Last week, I went to play at my colleague Lucy's house and found that her 7-year-old boy was very obedient, especially the fact that he could help adults with housework, which made everyone envious.
When cooking, the little guy put down the toys in his hand and took the initiative to help pick vegetables; when he was about to eat, the little guy would take the initiative to help set up the dishes; after eating, he saw his grandmother washing dishes, and he would also offer to help wash the dishes, sweep the floor, etc.; when he rested, he also asked his mother if he wanted to beat his back... Oh my God, what a fairy child this is!
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Imagine that after a hard day of hard work, I suddenly feel a lot easier when I come home with such a small helper to share the housework. Therefore, a line of bao parents quickly learned the lessons: what can be done to raise children who help with housework with the same money?
Lucy replied: Where is the love to do housework! This is clearly waiting to get the money! Before said to do a housework to give 5 cents, the little guy is now enchanted, do a piece of ask once, do not give money, even the soy sauce bottle poured without a help, headache is very! Don't learn this trick.
Therefore, everyone has also fallen into a deep topic discussion, mainly around the following points.
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Should you use money to encourage your child to do housework?
In fact, it depends on the situation!
☆ Housework that is within the child's own responsibilities cannot be rewarded with money. For example, packing up their own toys, placing their own clothes, throwing their own garbage, etc., these are all things that children can do, and they are also their own things, which should be handled by their own homes. By cultivating the habit of doing things on their own, children are responsible for themselves, cultivate a sense of responsibility, and at the same time acquire basic common sense of life.
☆ Housework that falls within the scope of family responsibilities cannot be rewarded with money. For example, help your parents set up the dishes, help pick vegetables, sweep the floor, wipe the table, and so on. These are the common chores of family members, and they are the responsibilities that need to be shared, so that children can consciously participate, cultivate a sense of ownership, and learn to care, care for, and help others.
☆ Help your family to do housework, you can use money rewards. For example, helping dad wash his car. However, for this type of housework, there are also strict standards to avoid children from developing the habit of taking rewards for the purpose of doing things, but not paying attention to things. Therefore, before doing this kind of thing, you must agree to do things satisfactorily in order to get rewards. If after the housework is completed, it is necessary to return to work, etc., then also tell the child, because the mother is also involved in the labor, so the reward should also be distributed to the mother. Only when there are standards can there be challenges, and only when there are standards can we know how to cherish.
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Smart moms have the courage to let their children participate in housework
When children are still young, they seem to want to get involved in housework, because they are afraid that they will be hurt, so they often refuse their "help". Doing so ostensibly to love children is actually sending a message of "you can't do it, you can't do it." On the other hand, the child's heartfelt enthusiasm is also regarded as a "trouble". Over time, children gradually develop bad habits of not loving housework.
Turning housework into a game can also boost your child's interest. For example, playing with children to fold clothes; cooking while playing with the family; dealing with ingredients while getting to know them... Doing housework can also be a happy parent-child time.
Housework is a skill that helps children gain confidence, independence, and responsibility. But don't always use material and monetary rewards, otherwise children will learn to be more perfunctory than confident, independent and responsible.