Many women judge whether their husbands love themselves or not in marriage, or ask "husband, do you love me" over and over again.
Either mention divorce every time you quarrel, see the other person's panicked look, and then prove that their ideas are correct, and men really care about themselves.
In fact, even if a man does not love a person in his heart, he can pretend on the surface, after all, there are many people with different hearts, who will not say a few sweet words?
Or to test the other party's bottom line, do not know that they are consuming the other party's love again and again.
Just like the story of the wolf coming, when the first and second time they said it, everyone paid special attention to it, and when they said it for the third time, everyone didn't care.
Because no one knows whether this time is true or not, whether the wolf has come or not.
Therefore, feelings cannot withstand such a temptation, and perhaps at the beginning of the temptation, they are already doomed to the end, but it is only a matter of time.
In a relationship between the sexes, to judge whether your husband really loves you, you don't need to be tempted, and it is enough to ask a question.
Judge whether your husband really loves you, just ask him questions about improving yourself
Anna in the TV series "Wang Gui and Anna" made it impossible for her to go to college due to identity problems, which is also a regret in her life.
When it was time to take the college entrance examination, Anna wanted to realize her college dream through self-study, which was a good thing, but her husband Wang Gui did not support it.
In his opinion, his wife has children, what is the use of blind tossing and turning, what is the use of going to college, it is better to have a husband and teach children at home.
When Anna was studying, Wang Gui deliberately did not look at the children, just because she did not want to study well.
It can be seen that Wang Gui does not love Anna so much.
Because to love someone, you must support each other's ideas, give each other enough spiritual encouragement, rather than disregarding them and pouring cold water.
Meng Fei once said: "In the matter of marriage, there must be love in it, and it is impossible without love." But I think that getting married can't just be because of love, but more importantly because of habit. ”
True lovers have long been accustomed to giving, like the other half can become a better version of themselves, and unconditionally support all the other party's decisions about improving themselves.
And this is the silent love of moisturizing things.
Good love must be hoping that you can be better, not break the wings
I have heard such a story before, saying that the girl plans to go to graduate school in her junior year, but the boyfriend heard it and obstructed it in every way, and even threatened that if the girl insisted on the graduate school, then the two people would break up.
The reason is very simple, because the boyfriend feels that if the girl succeeds in the graduate school, then there will be a gap in the academic qualifications of the two people, and the girl will choose a better person at that time.
What a ridiculous reason for this?
The excellence of others not only can not arouse their own fighting spirit, but also hinder others to become excellent, such a person, such a feeling, how can it be called love?
Fortunately, the girl is sober and independent, did not sacrifice herself for love, she chose to break up, and became a graduate student as she wished.
Yang Lan once said: "In the face of an ever-changing world, we must have the ability to adjust ourselves and continuously learn. If you are always solidified in a circle, life will lack a lot of fun and will lose a lot of opportunities. ”
It's there for all to see how motivated we are, and the men who love us know how important it is to make us good.
Love and non-love are obvious, which can be reflected in the details, and we should also have a ruler when running a marriage to measure each other's feelings for ourselves.
Instead of becoming a love brain, unable to distinguish priorities and priorities, unable to distinguish between priorities and priorities.
Achieving each other and growing up together is the marriage we should pursue
What kind of marriage should we pursue?
In the past, the understanding of this problem was always vague, but now it is understood that a good marriage is never a matter of stopping when the relationship is determined.
Instead, two people continue to deepen each other's feelings, achieve each other, and meet a better self in the new relationship of husband and wife.
Yang Lan once understood marriage this way: "The bond of marriage is about the common growth of the spirit. ”
Admittedly, the greatest meaning of the marriage is not to eat and drink Lasa, not today to struggle with whether you love me or not, and tomorrow because you talk to others and be unreasonable.
The greatest meaning of the marriage is to raise the grade of life together, and it is in the most helpless and weak time that there is a person who can lift our chin and straighten our spine.
Being able to have someone tell us what to do to become a better version of ourselves makes us stronger.
Couples who grow up together are true soul mates, because they are dynamic, evenly matched, and they don't feel tired because they are too strong or too weak. On the contrary, when they get along, they are particularly relaxed and harmonious, and they can naturally go long under the fullness of love.