At the entrance of the custody class campus, a mother said to her son: "In the future, when going to school and leaving school, you should greet your parents and teachers, thank your parents before and after eating, and say that your parents have worked hard." ”
Son: "Didn't you train me as a kitten and a puppy by doing this?"
Mother: "We do so many things for you every day, it is not too much for you to say "thank you, hard work" and so on. ”
The son continued, "Doesn't it say that maternal love is selfless?"
Mother: "The love of parents for their children is selfless, but the love of children for their parents should also be selfless. Everyone's needs are the same. You want to be enjoyed and taken care of more, and other people also want someone to take care of themselves in this way. ”
Today's family attitude is not as dogmatic as it used to be, but that doesn't mean they can be selfish and rude.
Without gratitude, there will be no way to cherish, let alone "the lamb kneels, the crow feeds back".
This may be why 3 years ago, the 12-year-old Hunan teenager would say that cold-blooded sentence to the extreme:
"I'm not killing anyone else, I'm killing my mother."
There is a hot question on Zhihu: "Born in a fourth-tier city, your parents can't bring any help to your career, are you still grateful?" ”
This is the hidden corner of the heart of many children, as if everything their parents do is natural, but if they cannot bring benefits to themselves, they must be resentful.
Some people say, "Parents are the world's most useless 'mother and baby products', after we have used it, they are thrown away like diapers?" ”
We acknowledge that there are layers of material people and people, families and families, but parents have done their best to fulfill their lifting.
When you're chasing quality of life and drinking coffee and eating steak, parents in your hometown may be wearing old clothes they bought a few years ago to help you worry about the down payment of the house.
When you run wildly toward poetry and far away, wearing brand names, behind you may be the hurried life of your parents.
Suddenly, I remembered a sentence:
"If our parents are still as hard as ever, what is the point of growing up?"
Even if there are too many unsatisfactory things in life, even if there is no grateful heart, we should not be deeply in love with your cousin who has seen your son messed up, and also seen the 79-year-old mother who was slapped by her daughter on the sofa...
Although I don't think about "raising children and preventing old age", there is a question that always echoes in my mind:
I will also have children of my own, and in a few decades, what will my old age be like?
The answer is actually very simple, as the writer Wang Weihua said:
"Today's elderly is the tomorrow of middle-aged people, and it is also the day after tomorrow of teenagers."
I don't want to raise filial piety children, and I don't want to be desolate at night. We must do 10 words: "Treat yourself as a human being and treat your children as human beings." ”
Kneeling parents can never raise children who are standing. In the same way, a lying child will always be just a white-eyed wolf who does not understand gratitude.