Unexpectedly, Qin Hao played the "scumbag" again?
The recent hit family drama " Dear Child " , have you all watched it?
As soon as this drama came out, the ratings of the whole network soared to the first.
It's a story about those chickens and dogs in marriage.
Pregnant wife Fang Yinuo (Ren Suxi) is lecturing in class when the amniotic fluid suddenly breaks and is rushed to the hospital for delivery. However, during childbirth, her husband Xiao Lu (Qin Hao) was unexpectedly absent, laying the foundation for the subsequent marital contradictions.
The arrival of the newborn and the joint intervention of both parents have led to major family conflicts between the anxious wife and the irreconcilable husband, and finally with the husband's drunken cheating, the marriage has come to an end.
Years later, they had reorganized their new families, but their daughter Hehe was diagnosed with leukemia during an illness.
In order to match their daughters with bone marrow, they are faced with the difficult choice of whether to have another common child to save their daughters.
When "Dear Child" first aired, it was actually very controversial.
Because it integrates most of the contradictions that a couple may have in the marriage into the play.
For example, the helplessness and weakness of the mother when giving birth to a child makes many people say that they are afraid to have a child after watching it.
As well as during confinement, the contradiction between husband and wife, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the contradiction between in-laws... It erupted almost simultaneously, obscuring the joy of the advent of new life.
Therefore, some media have questioned: it is suspected of selling anxiety in order to attract attention.
But at the same time, more different voices burst out:
It is believed that literary and artistic works are mirror images and purification of real life, and film and television dramas do not avoid contradictions in real life, but refract life.
Needless to say, the plot of the first few episodes is indeed suffocating and anxious.
But the root cause of all this is the husband who is used to "and thin mud" in the play- Xiao Lu.
Qin Hao, who has a strong desire to survive, also issued a "drama watching tip" on Weibo: during the watching of the drama, male compatriots should introspect their deficiencies, and female compatriots should maintain physical and mental pleasure.
There is one thing to say, Qin Hao is really excellent, and Xiao Lu is also a real scum.
【1】
As an audience, the reason why there are "suffocation", "uneasiness" and "anxiety" when chasing the drama is actually because the contradictions it presents are too real.
It is precisely because of the truth that there will be a sense of resonance.
As far as the previous plot is concerned, almost everyone can find the corresponding archetype in real life.
They are not perfect, but they are incredibly real.
For example, the mother-in-law who is conservative and careless in the concept of parenting.
The daughter-in-law has just given birth to a child, and in addition to worrying about the placenta, she came to the delivery room and focused on the child, ignoring the needs of the mother.
While agreeing to quit smoking with children, he couldn't help but secretly smoke;
He also let the child fall off the stroller due to poor supervision.
But she didn't deliberately make it bad, she just used her limited life experience to run her life and take care of the children the way she had done before.
Moreover, when the two children decide to divorce, she will talk to her daughter-in-law with her heart and lungs, and she will be distressed that she is about to face the dilemma of single parents with a baby;
When she learned that her granddaughter was seriously ill, she would rush to the hospital in a hurry to match the child, and she could not help but secretly visit the child.
In the play, there is also a strong wife.
Some people say that the reason why this marriage is dying out, Yinuo's personality should account for a large factor.
She has a strong personality and is always used to blaming others.
As long as Xiao Lu came home late after working overtime, she would complain to him like criticizing her own students, lacking understanding and understanding.
In addition, she was also overly anxious, and after inviting the sister-in-law, she was suspicious of the behavior of the sister-in-law;
After the mother-in-law came over, she has also been spying on whether the mother-in-law has secretly smoked.
In addition, she is particularly strong, and everyone around her must do what she wants, otherwise she will lose her temper.
Indeed it is.
But personality factors aside, as a mother who has just experienced childbirth, postpartum depression, anxiety, and irritability are extremely common phenomena.
The most effective "prescription" that can alleviate her "illness" is a reliable husband, but Xiao Lu is not.
Yes, she has a husband who can't figure it out.
【2】
Admittedly, everyone is imperfect, but the husband's "imperfection" is fatal.
To be fair, Xiao Lu is not bad.
He will often massage his wife's back during pregnancy, and will try to coax her when she is angry;
When his wife is anxious due to jaundice, he will ask his wife's girlfriend to come and help channel emotions;
After working all night, he still dutifully took his children out to get vaccinated;
They will also slap themselves in chagrin after the two have completed the divorce procedures...
But his biggest problem is that when facing contradictions, he is accustomed to "thin mud".
The script rubs the characteristics of an "unclear" husband into his soul.
Every family, more or less, can see the shadow of the ordinary "husband" on Xiao Lu.
In the play, Yinuo was urgently admitted to the hospital because the amniotic fluid was broken.
However, during the period of waiting for delivery, Xiao Lu was urged to work overtime by his superiors, because his wife had not given birth for a while and a half, and he chose to rush home to work overtime.
It is undeniable that in reality, many times there are dilemmas on the road of spending time with family and juggling careers.
But what is infuriating is that after the overtime, Xiao Lu did not rush back to the hospital to accompany the delivery at the first time, but chose to drink at home and watch the ball game to relieve the pressure in his heart.
Later, Yinuo went through all the hardships to give birth to the child, and Xiao Lu, who had just arrived at the hospital, did not wait in front of the delivery room.
The doctors and nurses could not help but say a few words of blame in the face of the disappearance of their husbands.
At this moment, what is Xiao Lu doing?
He actually took the placenta that had just been produced with the child and handed it to his mother, because the mother told him that the placenta should be taken back to repair Xiao Lu's brother.
While helplessly handing over the placenta, he told his mother to keep it a secret, and it was obvious that he himself thought it was done outrageously.
During Yinuo's confinement, after his sister-in-law did not quit, he first invited his mother to take care of Yinuo and the child.
In the process of getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there are contradictions caused by different parenting and living habits.
In the face of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he should have been the core mediator, but he once chose the way of concealment, flickering and evasion, which aggravated the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and also increased the contradiction between husband and wife.
Seeing that the family was chaotic into a pot of porridge, he simply went home late on the grounds of overtime, and when he got home, he rested on time and posed with a helpless "what can I do".
The most outrageous thing is that because of the alcohol accident, he has a one-year relationship with a girl who has a crush on him.
Although this was not his intention, the unexpected infidelity also directly exacerbated the demise of the marriage.
A girl who loves a year, makes a big fuss at the child's first birthday party.
When his battered wife accepted his apology and was ready to forgive him, he could not withstand the girl's pleas and went to see her again for the so-called goodbye.
All of this was seen by the wife who followed him, which also led to the inability to keep the marriage.
After watching the plot of the first half, it is really emotional.
When a woman enters marriage and becomes a wife and mother, she seems to grow up overnight, and the mother is just as strong;
But when an unprepared man enters into marriage and becomes a husband and father, he does not necessarily mature and sensible immediately.
Women seem to be born mothers, while men learn how to be fathers.
Therefore, whether a marriage is happy or not, it is particularly important to choose the right man.
【3】
Looking back at the last marriage of Yinuo, there are actually many details that are worth avoiding and improving outside the screen.
For example, Yinuo felt that Xiao Lu was not strong in taking care of the child, so he simply let yue's sister-in-law live in his bedroom and drove him out.
In doing so, it is invisibly to let the sister-in-law take over the child-rearing function as a husband and father, so that he cannot experience the hardships of countless nights when his wife takes care of the children.
Later, because Yinuo was not at ease with her mother-in-law with her children, she let her mother-in-law also come to take care of them together, which deprived her husband of the opportunity to learn to become a qualified father, and shifted her husband's energy from sharing childcare to endlessly mediating the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and relatives.
She is used to being strong and blamed, never showing weakness and relying on her husband, even if she is about to give birth, she will pretend to be able to carry it, let Xiao Lu go back to work overtime, so that her husband can't feel the sense of accomplishment that he is needed.
It can be seen that no matter how busy and tired, couples must also take time to communicate.
Communication can reduce a lot of ineffective sacrifices, adjust the state of both parties, let the other party understand their own demands, and can also make themselves better understand each other's difficulties.
Fortunately, after the divorce, Yinuo once again gained true happiness.
Xie Tianhua, who had always guarded her and was more gentle and delicate to her, tolerated her strength and healed her anxiety.
But not every woman can be lucky to meet "Xie Tianhua" who can save herself.
Love is love, marriage is marriage.
What breaks the marriage of ordinary people is often those complicated chickens and dogs.
Therefore, before deciding to enter into marriage, it is equally important to choose a good partner or to run a marriage.
I hope that when you understand, it is not too late.