Wen | Jingma
April 30 is the International Day of No Hits, and many parents scoff at the holiday.
"Children don't fight and don't obey"!
"I can give birth to him, I can raise him, how can I not beat him"?
One story, two assumptions, three hazards, after reading it you will know if you can hit the child
★ A story
A deputy district chief in charge of education manages education himself, but for his own children's education, it is very simple and rude, children do not obey and directly beat, and their children are beaten from an early age.
And the deputy district chief in charge of education also felt that his education method was very good, and the child obeyed after a beating, and this situation reversed on a certain day in the third year of the child's junior high school.
The child entered the period of adolescence in junior high school, grew very tall, was 1 meter 75 in the third year of junior high school, and grew particularly strong, one head taller than his father.
On a certain day in the third year of junior high school, the father beat the child again, and the child suddenly began to resist, pressing the father to the ground and beating him, punching and punching, as if to return the fist that the father had hit himself from childhood to adulthood.
The child's mother was crying and shouting, and she couldn't pull it away, so she could only shout from the side, don't hit your father again!
After being beaten, the father was more obedient and obedient than his son, and he put away his bedding and went to the office for more than a month, and he did not dare to see the child.
Seeing this story, do you still dare to beat up your child casually?
Before I was volunteering at the Guangzhou Youth Psychology Association, I also took over a case, this family dad is an armed policeman, dad also brought the set of the army to the family from childhood, the child did not obey the lesson, directly started to fight.
When the child was in the second year of junior high school, he began to learn to resist, and his father was also injured a little because of his work, and he was directly beaten by the child!
As for many parents who think that they can beat their children by giving birth to their children, in fact, we can make two assumptions.
★ Two assumptions: a scenario of a assuming leader and you, and a scenario of a wife and a husband
Assume leadership and your scenario
You often arrive late and leave early and even rebel against the leader in meetings, the work is not particularly in place, your leader directly hits you, can you accept it?
If you can't accept a leader beating you, then the child can't accept you beating him either.
Suppose a scene of a wife and a husband
The wife is a full-time mother at home, all relying on the husband's salary, and the husband's basic salary is very small, mainly relying on sales performance, if you have not met the performance standard for two consecutive months, only receive the basic salary every month to go home, then your wife can beat you?
If you don't accept this kind of education method that your wife "beats", then the child will not be able to accept this kind of education method that you beat him.
★ Three hazards of hitting a child
(1) Children are often beaten and will learn to deal with things in a violent way
When a child is beaten, his adrenaline will be secreted rapidly, and a child with high adrenaline will be very irritable.
The child is beaten by his father at home, and when he goes to school, he will bully the child who is younger than himself.
If we look at the incidents of campus bullying, we will find that many of the main messengers of campus bullying are a young person at home, bullied by their parents and mothers.
(2) Children who are often beaten will become cowardly in character
Children who are often beaten do not have the ability to fight back, his personality will become very cowardly, that is, only promises, and even learn to lie, because if he does not lie, he will be beaten, so it is difficult for these children to have a job.
(3) Children who are often beaten will become very silent and have poor expression ability
Parents like to beat their children, naturally do not like to reason with their children, everything can be done without speaking, but also let the children learn this way of coping, the child's poor expression ability will also affect his interpersonal communication in adulthood.
After reading the above story, two hypotheses and three hazards, do you still dare to hit the child?
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