At the beginning, I thought that the biggest hidden danger in the marriage of Bian Liang and Fu Xintong was Dongxiao, after all, since the return of Dongxiao, I almost didn't toss Bian Liang to death, first made a wedding photo incident, and then asked Bian Liang to resign.
If it weren't for Bian Liang's initiative to apologize, I don't know when Dongxiao would have tossed.
But later, my view changed - compared to Dongxiao, their family is the biggest hidden danger in their marriage.
The first is Bian Xiaofang's child, after all, most family conflicts start from educating children. However, for the two of them, although they do not agree on the matter of their children's study abroad, they both want their children to become talents, so to some extent, they are also allies, at most they are just different concepts.
In fact, it is the old man on the border, I have to say that the old man is very unreliable, especially the section where he takes his children to play games, even I, a self-proclaimed calm drama follower, feel hot. However, Old Master Bian is unreliable and unreliable, but in the marriage of his son and daughter-in-law, he has never played a counterproductive role.
The biggest time bomb in their marriage is actually Bian Liang's mother-in-law, from beginning to end, in the marriage of her daughter and son-in-law, Fu's mother has not played much positive role.
According to our usual cognition, mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, most of them like it the more she looks, but Fu's mother is not like this, in my intuition, although Fu Xintong and Bian Liang have been married for many years, even the child is already in the third year of junior high school, but in Fu's mother, I have never looked at Bian Liang.
Even if this son-in-law is already very filial to her, she still doesn't have the slightest good voice against Bian Liang.
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Fu's mother first appeared after Fu Xintong and they were deceived by a study abroad agency for one million.
That day, Fu Xintong went to visit his mother in a nursing home, and by the way, when he wanted to talk to his mother about lowering the service standard, before Fu Xintong could speak, Fu's mother saw that her daughter had something in mind.
Originally, I was still touched by Fu's mother's carefulness.
But before I could start to move, Fu's mother immediately began to say that Bian Liang was also responsible for this matter, and I guessed that the reason why Fu's mother was so anxious to jump up was because she was worried that her daughter would suffer a loss.
Not to mention that Fu Xintong has always been responsible for studying abroad, Bian Liang did not participate in it, and after being deceived, Bian Liang not only did not blame Fu Xintong, but also kept trying to solve the problem. Such accusations are really unreasonable.
Fu's mother's approach, at best, is a bit of a victimization delusion, and at worst, she subconsciously thinks that her son-in-law will definitely bully her daughter.
Even if Fu Xintong made it clear that this matter was her responsibility and had little to do with Bian Liang, she never changed her mind.
So, she turned over old accounts and blamed her daughter for not quitting her job to become a full-time housewife. We will not discuss whether Fu Xintong should resign, but to paraphrase the Internet, even if Fu Xintong resigned, he did not educate his children well, otherwise, Bian Xiaofang would not even be able to pass high school (of course, this statement is biased, after all, educating children is not the mother's business alone, and Bian Xiaofang's absence during the growth process of Bian Xiaofang does play a counterproductive role).
The most important thing is that many years have passed since this incident, and she is now bringing it up again, except to block her daughter, it has no effect at all.
Originally, in Fu Xintong's heart, he was still expecting his mother to comfort him, but he didn't want to not only get the comfort he wanted, but also suffered in vain.
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I originally thought that Bian Liang was not filial enough to deal with his mother, or that Bian Liang had done something sorry for Fu Xintong, so that Fu Liang had such a big grudge against Bian Liang.
But as of now, neither of these scenarios actually exists.
First of all, although Bian Liang had a relationship with Dongxiao, since Dongxiao appeared, what Bian Liang was most afraid of was that Dongxiao would hurt his family, and the reason why he was willing to resign and suffer was also to protect his family.
We often say that the fact that the former one crying and the current one must lose is impossible to happen to Bian Liang.
Secondly, as a son-in-law, Bian Liang can also be regarded as benevolent and righteous.
At that time, the family's financial situation was stretched thin (relatively speaking, for those of us who are extremely poor, we dare not even think about Bian Liang's kind of life), Fu Xintong wanted to lower his mother's accommodation standards in a nursing home, but Bian Liang did not agree, believing that his mother-in-law should not suffer.
Not only that, but later the nursing home called Bian Liang and said that he wanted to upgrade the service standard, although Bian Liang was helpless, but in my intuition, he would definitely pay the money.
I even feel that Bian Liang's filial piety to his mother-in-law has even surpassed his father.
It is undeniable that the old man of the frontier is uncomfortable, but what Bian Liang has done is at most to ask a nanny to help take care of it, which is more important than another, we can figure it out with our toes.
But even so, Bian Liang did not exchange for the approval of his mother-in-law, that time, Fu Xintong went to visit his mother in a nursing home, and Bian Liang did not dare to go upstairs, just for fear that his appearance would make his mother-in-law unhappy.
It is really rare for a son-in-law to do such a humble job.
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If you just look down on your son-in-law, it's nothing, after all, life is Bian Liang and Fu Xintong's own, as long as Fu Xintong himself identifies Bian Liang, their days will not be affected much.
I really can't understand that when facing her own family, Fu's mother is always a high-minded face.
Especially in that discussion about "eating chicken", Fu Mu obviously did not understand anything, but she was anxious to express her opinions, wanting to overwhelm the frontier, but did not want to make jokes with everything she said.
According to our usual understanding, Fu Mu should know more about the dress of an intellectual, but from this point of view, she is really inferior to the frontier.
Every time as long as the frontier was present, Fu's mother had to provoke a war, but he repeatedly lost battles, and each time he was not an opponent of the frontier, and then he complained to his daughter, as if all the responsibility was the old man of the border.
With such an in-laws on the stall, the old man on the frontier can be considered unlucky.
We feel that the frontier master is unreliable because he always plays games with Bian Xiaofang, but judging from the later plot, Fu's mother is not reliable, obviously the child is studying in the house, but she has been leading the war.
While standing on the moral high ground and accusing others, on the other hand, they are doing things that violate morality, such a persona, how to see how speechless (but I seem to be the same now).
To paraphrase a sentence on the Internet, no matter how noble Fu's mother was before, but now her food, clothing, housing and transportation, all rely on Bian Liang to pay, she is not qualified to point fingers at Bian Liang, take 10,000 steps back and say, we can accept her dissatisfaction with Bian Liang, after all, Fu Xintong sacrificed a lot for this family, but what does Frontier do, she is not qualified to speak?
After all, Frontier is Bian Liang's father, even if Frontier is wrong, it is not her turn to blame.
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In the eyes of Fu's mother, everything she did was for her daughter; But she forgot that along the way, in addition to blocking her daughter, she was rubbing her daughter's dignity on the ground-
That time, Fu Xintong took the initiative to invite Dongxiao to dinner, wanting to express his gratitude to Dongxiao, it was originally just an ordinary dinner, after all, the matter between Bian Liang and Dongxiao had really ended.
But no, she insisted on quietly following the past, and finally made a mess of everything. After making trouble outside, he returned home and accused his son-in-law in front of the whole family, putting his daughter's dignity under his feet. When she was blamed by her daughter, she instead blamed her daughter for not contending.
Knowing that the son-in-law did not do anything to be sorry for his daughter, he also had to say "are you not now" (I can't help but have a trace of doubt, whether she herself has suffered an unhappy marriage, so that everyone is a bad person).
Seeing others dressed brightly, she began to belittle her daughter. I feel that my daughter married Bian Liang and suffered great grievances. Take your daughter's friend as a benchmark, and want your daughter to feel that she is not having a good time.
Even if I am as stupid as me, I feel that if I want to say this, I should tell my daughter quietly, instead of belittled my daughter and son-in-law to nothingness in front of outsiders.
The most terrible thing is that since Fu's mother appeared, the most she has done is to teach her daughter how to handle her son-in-law.
Such a mother-in-law on the stall, although there is no problem with the relationship between Bian Liang and Fu Xintong now, sooner or later it will be a problem with her.
As a mother, planning for her daughter is a normal thing, but "care" and "planning" without a sense of boundaries can only add to the chaos and make things worse and worse.
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