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Some people say that there is a kind of poisonous chicken soup for the soul that is "you are responsible for being beautiful as a flower, and I am responsible for making money to support the family".
Some women believe this and are bent on making a good-looking "vase", not thinking of making progress, and counting on future marriages to support themselves.
However, what is hard to understand is that later they suddenly realized that men are also concerned about women's income, and if women have no income or low income, it may be difficult to enter a better marriage.
Economic income has become a "hard condition" for men to choose women.
The higher the income of women, the more advantageous they are in the marriage market; on the contrary, women with lower incomes are always frequently cold in the marriage market.
A friend's cousin, with a high appearance and a higher heart, is bent on marrying a rich man.
Later, someone introduced her to several boyfriends, all of whom were relatively rich, but the first time they met, when people asked her about her income, they never had the following.
A friend's cousin works as a clerk in a large shopping mall, earning four or five thousand a month, and the few blind dates she is blind dated are the kind that earn hundreds of thousands of dollars a year.
My friend's cousin couldn't understand that these rich men only had to find a good-looking woman, so why should they care about her income!
In fact, not only does she not understand, many girls have such questions:
Is a man with a monthly salary of thirty or forty thousand willing to marry a woman with an annual salary of thirty or forty thousand?
The following three men gave the answer to this question.
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First: The income gap often represents the difference between the three views.
Once had a male friend who was working as a middle-level manager in a foreign-funded enterprise with an annual salary of half a million.
When someone else introduced him to his girlfriend, he made clear conditions and must find a woman with the same income as him.
What he really cares about is not money, but the three views hidden behind his earning ability, as well as those superior qualities and abilities, which are more interesting to him.
Indeed, if a person has a strong ability to earn money, this proves that ta will not only make money, behind this, it may be ta's high education, high IQ, high emotional intelligence, high pattern and so on.
Therefore, a high-income man will be more inclined to find a high-income woman as a wife, because only in this way can they have a more similar three views and a more matching soul.
At the end of the day, it's not for the money, it's for the more important things behind the money.
As the saying goes, behind every successful man, there is a very powerful woman.
This is because these successful men did not choose a "vase" when choosing a woman, but chose a woman who could stand shoulder to shoulder with him or help him succeed.
This kind of woman either has a broad vision, a very high level of insight, a large enough pattern, or has outstanding ability. In short, it is definitely not the kind of woman who will only rely on men.
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Two: Different insights, not easy to attract each other.
Rhonda Byrne wrote in her book The Secret:
All human mental activity produces a certain frequency, and this frequency is like the signal used by cuckoos for courtship and the ultrasonic waves used by bats to explore the way. It attracts the same frequency, triggers resonances, and thus draws anything involved in our mental activities to us.
This is the Law of Attraction.
What kind of person you are, under the law of attraction, you are often attracted to whom.
This is also the reason why "things are clustered by kinds, and people are divided into groups".
The same is true for relationships or marriages, where people who are similar or similar are more likely to attract to each other.
As a result, high-income men and high-income women also tend to be attracted to each other.
Conversely, high-income men and low-income women are less likely to attract each other, in large part because of the difference in insight.
My cousin was young and promising, and he started his own company in his twenties.
He is very cautious about his feelings, and has never succeeded in blind dates many times.
Finally, once, he met a good girl through blind dates, beautiful looking, gentle, but with a low income.
At first, the cousin did not care, after all, he did not expect women to support the family after marriage in the future.
Once, he invited a client to dinner and took the girl with him. During the banquet, the cousin talked with the customer, the girl could not insert a word, very embarrassed, and finally the meal was not finished, and he did not quit and said goodbye.
Since then, his cousin has never contacted her again, and he said that this incident really made him understand that the two of them are not people of the same world at all, have different insights, are difficult to integrate, and will only embarrass each other.
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Three: I am worried that there will be more conflicts involving property after marriage.
Some people say that when faced with the juggling of marriage, men are more realistic than women.
At present, many marriages and families will have a clear division of labor, such as the male owner outside, the female owner inside, the man is responsible for making money, and the woman is responsible for taking care of the family.
If the marriage is happy, then this division of labor is not inevitable.
But if the marriage is unhappy and reaches the point of divorce, then the two parties will inevitably tear up the division of property.
If the woman is given more shares, the man will feel aggrieved, thinking that the money is all earned by him, why give it to the woman in vain; at the same time, the woman is more aggrieved, sacrificing her career prospects for many years, working as a free nanny at home, why can't she share more.
Conversely, if both men and women earn equally, then when faced with property conflicts, the respective grievances of both parties are significantly less.
Once a male colleague, one of the conditions for finding a girlfriend is that the income is comparable to his, and his reason is that the equality and fairness of economic status often make the marriage and family more stable and happy.
The inequality and unfairness of economic status will give rise to many problems and contradictions, after all, "the economic base determines the superstructure."
He does not care about how much the woman's income can contribute to the family, but the pursuit of equality behind the economy and the stability of married life.
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In short, the answers of the above three men all point to a reality:
Middle- and high-income men are reluctant to marry low-income women.
There is a classic line in the movie "The King of Comedy", Yin Tianqiu said to Liu Piaopiao: "Can you not go to work?" I'll raise you!" ”
This sentence shows the hope of many women for love and marriage, hoping to meet a love that is raised by men.
Wake up! Movies are movies after all, and some quality men in reality not only expect women to go to work, but also expect her income to be as high as his.
If you want to meet better love, women must recognize the reality, improve all aspects of themselves, and make themselves better, including of course economic income.
Only when your hard conditions are superior enough, according to the law of attraction, you may be able to attract the same excellent other half.