Marriage is like water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
In a marriage, whether men and women are happy or not, and whether they feel that the effort is worthwhile, probably only she herself knows.
Princess Mako of the Japanese royal family has been married for some time and has also started working in the United States. Just a few days ago, a photo of her going to work was posted on the Internet:
Black knitwear, blue straight jeans, black flat shoes, the same black shawl long hair, this state is ordinary to grounded.
However, having seen the big world, and accustomed to the reporter's follow-up, he walked all the way with the wind, confident and dashing.
It seems that the middle time in New York is not at all tied up like the Japanese imperial family, and the fast and steady small steps come out of her own voice: I work hard and are happy, I am married to love, very content.
Well, it is. Before, for the sake of marriage, Mako did not suffer less. After years of suffering, it has become a headache for the outside world and the royal family.
Of course, she herself was forced by this anxiety, and eventually suffered from traumatic stress disorder.
This is a very terrible mental illness, which will not only cause great anxiety and uneasiness in the hearts of sick people, but also affect their life's work, study, interpersonal relationships and so on.
In fact, this disease comes from the oppression and suffering of the external environment, it is not easy to get it, it is not easy to be truly cured, even under the normal environment, it is also very likely that the recurrence of the disease will occur.
Perhaps because of this, Noriko firmly married her daughter to Kei Komuro, not for the royal wedding, without the status of a princess, not even for the dowry.
All netizens are almost one-sided: real silly girls, fight like this for love, you will regret it.
However, Makoko herself is content. A person gets married in a car, a person takes a taxi back to his mother's house, a person goes abroad with her husband, and then a person walks to work. This is clearly a state of sentient drinking and fullness, and the outside world has nothing to say, right?
But in fact, whether Mako's life is good or not, the outside world can guess a few points.
For example, her current job, although it is taking the road of art, is also in line with her study major.
But now she is still in the internship period, just let her name appear in the official website of the museum in the list of personnel, as for the previously agreed position of the director of a certain museum area, it has not yet been seen.
And we can also see from her dress that this laid-back style is definitely not the identity of sitting behind a large desk. Instead, small flats are more of a convenient option for getting to and from places.
Of course, we do not rule out the trend of the wind of True Son's art, after all, for an artist, self, lightness, and freedom are beautiful.
However, Makoko's efforts to fight for her career seem to have a pain that is not known to the outside world: she must fight so hard for the future life, even if the psychological illness is always there.
The reason, of course, came from Kei Komuro, who was a spit on the donkey, and did not pass the second bar exam.
The first time said it was too hurriedly prepared, and the second time? Still not ideal.
Kei Komuro is currently interning at a law firm in New Jersey because he is not yet qualified to be a lawyer and earns only 6 million yen a year as an assistant.
Some people say that this is not a lot, 6 million yen is equivalent to 300,000 yuan. However, this income is stretched thin for a small family in the United States.
First of all, the little couple has three meals a day, which is a big expense.
The biggest problem for foreigners: renting a house accounts for all of Komuro's income: the monthly rent is 31,000 yuan.
Does this mean that if Kei Komuro is in charge of the rent, he will have to drink the wind? Don't talk about raising a family and raising a wife, I'm afraid I can't support myself.
Therefore, the place where life is sufficient can only be balanced by Mako's income and her own wealth.
Although Mako did not ask for the dowry of the royal family, she should have a lot of savings, and her parents would also help her, which is the value of the princess.
The Japanese people directly refer to Kei Komuro as a "soft rice man", which is probably not out of thin air, but if he works hard and successfully obtains a lawyer qualification certificate, his life will be more relaxed.
Of course, the lack of money is still one aspect.
The point is that Kei Komuro is currently an assistant, and his hope of continuing to stay in the United States is hanging in the air: he will not be able to get a visa to legally stay in the United States without a judicial examination certificate.
You see, it's hard to stay in the United States, let alone live in the United States. Naturally, Kei Komuro lost again, saying goodbye to the judicial examination certificate with dignity.
Fortunately, Mako had already prepared for entering the museum as an artist.
Because according to U.S. law, foreigners with outstanding abilities in science, academia, education, and business, or athletes, can get a qualified residency visa: an "O-1" visa.
Mako herself studied fine arts, and later studied in the United Kingdom, where she also studied art museums and gallery studies, and obtained a master's degree.
That is to say, as soon as Mako entered the workforce, she had a legal status in the United States. Kei Komuro naturally has a reason to stay in the United States because of Mako.
In this marriage, we seem to see that Kei Komuro is the person who has been relying on but has never seen results.
Going abroad depends on the strength of the royal family, marriage depends on the princess's insistence, after marriage to stay in the United States or rely on the wife, this soft rice to eat, quite delicious, right?
But what Komuro Kei doesn't know is that although Mako seems to be very happy in this marriage, the actual pressure is still very large.
In addition to his failure to pass the exams, the relationship between his parents was also greatly affected by their marriage.
Because Noriko supported Mako to marry Kei Komuro, she is now being sprayed by the Japanese media as useless: there is a problem with the way of education, and there is a problem with the family business...
For this reason, Noriko can not get the support of her husband's platform, but also suffers from the outside world's insults, and the taste in her heart can be imagined. Therefore, her relationship with Wenren has reached the most critical moment: they have not had a conversation together for many days.
However, Kei Komuro wore small pigtails, wore a suit, and swore an oath to the outside world: "No, I will never cut my hair when I take the exam!"
You can grow a snack and force this good princess into something!
You see, Mako looks calm and idyllic, as if she were living in true love.
But in fact, there are many bad things. It's just that she can't let herself relax now, otherwise everything she has already gained will be in vain.
However, this marriage seems to be her alone in the effort, how long can it last? Don't forget that she is still a patient and is likely to come back again because of new stress!