It is not easy to meet a favorite feeling, but is it active or silently waiting in the face of feelings?
Some people say that even if they like it, but the other party does not show it, it will not be easy to open their mouths.
Some people say that they will take the initiative at the beginning, but if the other party has someone they like, they will not continue.
Others say that feelings should be proactive, otherwise you may miss a person you love very much, and if you miss it, there will be no more.
So in the face of feelings, take the initiative to attack, fight quickly, or silently observe and slowly transition?
People who have not been hurt may be brave in the face of love, because even if they refuse, it is the first time, they can still believe that they will have a sweet love.
But it's hard to say who has been injured.
If a person is emotionally hurt, she is likely to close her heart first.
In the last relationship, she must have unreservedly loved each other, trusted each other, full of hope for the future, originally thought that she would get good feelings, and the people she liked were white-headed.
But unexpectedly, her enthusiasm not only did not exchange for reciprocal love, but gave the other party the right to hurt her.
She didn't understand what she had done wrong, why should she be hurt like this?
She also didn't understand how to trust other people in the future.
Because her sincerity cannot withstand repeated injuries, she may have emotional closures in order to avoid being hurt herself.
Closing her heart and no longer being open to people may not have emotional joy, but for her, she is also free from emotional hurt and pain.
Some people said that the injury did not take the initiative, what a pity.
But people who have been hurt know that kind of pain, pain through the heart, a big blow to your life, even the collapse of faith, you don't know why it was you who was hurt.
You only know that this kind of injury cannot be alleviated for a long time, as short as half a year, as long as a few years.
You don't want to get stuck in yourself again, hurt again, because it's unbearable for you.
You also don't know if the people you meet in the future are necessarily the right people, and what if they are wrong?
Because you don't know how you have to change to meet the right person, you feel that you have tried your best, and if that is the case, it can only be left undesirable.
After all, a person can also be very happy.
When a person's previous experience of feelings is too disappointed, they will unconsciously turn on the protection mode, afraid of paying too much to experience the pain of the past again.
Injured people often use laughter and big grins to hide the hurt in their feelings, or withdraw, such self-protection is believed to be something that many people will have.
It takes a lot of courage to go out again for love and overcome past hurts.
After all, only the love that rushes to each other will make people feel at ease and not take the initiative.
And people who have been hurt before, because they are afraid of being hurt, they would rather miss it.
Because they have such a thought in their hearts, the love that was once so beautiful but finally came to an end, if so, it is better not to have it at the beginning.
But such an attitude can also be called responsible, after all, in this impetuous society, in this era of love that can survive for half a year and feel that it is not easy, it is always right to be cautious.
Avoiding fast-food relationships with more thought may make it easier for us to be happy in our relationships.