Reader Stories:
One of my female readers, 38 years old this year. She never thought that the man who would blush and shy when he said a love word to herself would treat her coldly in marriage.
I have a cold, the other party does not care, I have encountered problems in the workplace, my husband will only say that it is because she is not capable enough, let her moan in her disease-
I thought that my husband would give him warmth, but in fact, his husband never really treated her, otherwise he would not have betrayed her, and he came together with a divorced woman in the office.
She could not eat this bowl of raw rice, and when she learned that her husband had betrayed her, she did not hesitate to choose divorce and never dragged the mud and water.
Some things, only once in a lifetime is enough, the reader also feels that after experiencing this failed marriage, I guess I have lived it like this, as I live slowly by myself, I suddenly found that the value of love and marriage is by no means the love of children, it is not you or me, and it is not for each other's physical needs.
She decided to go out and see the world, only she was highly Chinese, self-taught college graduates, passed the intermediate accountant exam, and this is only 3 years.
She did not think that fate still treated her preferentially, in a training event, she met a man who was very good to her, and her second marriage also told her that in fact, many things are worth waiting for and fighting for.
Three years after the divorce, the change of this second-married woman sounded a wake-up call for all women.
Improve self-worth, you can really meet better love
Luo Zijun in the TV series "The First Half of My Life" suffered betrayal because the gap between husband and wife was too large, so Luo Zijun resolutely chose to divorce and never agree.
After the divorce, Luo Zijun began to rely on himself, began to become mature, considered the problem more comprehensively, and the whole person also gave people a different feeling because of independence.
Excellent people will radiate brilliance and will be attractive to the opposite sex, so Luo Zijun after divorce met excellent He Han.
The reader is also, in the process of promoting herself, she met her current husband, who appreciates her independence and self-confidence, and also respects her, giving her absolute loyalty and security.
So, in the second marriage, the reader exudes happiness as a whole, and it turns out that a good marriage can really make a woman more and more beautiful.
Liao Yimei once said: "In our lifetime, it is not uncommon to encounter love and sex, but it is rare to encounter understanding. ”
The need to understand is not so easy to be satisfied, it requires us to improve ourselves first, and then on this basis, to attract people who are similar to ourselves, and then we can understand each other.
Life is constantly moving forward, so is love, when we improve our self-worth, we can really meet better love, as well as better self.
Marriage does not determine the value of a woman, self-knowledge can
Lin Huiyin said: "Every woman is a book carefully modified by God, but some women are resistant to reading, and some women have to be patient to read." ”
But no matter what, this book always has its own irreplaceable value.
Like is far more important than fit, and marriage has fallen apart, which shows that two people are not suitable, and since it is not suitable, then choose to separate, there are no other complicated factors.
No one stipulates that the value of a woman must be realized in marriage, in cooking, washing, coaxing children, to be realized in the husband and child, and in the disconnection between society and society.
In this world, a woman who can really love must be independent.
Because independence is the greatest praise that a woman can give herself, and it is also the best armor for a woman.
Why do you have to tie your values to marriage?
What makes a woman "lose" is not divorce, but self-abandonment, is that she has not realized her own value, and that she has lost herself.
In the same way, what can define a woman's value is never marriage, but the woman herself.
We think we are unique, that is unique, we think that we have come into this world to become a better version of ourselves, then don't bend the curve.
Man, only with a clear understanding will you understand what you want and will you meet a better self.
No matter what happens, confident women are the most beautiful
I've met women who, because they've had a failed marriage that makes them feel like they've been labeled as "second marriage," can't do whatever they want when choosing their other half.
When they have these thoughts, they are doomed to not be able to experience a happy ending even in their second marriage.
Because they lowered their posture early on, how could they possibly gain the respect of others?
How divorced, how about the second marriage, is just our own way of life, why should we care about what others say, what to point out?
Li Bihua said: "Often the most valuable is the one who is more silent, so why waste the posture?" Not only expensive, but also noble. ”
Although we maintain self-confidence and put time and energy on ourselves, to enhance our own value, to shape our own capital, do not be too demanding of marriage.
When we sparkle, there is no shortage of suitors, and nature can confidently choose the other half.