Want to know what kind of psychology men are when they are in love? Today's video is a bit long, but it is all true in the world, especially the last one, after watching it you will understand, especially the girls in love brain, we must collect it, learn to treat love rationally like a man, so that you can not suffer losses in your feelings!
Let's say that most girls are in a very passive position in love. For example, a girl she was originally single, suddenly approached by a man, and then began to launch a fierce attack on her, very good to her, so that for a period of time, the girl may slowly let down her defenses, if in this process, the boy is not wrong, she will also fall in love with the boy.
But does this girl really like this boy? Not necessarily, she is most likely in love with this guy who is good to her, rather than what kind of person he is in essence, and whether he is suitable for herself.
So this relationship develops to the later stage, basically the girls pay and accommodate more and more, why? Because you will think about what you have to do to make him continue to love you, continue to be good to you, and in the end, you will completely forget what kind of love you really want.
And the boys? This logic is basically invisible to them, because they are very active in their relationships, so they are more purposeful, and most of them are very clear about whether chasing you is for temporary pleasure or really wanting to marry you.
Especially adult men who have entered the society, most of them understand what kind of feelings and partners they need, and they are also very good at sticking to their own preferences and needs, you do not meet his preferences and needs, then even if you are good to him, he will not really like you.
So got it? Girls, you must have your own principles and frameworks, know exactly what you want, and have the courage to stick to your ideals and goals, rather than being casually coaxed away by men's rhetoric.
You must understand a truth, men will always only bow to reality, you are valuable, he will be attentive to you, you are low value, then he will perfunctory you.
I often get asked a question by girls, that is, why do boys say they love her, but they are usually not even happy to talk to themselves?
Want to hear the truth? The truth is in his heart, and you only deserve him to do this to you. I know the relationship you want to talk about is two people investing more time and energy into love together, but do you know what men are thinking? He's thinking about your worth and how much effort he needs to put in in exchange for that value.
If in his eyes, you are worth a lot, then he feels that he needs to pour a lot of energy into leaving you behind, otherwise you will leave, and if in his eyes, your value is very ordinary, not worth his expense, he feels that he can perfunctory, occasionally give some sweetness, or praise you are almost.
So girls, I really suggest that you should take more time to run yourself and appreciate yourself than thinking about how to be better and love him more every day.
To be honest, for many men, choosing to fall in love is more of a supplement to themselves, and the proportion of love in their lives is really not as large as you think.
Many girls always feel that why boys are so hard when they chase themselves, and after chasing them, it is like changing a person, it is because of the difference in the thinking of men and women.
Girls feel that the establishment of a relationship is the beginning of love, will be with the passage of love time, the focus of life on the feelings of two people, but and this idea is very different, boys after entering a relationship, he will feel that their stage tasks have been completed, you can start the next journey, you can also understand that they will not be born with love as the whole of life.
So in the same way, girls, you should not always be easily trapped by love, fall into love can not extricate yourself, but learn to be like a man, see the situation clearly, carry the situation clearly, even if you are emotional, you can quickly return to a rational choice, both will love passionately, but will not be overly dependent.
Do you understand? As long as you first understand the reality of love, and then go after love, you are wise.
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C