This article is reproduced from: Central Committee of the Communist Youth League
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Sunday, April 24, 2022
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Once my son saw a kissing scene on TV and asked us, "Is mom and dad like this too?" ”
I replied to him, "Yeah, that's how people who love each other are." ”
"Then kiss one now." Son said.
"This is the privacy of adults." But to show affection, we hugged a little. The children also ran over and the whole family huddled together.
Only to find out that we had not hugged in front of our children for a long time. We are so busy growing up and so busy with our parenting that we forget this simplest form of emotional expression.
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The gentleman told us about his past, a story about hugging.
He has four brothers and sisters, and he is ranked young and old. In their hearts, the father is the authority of the family, strict and rigid, and never relaxes in the education of his children.
The brothers and sisters were obedient, good at studying, but the first most disobedient, fighting, tired of learning, was the famous "child king" at that time, and he was not less scolded by his father.
The gentleman was not afraid of heaven, he was afraid of his father. After each scolding, he would hold the family dog and cry secretly. Later, when he grew up and began to understand things, he wanted to prove to his father that he was okay.
In the days of preparing for the college entrance examination, he worked extra hard and was finally admitted to college.
On the first holiday of school in Guangzhou, my husband wanted to go home, but at that time, communication was not so developed, so he did not inform his family, and he took the bus back home by himself.
At that time, it took seven or eight hours to go home, and when I got home, it was already dusk. When the whole family saw the husband return, they all cheered in surprise.
Sir said: "When my father saw me, he stood up excitedly from his chair, and an arrow rushed over, suddenly hugged me, hugged me tightly, patted me on the shoulder and said, boy, come back!" ”
Growing up, it was the first hug he felt from his father. Immediately he was in tears, belated embraces, and the smell of fatherly love. Just a hug, all the grievances and resentments of the father's majesty, were reconciled at this moment.
The gentleman said that in the past, he always felt that his father did not love him, and later he learned that there were people in the world who did not love their children, but parents sometimes did not know how to express it.
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It just so happened that my fifth-grade daughter was in the exploration class "How to Express Yourself", and the teacher invited me to share a little with the children, and I decided to talk about the theme of "Hug" to the children in my daughter's class.
Before I spoke to the children, I asked the children, "Do you hug your family very often today?" ”
Only a few children said yes, and most of them shook their heads.
"What's it like to hug your family?" I asked.
Some children say "warm", some say "soft", and many children say "don't know".
I told the children about my husband's embrace.
At the end of the story I said, "Children, if we have love, we have to say it, we have to express it." We need the love of mom and dad, mom and dad actually need our confession, we will take the initiative to hug our families in the future. ”
The children listened attentively and felt like they were listening.
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That night, my daughter pestered me to sleep with her, and I hugged her, only to find that as she grew older, I held her less and less.
That night, I told her stories and stroked her back, as she had when she had coaxed her to sleep as a child, and she had told me many secrets that I had not heard her tell before.
No amount of preaching is better than the intimate communication brought about by a hug.
Today, as parents, we do not lack the source of knowledge to obtain parenting, do not lack the sense of responsibility to cultivate children, and do not lack love for children.
We hold them when they are young, love to let go, but as the children grow up day by day, we are eager to pass on our experience to them, eager to point out a future path for them, but there are fewer and fewer skin kisses, maybe we feel that they have grown up, do not need to hug, in fact, no matter what age, including lovers, our parents, we need it, will feel its warmth and love energy.
If you haven't hugged your loved ones in a long time, start this simple action today.
If you're not used to it, it doesn't matter, it can be an appreciative look, a clap of the heart, a small nod of understanding.
These are worth a thousand words.