Children who can make trouble and cannot make trouble from an early age, the gap is not a star and a half when they grow up

Wen | Yingma

The two-year-old Zichen and the disciple Bin were a month apart, the two lived in a big house, and usually the two people played together, but the way the parents of the two people taught their children was different. Zichen's mother learned a lot of parenting knowledge when the child was born, and also understood the different stages of the child, had different performances, and often followed the child's development to help the child.

And ZiBin's mother raises children according to the old experience, raising a special squeamish, which also does not allow children to do, that does not allow children to do, and everything hopes to help children do properly.

The two cousins were particularly fond of making trouble when they were two years old, seeing that their mother swept the floor, both of them rushed to sweep the floor, and Zichen's mother would give the broom to the child and teach the child how to sweep more cleanly, ZiBin's mother said: "You are so small, you don't need you to help your mother, your mother will come by herself, the more you sweep the dirtier, it is better for the mother to sweep alone," so Zibin did not have the opportunity to sweep the floor.

Get up in the morning to get dressed, Zichen said mom I wear it myself, my mother praised Zichen, our family Zichen grew up and learned to dress by themselves. Zichen was very happy, and then the button was reversed, and her mother taught Zichen to pull the clothes flat, and then button the buttons, so that the buttons would not be buttoned, and after zichen buckled twice, he could wear the clothes neatly.

And Zibin said, mom I want to wear my own clothes, but my mother said we are in a hurry to go to school, you will not wear it, your mother will just wear it for you.

Therefore, Zichen's mother will go with the flow when the child is mischief-making, and slowly teach the child to be independent. When the child likes to do housework, he also learns to let the child do it, although the child does not do well, but then the mother would rather clean up the mess than hit the child, but Zi Bin's mother is different, he feels that the child plays by himself, eats well, housework, dressing and other small things on the mother to help him get it and save time.

Slowly, when the cousins grew up, they found that the gap was getting bigger and bigger, and Zichen became confident and independent, but Zibin was raised to be a son, who would not do anything, and would cry his nose to find his mother when he encountered any difficulties.

Children who can trick or can't trick from a young age will grow up to be bigger and bigger

★ Independent gaps

Children who can trick from a young age are the mothers who are subtly letting go, letting the children go independent, letting the children eat by themselves, letting the children wear their own clothes, and letting the children slowly help their mothers do housework, so the children who can trick things from an early age will be more independent.

Children who can't make trouble from an early age rely on their mothers for everything, and the child's independence becomes very poor.

★ Confidence gaps

No one is born to know anything, even when an adult encounters a strange thing, it needs to be learned. In the learning process will also make mistakes, children will make mistakes when learning to wear clothes, adults do not stand in the perspective of adults to see, but let children make mistakes, and then teach children to correct children, in order to truly learn such a thing.

So children in the learning process, many parents feel that children are making trouble, in fact, children are learning is trying, children from a young age can get the opportunity to learn and try, after growing up will be more confident, and then encounter a new thing, new challenges when the child will be confident to complete it.

But from an early age, it is not allowed to make trouble, everything is arranged properly by the mother, the child, he will not have self-confidence when doing a new thing, feel that he will not do it, and need others to help, so there is a very large confidence gap.

★ The mindset gap

Before we had a bully in junior high school, we could take the first place in the whole school every time, and we were a student in our hearts, but then a small thing happened, and the good impression of the bully directly in our hearts plummeted.

It turned out that the school organized a two-day study tour outside, and that night it was outside. You have to take care of yourself when you live by yourself, and as a result, you don't even understand how to squeeze toothpaste, and your clothes can't be washed. The classmates who lived with him were stunned.

And this bully also had a good academic performance in high school, but later heard that when he went to college, he was criticized by the teacher for two sentences and then he couldn't think of depression.

Because he has had a smooth ride along the way and has never experienced setbacks, his mentality is very poor.

And when the child makes trouble when he is a child, he actually knows that he is not too capable of doing a thing, he likes to imitate the trouble, in the process of imitation he will fail, and when he fails, the child will continue to work hard, this time is a good time to cultivate the mentality, will let the child know a thing, not once can succeed.

And a child who can't make trouble from an early age, it is difficult to experience the feeling of frustration, and then after he grows up and then experiences setbacks, his mentality may easily collapse.

Seeing this, parents know whether to make trouble for their children, right?

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