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Why do people have a family? Because life is not easy, need to find someone to help? If you think so, it is simple, and the main reason is to try to achieve a piece of peace in the depths of the spirit.
The Weakness of Human Nature mentions:
"Entering the halls of marriage makes people feel more secure than living alone, and although life for two people is not necessarily comfortable, it does feel more secure." Marriage may make you happy or it may make you sadder; marriage may make life more joyful, and it may also make life more painful. ”
In the event of some major life changes, continuous frustration, and betrayal, the family will always support you with love and generosity, so that you can re-establish a new belief in life.
All in all, home still feels safe and enjoyable no matter what.
It is said that without suffering from others, do not persuade others to be good, in fact, the same truth, you do not know what life without a home is all about, including specific feelings, experiences, you can not help but think.
At the moment you have a family, children around, standing and talking without waist pain. I also advise you not to think too well of divorce, and not to be sure that celibacy is freedom and happiness. Even if it is a kind of happiness, it is something that many ordinary people, ordinary people, cannot perceive, and finally become painful and collapsing.
For most people, home is always meaningful, the most beautiful in the world, and the place that can awaken the most beautiful emotions in the human heart.
Man needs a home, just as the body needs a place to go, and the soul needs a place to go.
Home is also a place to cultivate love, so that you will love, understand love, and have the love to care for friends, relatives, and colleagues outside. Many people who do not have a home, their personality is likely to be gradually corrupted.
People who know how to care about people on the outside, and people who care about the ability to care for others, don't believe you to see, they often have a relatively happy family behind them, the reason why they are relatively happy is because absolute happiness does not exist.
To some extent, home is the spiritual pillar, the belief and motivation for the pursuit of life, no matter where you are, there is a home, the heart is determined, the heart is solid.
Men especially need a home in life, while women especially need a home spiritually.
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There are always people who imagine divorce and celibacy life as incomparably wonderful, looking for a dance partner with feelings in the square, and looking for girlfriends to go shopping when they are bored, including the planning of walking into a nursing home together.
Leaving aside, whether you have a girlfriend or not, whether you are a real girlfriend, even if you are a real girlfriend, whether you can really accompany you is unknown. The premise of the will depends on whether she has a family, and if there is a family with children, it is that you think too much, even if she promises again.
And if you have no one to go to a nursing home, you can chat and play cards inside and enjoy your old age? Don't live so much in fairy tales, when you are fine, you can go to the nursing home as a volunteer to see the real situation inside.
What you may see and hear will be something you can't imagine.
In addition, take dancing, travel and other things, you have a family and no family, the mood, psychology and state of doing these things are not the same.
Tell a real story about yourself.
There are couples in their 50s, the family is harmonious and there is money, and the wife likes to dance and travel when she is fine, and every time she does these things, she feels extremely satisfied and happy. I often think that if I am divorced and do not have to be bound by my partner, then life is not better.
This is when there is a home, she thinks so.
Later, her husband had an extramarital affair, and her temperament was relatively fierce, and she could not tolerate sand in her eyes, so she divorced. The husband gave her all the property, except for the business, and just after her divorce, her only daughter also married far away.
Later, she regretted it, regretted the divorce, although she got a lot of money after the divorce, but in her next life, did she keep the money? That feeling of old and helpless loneliness was eroding her all the time, and even every day was very panicked. Lived most of his life, worked hard for most of his life, paid for most of his life, and finally got money and his home was empty.
Have thought about finding another one, but at this age, they still have money, people who understand naturally understand, the main reason, they do not have that kind of feelings.
No values are preached here.
At this time, when I went to dance and travel, I didn't have any mood at all, I only felt tortured, and it was better to lie down and sleep. This is not because of the fact that the divorce was not accepted, but because the family was gone, mentally unstable, psychologically very panicked, and the whole person became a duckweed on the surface of the sea, unable to get close to the shore.
Guarding her own money every day, facing the huge house, empty, in addition to her own voice, no other voices, no life, causing her spirit to begin to depression, in fact, she was once a very optimistic person, only at this time, deeply realized how important home is for a person's nourishment.
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Celibacy is freedom? To tell the truth, the biggest sadness of middle-aged and elderly women is that they do not have a home!
When you are young, you have friends and energy, but as you get older, the circle of life becomes narrower and narrower, very rich, but how much you can spend yourself, and then you will find that real life does not need much money, but also needs spiritual pillars.
When you don't have to worry about money at all, you will pay great attention to your inner destination.
The simple meaning is that when you have a home, the home will provide you with a steady stream of enthusiasm, passion, feelings, do what you like, it will become very interesting, make yourself happy and satisfied.
But there is no home, the spiritual pillar has been removed, and everything will feel boring and boring.
Money is just money, the house is just the house, the car is just the car, for the middle-aged and elderly people is just an external thing, not attractive, their happiness and happiness, will no longer be obtained from the material.
Thinking that celibacy is freedom and certain happiness, and many times it is just your vision and yearning for another life in the existing state of life. Choosing this kind of life, and longing for that kind of life, choosing that kind of life, and longing for another kind of life, people will always be like this.
So in a way, people are always subjectively biased, and they never know what they really want, unless they can compare themselves with this life.
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