After Yang Di's mother became popular, she did not dare to refuse any invitation to announce, because she was afraid that her refusal would affect her son's hard-won career.
After going on the show, she did not dare to talk indiscriminately, for fear that if she said something wrong, she would recruit her son and affect her son's development.
Pity the hearts of parents in the world, Yang Di's mother's caution makes people sigh.
But I never expected that Yang Di, who has always been protected by her mother, would "collapse" because of her relationship.
01 Do you have to get married in love?
A comedian "collapsed" because of a breakup, which is outrageous enough.
What is even more outrageous is the strange remarks and outdated ideas that appeared on the Internet after Yang Di broke up.
Yang Di's so-called collapse, in fact, the fundamental reason is that netizens subconsciously believe that if they are in love, they have to get married, and breaking up is a loss for women.
On the one hand, the loss is in reputation, on the other hand, in age, it seems that the women who broke up have become: victims who have been abandoned after delaying their youth.
Therefore, Yang Di, who was in love for many years and did not get married, finally ended in a breakup, was scolded miserably.
Things have developed to this point, and I can't help but ask: Do you have to get married in love? Does the breakup have to be a woman as the injured party?
People always feel that Yang Di and his girlfriend have been in love for more than ten years, from campus to society, from amateurs to stars, witnessing each other's growth and fame along the way.
Now that Yang Di is famous and rich, it's time to give an explanation to his girlfriend who has been in love for many years, and he needs to draw a successful end to this relationship.
If you don't do this, you are a bad man, you don't love, you have a new love, or you have money and become bad.
The last one who was so complained about was Shen Teng, who knew the Internet public opinion very helplessly, and once complained in the program: If I don't marry this marriage, I will become a sinner.
So, he proposed on the show and had a baby within many years.
However, watching the lively netizens came to another set of rhetoric:
Shen Teng was forced to marry.
Shen Teng used marriage to maintain word of mouth and image.
Shen Teng is no longer in love.
Wang Qi loved too humbly.
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Marrying is not either, not marrying is not, marrying is being forced to marry, not marrying is a negative man.
Similarly, Wang Qi was also complained.
Before marriage, he was scolded for being humble.
After getting married, he was scolded for his scheming.
In short, marrying or not marrying is wrong, but Shen Teng did not become the "sinner", and Yang Di chose to be the so-called "sinner".
As a result, he was scolded as a bad man, and his mother was scolded as an evil mother-in-law, even though he explained many times that the two were good to get together and disperse, and still got along as friends, he was still scolded to the fullest.
02 Is it bound to be happy if you fall in love?
Things are developing here, in fact, there is a problem, Shen Teng does not want to be a "sinner", so why can't Yang Di be this "sinner"?
Does a long relationship necessarily need to have a result? Does the woman necessarily want to get married? Will you be happy after marriage?
In fact, the longer the relationship, the easier it is to separate, and after the passion dissipates, all you see is each other's worst temper, the worst image, and the troubles caused by firewood, rice, oil and salt.
The longer you spend together, the more disappointment there will be, and if you save enough disappointment, there will be no motivation to continue.
It is not that the longer the relationship is in love, the stronger the relationship, and each other can resist all the hardships of life, in other words: love can not withstand all difficulties, suitable talents.
It is difficult for unsuitable people to be happy even if they love each other again, such as Liu Yun and Zheng Jun.
Because of the love together, they have been married for so many years and still have not run smoothly, the woman is sensitive, the man is big, and often angry, cold war, and quarrel because of each other's words.
In the eyes of outsiders, their way of getting along is very humorous, but only those who are trapped in it will feel suffocated.
The woman thinks that she is giving more, and the man always thinks that he is slowly getting better, but in fact, one who says that he pays more is still very sensitive and loves to find fault, and the other who says that he is slowly getting better is still very self-conscious and does not care about the woman's feelings.
They are in love with each other and love to the bone, but they are not suitable, so much so that they still spend so many years in quarrels, and they can't hide their temper in front of the camera.
Instead of living in such an environment for the rest of your life, it is better to make a decision as soon as possible, otherwise it will sink deeper and deeper.
People who love each other are not necessarily happy after marriage, and Yang Di and his girlfriend, who have not entered marriage for more than ten years, may have long been aware of this problem.
But one thing needs to be clear, a long time in love does not mean that the deeper the love, perhaps more dependence, habits, and family affection.
At that time, Chen He married his girlfriend of 13 years, and their love was comparable to a novel in the eyes of outsiders, but only those in the walls would know that the little love that was worn away by time was fragile.
Also, don't instinctively see women as victims after breakups, and don't hurt and "kidnap" women under the banner of helping women.
03 Breaking up is a loss for girls?
Yang Di's breakup and being scolded is outrageous, because she shouts about equality between men and women on weekdays, and women's consciousness is rising, and she is proud of her late marriage and childbearing, and being beautiful alone to advertise herself as an independent woman in the new era.
At this time, they all began to "fake justice", talking about women so humble and unloving, and men so desperate and taking the initiative.
Looking at these people's double-standard remarks, it is like the scene of being persuaded by the third aunt and six mothers-in-law who do not know the inside during the divorce.
On weekdays, I hate the behavior of the seven aunts and eight aunts pointing fingers at their feelings, and they are also very disgusted that their parents interfere in their feelings, desperately shouting on the Internet to be free, independent, and dashing, and not to be kidnapped by worldly vision and values.
However, when things happened to others, the theory of the seven aunts and eight aunts was directly moved up by these people.
Living as if you hate it but don't know it, you have to pretend that you are an insider who dictates the feelings of others, and in the process, you also reduce women to emotional victims and emotional passives.
Lip service shouts that divorced women still live dashingly, but what they actually do is to create marriage shackles to kidnap women, and create justice shackles to kidnap men.
Whether it's a breakup or a divorce, the idea that people instinctively see women as victims is inherently wrong.
No matter how many years of love is not a shackle to kidnap women, cohabitation or not is not a reason to denigrate women for not loving themselves, women have the right to pursue romantic love, and also have the right to refuse unhappy married life.
As long as you are happy enough when you are in love, why use marriage to put a shackle on this happiness?
In this relationship, does Yang Di's ex-girlfriend have to be a victim?
No, she's brave.
A person who dares to say goodbye to feelings as plain as water; A person who dares to bear the strange eyes of his relatives and friends; A person who dares to say goodbye to more than ten years of youth; A person who truly follows inner happiness.
Yang Di's ex-girlfriend is a warrior, a person who is truly rich and happy inside.
But when she was ready to pursue a new life, she passively became an "outcast", which is outrageous.
When words such as divorce, breakup, cohabitation, and woman are associated with words such as abandonment, humility, etc., it means that in the subconscious of people, women are still in a weak position in marriage.
In fact, women have the right to say no to unhappiness, and they are the masters of their thoughts.
But there is always a group of people who love to point fingers, with disdainful eyes and "sympathetic" words, to kill the power that belongs to women to find happiness.
There is no right or wrong in the matter of feelings, and only the parties know whether the shoes fit or not, and the fingers of outsiders are too ridiculous.
What's more ridiculous is that Yang Di communicated smoothly with his ex-girlfriend but was complained that it was too fake, Yang Di posted the original photo but was complained that it was P, and Yang Di confessed that he had been fulfilling his promise to his girlfriend but was complained that the property was not divided into half of the other party.
This kind of "false justice and true double standard", malicious speculation about the behavior of pretending to be a good person to hold grievances, is not necessary.
It is not difficult to see from this breakup turmoil that some people's thinking is still old and old-fashioned, some people's pattern and vision are still so narrow, and women still like to set moral shackles for women.
It's just that these people who create shackles have changed from the seven aunts and eight aunts next to them to "Justice No. 1" and "Justice No. 2" on the Internet...
04 Bravely saying goodbye is far happier than living a lifetime of pain
Break up peacefully, get together and scatter, two people who have been entangled for more than ten years bravely say goodbye to the past, and embrace a new life with anticipation, what a brave and beautiful thing.
The woman has assertiveness and courage, the man is not entangled and willing to be responsible, although the two are not on the same track, but they are riding on the train to happiness, isn't this the meaning of life?
If you are unhappy in love, why are you still in love?
If you are unhappy to get married, why get married?
Is it because you want to find a partner when you are old? Because you can't bear the eyes of your friends and family to find an explanation? Or do you just want to take your life and pass on the lineage?
Being brave enough to say goodbye to the past, brave to accept a new life, and brave to find happiness at your next stop is far happier than being stuck in the mud all the time.
Some people are always weird.
The two tortured each other, but they were reluctant to separate because they had been together for too many years.
The two people lived a mess of life, but they did not dare to separate because they had children.
Two people suffer more than happiness, but they swallow their anger because they are afraid of the eyes of others.
At this time, you may wish to think about what is the original intention of love and what is the purpose of marriage.
If 1+1<2, what is the meaning of two people being together?
Yang Di was outrageous by scumbags, and his ex-girlfriend was ridiculous by victims.
Because in this relationship, Yang Di has never been unruly in his private life, how did he become a scumbag?
The ex-girlfriend did not complain about anything from the other party, how did she become a victim?
All this is just malicious speculation from the outside world.
Just like speculating about Du Haitao, Shen Mengchen, and Shen Teng Wang Qi, it was as if they lived under their beds, and they "knew everything about the couple".
Yang Di broke up and saw not "men become bad", but the "justice" of netizens was torn to shreds.