Text/Wei Chen
The I Ching has a cloud: "A gentleman teaches as a friend." ”
What kind of friends a person has, he is very likely to become what kind of person.
The impact of friends on a person is implicit and profound, so we must not make friends with everyone.
Some people may be naturally kind and soft-hearted, as long as others take the initiative to come to the exchange, they can't bear to refuse.
In fact, this is a huge flaw, life in the world, no matter how kind you are, you must seriously consider the choice of friends.
A person who does not know how to refuse often has his life out of control.
Rejecting others is not a difficult thing, life is made up of many choices, and everyone has the right to choose their connections.
A person's circle of friends will inevitably determine the future direction of this person. If you want to control the direction of your life, you must know how to reject people who are "different".
For many people, as long as someone visits, the other party is a guest.
To be a person, you must have the most basic courtesy, which is the most basic courtesy. However, some guests should not be treated too politely, and if the other party does not know how to restrain, the host must take the initiative to refuse.
For a normal person, home is the most important base. The friends who can take them home are certainly not ordinary friends.
As the saying goes, people's hearts are separated from their stomachs. People who don't understand can never take them home.
No matter how kind and sincere you are, you can't be defenseless.
The world will never be as good as we expect, and the relationship between people will not be as trustworthy as agreed.
People in middle age must understand that some guests are not allowed to enter the house and must refuse.
A wine and meat friend who does not do business
Wine and meat friends can not be made, this is not a prejudice against "wine and meat friends", but they will really affect a person's normal life.
Drinking and accompanying alcohol is no stranger to most people, and getting together to eat is a way to socialize and a means of social interaction.
It's just that these friends are only suitable for entertaining outside, not suitable for being brought home.
The environment of drinking and punching is inevitably miasma, and even some people will gaffe and say some unpleasant topics after drinking.
Home is a very private place for a person, no matter how good the relationship and deep friendship between friends at the dinner table, cannot be invited to the home, not to mention that some people are not doing their jobs.
Friends who drink meat do not enter the house, and when they enter the house, they will have endless troubles.
People with negative energy
Life is not long, we must stay away from those who are full of negative energy.
As the old saying goes, "Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black." "If a person wants to live a good life, he must be positive, not only to be positive, but also to be discouraged by the friends around him."
People with negative energy are always complaining, life is often unsatisfactory for them, and everything they see in their eyes is unpleasant.
Making friends with such people for a long time, the mood will inevitably become heavy.
At the same time, such friends can not be led to the home, they have become accustomed to criticism, it is inevitable that after entering the home, they will point fingers at the family environment and family members.
At the same time, people with a bad mentality can't see others well, if you think that the environment in your home is very good, you can't invite people with negative energy into the home.
They will not be moved by the beautiful environment, but will complain about the injustice of fate.
A single member of the opposite sex who behaves weirdly
After starting a family, people must stay away from the single opposite sex who behaves strangely. No matter how the other party shows kindness, you must stick to your bottom line and don't be biased.
A single opposite sex who behaves strangely and speaks ambiguously and is full of temptations is absolutely not allowed to enter the house.
They will not only make your marriage partner resentful, but they will also affect the harmony of the family and the normal judgment of things.
Single members of the opposite sex who behave strangely are mostly prepared.
If you do not take precautions in advance, make a decision on the spot, resolutely refuse, and if you are not careful, you will be calculated by the other party and fall into a dilemma.
Life is so long, it is true that you need one or two confidants, but it is best not to be a confidant of the opposite sex.
Rejecting a single opposite sex who behaves strangely is an attitude towards one's own life and is also responsible for one's family.
People with eyes full of interests
There is a cloud in the "History of History": "The world is bustling, all are for profit, and the world is bustling, all are for profit." From ancient times to the present, interests have been a topic that cannot be escaped.
The interaction between people is essentially an exchange of interests.
It's just that some people are more interest-oriented, some people are more emotional. Those who are serious about love will not see profit and forget righteousness, and those who value profit will often do whatever it takes.
Don't let people with a lot of interest come to your home at any time and under any circumstances.
In their eyes there is no friendship but value, and anything will be converted into cash value.
If you invite people with a lot of interests to your home, they will inevitably feel worried about things that do not belong to them.
If a family is remembered by those who have evil intentions, disasters will be an unprepared problem.
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About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
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