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Studies have shown that the language area of the early brain of boys develops much later than that of girls, and girls have language skills that are already available at the age of three and a half, and boys cannot have them until they are about five years old.
In addition to the brain development later than girls, boys' psychological age will be smaller, puberty is later, and most of the boys are more energetic and playful, which further affects the psychological maturity time.
When it comes to boys' high energy, I think parents feel the most. Families with boys are indispensable to jump and fight every day, and from time to time they will be "possessed by heroes", in short, where there are boys, they will be noisy.
A treasure mother showed her daily life with her son, although it was to play with her son, but her son was full of victory and defeat, and there was no weight to his mother.
The mother does not want to hurt the son, but the son is "fatal", and the mother can only use the quilt and pillow to try to reduce the impact from the son. Although the mother barely subdued her son, the little one still had endless strength.
For children in this period, it is very fortunate to have parents to play with them, but for parents, children are not serious about their own hands, but they will "suffer".
How to alleviate this situation and how to "live in peace" with boys needs to be understood by parents.
Why do boys like to fight? How should parents deal with fights between boys?
First: physiological hormones determined
The testosterone in boys is the cause of their energy, hyperactivity and mania, and around the age of 4, the testosterone in boys will suddenly increase to twice as much as before.
Then, the boys at this stage will become very naughty, like to play and compete, and no matter how tired and hard the parents are, the boys will always be as energetic and energetic as perpetual motion machines.
Second: the psychology of "worshipping heroes"
Because they are active and aggressive, boys are easy to worship heroes, and like to imitate their favorite characters, more interested in the exciting scenes of fights, satisfying their worship of heroes in fighting, and finding their own unique fun.
Third: Boys develop more physically than language
Compared earlier, boys always develop their language later than girls, but boys' limbs develop more quickly.
Therefore, they do not like to express things in words, but are good at solving them with their limbs, in which case boys are more likely to fight or really have physical conflicts and contradictions.
In general, the fights between boys are evenly matched, through the body movements to release energy, social, so as long as the child's fight is not aggressive and harmful, parents do not have to participate in it, let the boy get along in his own way is not bad.
Use the slapstick game to unleash the boy's exuberant energy
Boys are really energetic in this area of playing, and if you want to get a quiet boy, you must consume his energy, and here is a recommended "pillow war" game for parents of boys at home.
This is a very common "slapstick" game, with little damage, low cost, but very effective.
To use this game to consume the child's energy, it is best for parents to take turns, pick up the pillow at home and the boy "attack" each other, the mother has no strength to change the father, in short, two people must accompany the child to play until there is no strength, the energy is consumed, and the negative emotions and pressure can also be effectively released.
Playing games are very effective for energetic boys, but parents should also set rules in advance, such as attack weapons can only be pillows, can not scratch people, bite behavior, let children understand the concept of the game, do not because of the desire to win and lose the game as violence.
The physical composition and psychological development of boys and girls are inherently very different, and in the process of education and guidance, we must also pay attention to methods, and cannot be generalized.