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Friendships between children are very easy to build, a sharing of candy, a toy that interests each other, and maybe a good pair of friends. However, children's friendships also do not stand the test, and sometimes in the blink of an eye, they change from good friends to "enemies".
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Mingming is 4 years old, in kindergarten, is a lively and cheerful little boy. Lang Lang is also a child in this class, and the family conditions are very good, that is, people are a little domineering.
He brought a toy airplane that his mother had bought for him and played with the children on the grass. Playing and playing, Lang Lang cried loudly, and it turned out that one side of the plane's wings fell off, and it broke.
Lang Lang said to the teacher, "It was the plane that was obviously broken, and I saw him throw the plane out with great force, and it must have been too much force to break it." "This is a simple model of the plane, and the teacher didn't care too much, so he put the plane into the child's school bag and told him to go home and let his father fix it for you."
As a result, that night, Lang Lang's mother called the teacher and said: "Our aircraft model is imported from abroad, and it cost more than 1,000 yuan to buy it. ”
The teacher was also stunned, and she did not expect that an airplane model would be so expensive. The teacher contacted Mingming's mother, and Mingming's mother was also surprised that her son actually broke into trouble.
Mom was about to criticize the education, but Grandma said: "What the hell is going on with this matter, we don't know very well, or look at the surveillance video." ”
After watching the surveillance video, it was the plane that Ming Ming and Lang Lang threw out together and hit the stones in the courtyard. Grandma Ming went to the kindergarten to find a teacher, and Lang Lang's mother also met. She said to Lang Lang's mother: "Since it is two children playing with the broken plane, then buy a new one, I will go with you to buy, how much money, one person can take half." ”
Finally, Grandma took the broken airplane model, went to the toy super and bought an identical one, only spent more than a hundred dollars, and gave it back to Lang Lang. Lang Lang's mother did not have the good sense to accept it, and said that she only said those words when she was angry for a while.
Kindergarten teachers generally tell their children that children are not allowed to bring their own home toys when they come to kindergarten. On the one hand, kindergartens have toys for children to play with, and another reason is that children will regret giving each other toys, and breaking the toys will cause disputes.
Children will have a lot of contradictions, and it is not conducive to the unity and fraternity of children.
There are also parents who are very distressed, although their children do not bring toys to kindergarten, but they often have conflicts with other children and sometimes they are bullied. Children go to kindergarten not to learn much cultural knowledge, but to learn how to get along with people outside the family. Especially in some families, the children are only children, and the interpersonal skills are relatively poor.
When the child has a conflict with the child in the kindergarten, the parent guides the child to deal with it well, which is the opportunity to exercise the child's interpersonal relationship.
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Children have conflicts with children in kindergartens, and we parents should not come forward without coming forward
What if my child is being bullied outside? This is something that many parents will be more worried about. When my son was in kindergarten, I often asked him, "Did anyone in kindergarten bully you?" "When the child came home and told me that I had a quarrel with the child today, I also quickly called the teacher.
However, later I found out that as soon as the child had a problem, he would look for his mother, even if there was something in the kindergarten, he did not dare to tell the teacher, go home to find the mother, the mother and then find the teacher, forming such a cycle.
There are teachers in kindergartens, and what happens to children in kindergartens should be handled by teachers, and parents should try not to come forward. When the child comes home and the mother says, the mother should also teach the child to go to the teacher to feedback the problem and let the teacher help solve it.
After such exercise, children can learn to find people outside the family to help solve problems on their own, and they can gradually learn to deal with problems on their own.
Children sometimes lie, and parents should understand the true situation of their children and deal with conflicts between children fairly
Children don't lie, sometimes they do. Some parents always center their children and think that their children are always right. If parents are always partial to their children, children may establish wrong values, become more and more ignorant, and go in the wrong direction of growth.
When we understand the truth of the matter, we should treat the child's problem more fairly. If the child is at fault, seriously review his mistakes, and then apologize to others and correct his mistakes. If the child is wronged, the parents should also stand with the child and let the child know that the parents are your eternal backing.
Conflicts between children are the most normal things, and parents must have a normal heart
If you've seen how kindergarten kids get along every day, you won't take to heart the little conflict that happens between your kids. The children were arguing three minutes ago and reconciled again three minutes later.
Children get along with each other little by little in this kind of division and integration, and then they can establish a harmonious friendship. Therefore, parents should not pay too much attention to the small friction between children.
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