The other day I had a comment below my article that said:
This netizen is after the eighties, 38 years old, in the past two years, the bone has lost more than 500,000 yuan, and the work has been naked for two years.
During this period, he has been working to support his family, and his wife earns 90,000 yuan a year.
Fortunately, the house has no loan, a child, and now the child training class is also less, and it costs about ten thousand a year.
The elderly on both sides of the family have retirement wages, and they do not have to worry about their physical health.
In the past few years, it is not the time to do anything, it is difficult to find a job, just don't think about anything, lie down.
Every day, mop the floor to cook and take care of hygiene, consciously do a good job in home logistics, and thank my wife for her understanding.
In fact, after reading this passage, my first reaction is to be very envious!
Let's dig up the hidden information of this netizen:
First of all, he can lose fifty, indicating that the principal is certainly not low, at least much more than most people's deposits;
Secondly, the wife's annual income is 90,000, in fact, a family of three, as long as the reasonable expenses are definitely more than enough;
The third is that both parents have retirement wages, do not ask their children for money, and may have spare energy to help their children subsidize, how happy.
In fact, this is already a very highly matched family, there are wood!
The era of "male outside the female protagonist" has long passed, and it is already a feudal old yellow calendar.
Just said that boys are also not easy to find a job, and the real troubles are common.
I also have middle-aged men around me, who have been in a state of family cooking for the past few years, and their lives are OK.
What are the benefits of this choice? Really? Let's try to analyze it.
Is "housewife/husband" also counted as work? Or at least a social identity?
Man is a social animal, bound to be connected to the world in some way.
The most common way to "connect" is work for adults.
Are you a doctor? worker? Or a teacher? Or a fund manager? Delivery man?
With work, there is a "label", an identity, on a social level.
Housewives/husbands are of course one of them.
Housewives/husbands do not receive direct remuneration for their labor, but this does not mean that they do not work.
The situation is different for each family, but a competent housewife/husband does not lie at home all day and watch TV, but is very busy.
Working women have always preferred to go out to work, but next door to us, such as the Toyo Island country, housewives/husbands used to be very common.
Because the husbands worked overtime all day and could only sleep when they arrived at home, the housewives took on all the responsibilities of the family. Taking care of a family is already tiring and annoying, and the education and care for children is a bottomless pit.
Second, to become a housewife/husband, are the family conditions really allowed?
In some foreign families, it is true that wives do not go out to work, and the pattern of concentrating on taking care of the family at home is very common.
But there is a big premise here: they can support the family on the salary of their husbands.
Given the current situation, this should be difficult for most people.
Asked a few netizens with annual salaries of tens of thousands, and a few former colleagues who were programmers, they said that their income has dropped a lot in the past two years, and now the family's economic pressure is very large.
"Being a housewife? Rely on the wife's salary to pay back the house?? ”
"My husband and I are not paid enough to spend, we have to work overtime, and the children have to be left to the care of the old man and the old lady."
"Stop dreaming."
A small part of it is showing off, in "Versailles", and most of the rest is really distressed.
According to the statistics of previous years, three or four out of a hundred people have reached the level of tens of thousands of monthly salaries, and most of them are concentrated in first-tier and quasi-first-tier cities. Their high wages have been offset by a higher cost of living.
But even they all said that they could not consider staying at home and not going out to work.
Among the colleagues contacted by xiaobian, there are only two exceptions.
One sister is doing software testing, and there is a little boy.
They stayed at home after the company was dismissed in 20 years and did not go out to work.
But the test sister's husband is a seafarer, and it seems that he makes a lot of money.
And the boy's family was originally very rich, only a few years after graduation, he opened a big Olympic, and there were several houses under his name.
After his job was gone, he ran a live game at home, not knowing if he had made any money.
The above fully shows that without a certain family condition as the basis, most people cannot become housewives/husbands.
Third, the possibility of making money while being a housewife/husband?
Some students want to make money at home, and if they can take care of their families while also earning some income, it is perfect.
It's really hard to change into the past. The so-called possibility of housewife/husband making money generally refers to taking advantage of free time to do odd jobs.
...... You don't want to go, do you? If the mind is so "flexible", then it is early to go to work.
Working from home is now common, careers are diversifying, and there are theoretically more opportunities to make money.
But no matter what you do, you need to be proficient in a certain skill, to be able to stand alone.
For example, writing programs, drawing pictures, and even playing games well can also be done.
Without this premise, the result of going out and blindly touching around with a glimmer of hope will only be [being deceived].
If you lack this skill, and you can't find a job for practical reasons, have you considered calming down and concentrating on learning something?
If the economy allows you to do so, give it a try!
discuss:
Are you a housewife/husband? Please share your life experience with you.
If not, then are you considering becoming a housewife/husband?
Welcome to share in the comments section.