love again at the age of forty, but this man still wanted her to give up her life and marry him and have children.
But this time, Mira, who woke up, no longer jumped into the trap.
A friend asked her, "If you were together and had a child, would you forgive him in the future?" ”
Mira laughed: "Fuck the future!" ”
Mira woke up like the blogger who sponsored the girl for 8 years, seeing clearly the benefits of marriage and childbirth for men, the exploitation of women, and the meaning of reading for women.
Source: Little Red Book
Women do not study to be the wives behind successful men, mothers who raise excellent sons, and fuel to move families forward.
It is to be a person who walks independently, a person who writes capitalized by the achievement of work, the realization of self.
They can be Marilyn French, who left the book "Awakening Women" and inspired future generations of women.
It is Zhang Guimei, who is committed to women's education, and Tu Youyou, who has won the Nobel Prize for devoting herself to scientific research.
Tu Youyou gave a speech after winning the Nobel Prize
The achievements that women hold in their hands are far more powerful than the "Niang Dao" style of the praise of nothingness.
If you say that choice is free, but don't lose sight of it, history is cruel.
In the future, the one who can leave a name in history will obviously not be a housewife or a wealthy wife, they will only be drowned by generations of men.
And Tu Youyou and Zhang Guimei, who rely on knowledge and courage to go up, and have a lot of actions that men can't take away, will be remembered by history.
There are already too many "realistic smart people" who choose downward freedom, and women can make today's progress by relying on that small number of "idealistic fools".
Like that blogger said:
She is a "realistic smart person", I am an "idealistic fool", I just know that women are "realistic smart people" and go back 100 years.
Source: Little Red Book
It wasn't easy for us to get here.
So, refuse to be free downward, don't be the fuel for patriarchal families, don't go back 100 years.