As a parenting blogger, I often get some "complaints" from my mother: children jump up and down all day, do damage, lie after making mistakes, and so on.
Indeed, educating children is not an easy task, especially when the baby is full of "stinky diseases" and full of "little quirks", it is even more annoying, and it is impossible to suppress anger every minute.
However, if a child has similar behavior, is it really a "problem child"?
I think this is not the case, sometimes, children have some "little quirks", in fact, it is just a manifestation of high IQ, parents do not manage well, do not move, teach or not listen, it is more likely that there is a problem with the way of education.
If we can guide correctly, we don't have to worry too much and "correct" at will, but we will strangle the "genius" in the cradle.
Children like to "do damage" and should be guided rather than stopped
Last week, when she visited a friend's house, her 4-year-old son made the house "chicken fly dog jump".
The friend complained: "I don't know how the little ancestor has so much energy, all day long to do damage, a little attention, the home is about to be demolished by him." ”
After listening to my friend, I can't help but recall that when my baby was still young, there was also a handful of "bitter tears" behind her, and I wanted to do it countless times a day, but in the end I held back.
In fact, children's "destruction" is also a process of cognitive exploration of the world, which can be said to be the inevitable result of development, and has certain benefits for their hands-on ability and intellectual development.
I remember that there was a media report on such a news, There is a famous boy in Yulin, Guangxi, who has been repairing electric vehicles with his father since he was 5 years old, and when he was 10 years old, he was able to help in his uncle's shop, and many customers praised him for his good skills, and his academic performance ranked in the top 5 in the class.
Therefore, it is not important for children to "engage in destruction", the key is that parents must learn to guide, as long as the education is proper, "bear children" can also become "little geniuses" with all-round development.
Children love to talk back, and when they grow up, the advantages are obvious
In a survey called "What kind of behavior do you hate most about your child," 75 percent of parents chose to "talk back."
In the face of children's "fallacious reasoning and heresy", few parents can choose to accept it, and the first reaction of most people is to suppress.
In fact, children love to talk back, which just means that they have opinions, can think independently, have clear expression ability, and will be more independent and have critical thinking when they grow up.
When the child resists, we may wish to put away the anxious emotions first, find out the reasons behind the child's mouth, and his own thinking mode.
If the child's words are really reasonable and insightful, we do not have to hold the parent's "shelf" and apologize to the child in time.
If the child really violates the rules that must be followed, and is just "messing around", we must also explain the reason to the child clearly and immediately stop it.
All in all, children love to resist, we should not rush to suppress, the specific situation should be analyzed in detail, and many times the mouth is also an external manifestation of its "high INTELLIGENCE".
Children can lie, not necessarily "bad things"
When it is found that the child is lying for the first time, many parents will be "angry": such a young child will lie, and will it be enough to grow up in the future?
In fact, many times the child's lying is just an instinct to escape "danger", and this means that he has a strong ability to think logically.
Try to recall, when does the average child lie? Does it often happen when they make a mistake and don't want to be blamed by their parents?
When children lie, they need to use their brains, divergent thinking, and do everything possible to tell the lie more completely, and it is best to let parents with mature thinking and clear logic not find a flaw, which is itself a manifestation of intelligence.
Professor Li Kang, a child psychologist, once said: "Children who lie have more superior cognitive performance than their peers who do not lie, because lying often requires mind reading ability and control ability." ”
When the child lies, we must not be in a hurry to get angry, find out the deep reason why the child lies, and communicate well with the baby, in order to correctly guide and avoid the child from lying.
The child is a "whisperer" and tends to be smarter
In the face of children's "100,000 whys", many parents will dislike their troubles and be eager to take tape to seal their children's mouths.
In fact, the child talks a lot, and behind it reflects a comprehensive ability performance, representing the child's strong expression ability, excellent logical thinking, curiosity and so on.
Children will be clearly expressed in the problem, often they have been deep thinking, such a child, the intellectual performance is naturally not too bad.
Therefore, if the child is a "small talker", we must not feel that they are troublesome, especially when the baby is in the sensitive period of language development, we must do a good job of correct guidance.
For example, children are gushing, we should do more constructive questions, guide children to continue the topic, inspire children to think more deeply and broadly, which has certain benefits for children's intellectual development and way of thinking.
epilogue:
It is inevitable that there are some "bad habits" in every child, and parents do not have to worry too much.
If you find that children have these "little quirks", do not rush to suppress, as long as you do education and guidance, "bad things" can also become good things.