After becoming a parent, the circle of friends becomes the baby's territory. From birth to adulthood, every time he was naughty and mischievous, every time he was cute to foul, he wanted to record and "post" it in the form of images.
Especially after posting in the circle of friends, sharing the joy of the baby's growth with everyone, and receiving a large number of likes and comments, this satisfaction may only be experienced by the mother.
My inner monologue after giving birth
In the broadcast of the "Please Mother" program, we did a survey on the Internet to show that the most commonly posted on the Internet is "anytime and anywhere to shoot on the sun" and "the baby goes out to play scene", the baby art photos also account for a large part, there are also some mothers will dry what they buy for the baby.
Recording everything about the baby itself is a very beautiful thing, but recently there is such a mother, who actually provoked personal attacks on the baby because of the baby, and the other party said that "the child is so ugly, strangle it"!
Here's the thing:
On May 20th, Ms. Zhang and her five friends gathered with their children for a meal, during which she passed the group photo of the six children to her circle of friends.
But not long after, Ms. Zhang found that her former colleague Ms. Zhao also sent this photo, but it was accompanied by the following text: If you let me know that 3- and 4-year-old children are so ugly, I will strangle them early and strangle them.
After Ms. Zhang's "Sunwa Storm" was exposed on the Internet, some people said that Ms. Zhao's criticism of children should be condemned; but some people said that it may also be that Ms. Zhang has been brushing the screen normally, which has attracted Ms. Zhao's bad words.
In fact, objectively speaking, every mother has more or less posted a baby in the circle of friends. Shewa can not only relieve the pressure of the mother with the baby, but also a way for the mother to maintain interaction with the outside world. In theory, how to dry and dry anything is beyond reproach, but if you think about it carefully, you will find that "mother's circle of friends" can more or less reflect the quality of a mother.
If a mother's photos are always pleasing to the eye, then this mother must also have a pair of eyes that are good at finding beauty; but if a mother always rotates her baby's daily life for 24 hours, she can basically judge that this mother is a relatively simple, but not well-thought-out mother.
So the circle of friends is no small matter, but you may not have seriously thought about it. The way of the baby is not right, not only can not get the "re-evaluation praise", may also bring you unexpected harm to the baby. It is said that there is a "chain of contempt for the baby" circulating on the Internet, the following several ways of the baby are the least pleasing, let's see if you are on this chain of contempt
and urine farts are sunburned
What did the 24-hour "hegemonic live broadcast" baby do
Endless canvassing for praise
Show off the rich-style sunbathing
Sunshine awards, sun achievements, like a baby is a genius
Borrow the name of the baby and take a selfie
These 6 ways of sunbathing are annoying to anyone
It's just that no one told you!
and urine farts are sunburned
Imagine that you are eating lunch beautifully, brushing the circle of friends to see, a lump of yellow will come into view.
In the program, the national uncle Jianian said that he had experienced similar things: a friend started from the baby pulling the soup in the morning, to eating two more spinach at noon, and then to what time of night to sleep, every large and small node in the day, will pop out everything about the baby...
Indeed, everything about the baby is cute in the eyes of the mother, and a little growth and progress can make the mother overjoyed. Since it is sunburned, it is for everyone to see. But they won't love everything about your baby as much as you do, what kind of soup your baby pulled today, ate a few spinach at noon, vomited a few times before going to bed... There is no interest, and even bored with seeing it. Therefore, it is still a kind reminder to the mother to consider the viewer's feelings before drying the baby, and not to eat and drink the baby's food and drink in every detail, and to dry out everything.
What did the 24-hour "hegemonic live broadcast" baby do
Some mothers have entered a state of peaking - meals can not be eaten, money can not be earned, children must be dried, 365 days a year, 24 hours a day, not a day has fallen, and sometimes several circles of friends that make no difference at all.
"Baby laughed today", "Baby cried", "Baby is sick"... Refresh the circle of friends and pull down, the screen is full of such words. Even if the baby does a handicraft, he will shoot several WeChat videos in a row and send them out...
Although the baby is indeed cute, the circle of friends is a public platform after all, so the "hegemonic screen baby" is easy to be blacked.
Endless canvassing for praise
"Hey, do a favor to vote for the 23rd" "Trouble throwing the 42nd, my girl has a little more competition this month, and it will depend on you later" Many people should have experienced this kind of thing, once and for a while it is a show of hands, and it is easy to cause trouble to others if the number is more.
Especially those who like moral kidnapping, holding the idea that casting is your obligation, not voting is not sentimental, forcing others to vote, like, and even not only posted in the circle of friends, but also sent private messages to "friends" one by one, this behavior is really a bit excessive!
Show off the rich-style sunbathing
This kind of sun baby should belong to the most hateful way, the baby wears, the use of various valuable luxury goods, once in a while, you can also laugh a few words, but if the content of the circle of friends is nine times out of ten is this kind of content, it is estimated that it belongs to the "dislike". In addition, often so sunbathing, the baby may also develop this unpopular "love to show off" personality when he grows up.
Such a sunbathing, without exception
Likes, comments section "a desolate"
Sunshine awards, sun achievements, like a baby is a genius
There is also a category of mothers who like to bask in all the achievements of the baby, "today the baby scored 100 points in the exam", "My daughter will memorize 100 Tang poems at the age of 3", "My son got xxx stars today"...
Some time ago, there was also a mother who was kicked out of the group because she posted the admission letter of the child's key university in the group. We leave aside the causes and consequences of this matter for the time being, but we have to admit that the behavior of being keen on showing off children's grades is always unpleasant.
After the child has made some progress, it is natural to be happy when the mother is happy, which is the common sentiment of people. But if the sunbathing is all these, it is too deliberate.
Borrow the name of the baby and take a selfie
Speaking of this, a friend who has not yet had a child once complained to me, there is a mother in her circle of friends, who is keen on "sunbathing", but every time she uses the baby to take a selfie, or the kind of 10-level beauty + skin polishing + thin face, and finally add a filter selfie, completely disregarding that the baby in the photo has been "ugly out of the sky".
Click on her circle of friends, often like this:
"Today the weather is really good, take the baby to the park to bask in the sun", attached 9 photos, 8 of which are their own selfies, only one is a photo with the baby, and P figure P to the baby's face are deformed!
Mothers with high emotional intelligence are like this
Premium black + cold humor, favorability up up
Although we do not encourage everyone to "black baby", if the black is very advanced, it is difficult to bring a little sense of humor and make others not like it.
Especially after work, if anyone posts such a picture in the circle of friends, it can make people laugh out loud in an instant, not only winning the empathy of "it turns out that everyone is raising bear children", but also reflecting the high emotional intelligence of a mother.
Such "beauty" everyone loves to see
The heart of beauty is everyone's heart, cute dolls are more likable, it can be said that the circle of friends regardless of men, women and children can kill ah!
What we call "beauty" does not only mean "high appearance", such as when the light just hits the baby's face, no matter what angle it looks; for example, the baby walks in front, you can take a very meaningful back photo... These are all better than the same almost the same expression of the 9th house grid, casually put to the circle of friends that can get 32 likes!
In this way, Shewa can not only get a lot of likes
Looking at the loving comments, the old mother is worth it no matter how tired she is
Close-ups are more "advanced" than the whole
If you think that a certain part of the child is particularly good-looking or want to show something new, you can also only show a certain part of the child, such as eyes, mouth, small hands, etc., especially the smaller the child, the more the effect is the more people feel Q cute!
Mom loves food and travel
There is a mother in my circle of friends who makes a variety of pleasing supplementary foods for the baby every week, and every time she sees me, she is in a particularly good mood and sincerely wants to like it.
Although I am usually busy at work and can't change the way to make food for my son every day like she does, as long as it is the weekend, I will open her circle of friends and make a hearty meal for my son.
There are also photos of the little ones when they travel, and it is estimated that every mother loves to watch. When you meet someone you know, ask two more questions, "Is it fun there?" Is it worth going with kids? "How about where you live?" Are there many people? ”...... Free and reliable travel guide get!
These are several dangerous ways to dry your baby
Don't use it!
In recent years, various "pedophiles" and "child sexual assault" news have emerged in an endless stream. Previously, Douban netizens exposed a well-known big V to pay attention to a large number of pedophile accounts, pointing out that it was suspected of pedophilia. Not to mention whether he is really a pedophile, just looking at the photos with obvious sexual implications in his various large and small accounts, it is enough to make many parents tremble.
When we browsed pedophile websites, we found that many of the photos were of children collected by social media:
These mothers don't know, if these mothers know the photos they share with their friends, they are perverted as pornographic pictures, and they don't know how angry they should be!
Not only that, but there was once an experiment in which he analyzed more than 700 microblogs sent by a mother every day and came up with a report that recorded the results he got:
You can imagine how easy it would be to hurt if this information was obtained by a well-intentioned bad person! This is also why we recommend that you do not expose your child's "all-round" appearance.
Therefore, don't be blind to the sun on the Internet, it is beautiful to be right, and it is a nightmare to be wrong! The following are resolutely not allowed to dry:
1. Private photos (such as bath photos, dew photos) must not be sunburned
3. Do not dry your baby's distinctive features (such as birthmarks).
4. Photos and documents containing important information (home address, school attended, etc.) should not be posted
5. In large groups with many eyes, don't send photos of children
Therefore, online sunbathing is not just a matter of taking a photo and adding a paragraph of text, and the mysteries of this also need to be experienced by mothers themselves
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